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Reblog if trans men are REAL, VALID AND HANDSOME MEN, NO MATTER HOW THEY CHOOSE TO PASS
Reblog if trans women are REAL, VALID, AND BEAUTIFUL WOMEN, NO MATTER HOW THEY CHOOSE TO PASS
And finally, because it's a part of my argument for this point, and also because they are,
Reblog if nonbinary and genderqueer people in general, are REAL, VALID, AND GORGEOUS PEOPLE, NO MATTER HOW THEY PASS
[ID: a TikTok by josie_irl, a thin east asian woman with shoulder length straight blonde hair, and black eyeliner, wearing a white shirt with a flower and cursive on it. on screen is a screenshot of a TikTok comment:
"Reply to cosmicallyv\'s comment
I had it muted and when I turned up the volume I was SHOCKED"
Josie is looking at the camera, smiling, and saying in a medium high voice: "it's been a hot second so let me remind y'all"
in a much deeper voice she says:
"one I'm a natural baritone
two, trans women's voices do not change on hormones
and any changes to my voice are from effort and practice
three, if you do not choose to change your voice that does not invalidate your gender at all
and four, women with deep voices are undeniably sexy
have a nice day"
end ID]
that’s me!
[ID: A screenshot of a hashtag that says "is this the woman from 'skirt go spinny'" End ID]
(a genderfluid and transgender pride flags, each with the same text. The text reads "gender fluidity is a real and valid experience")
(Image description: four pansexual pride flags with text. Text reads: "That you exist is proof enough that you deserve to be here. Your presence alone is undeniable evidence that you belong in this world. Your worth is inherent and you are already worthy of a good life. Without your existence the world would be lacking in something truly rare.")
Cis people don’t have to deal with someone repeatedly shouting, “Is that a man or a woman!?” at them at work. I envy that.
@felalalieisafeminist said: I don't like this one much cuz it's not really true. Maybe for Cis people who LOOK cis. But you're discounting a lot of POC cis women who are hairy or just big, who get mis-gendered all the time.
You know what, that’s fair. I’ll amend it to this.
I envy people who don’t have to deal with someone repeatedly shouting, “Is that a man or a woman!?” at them at work.
The narrative that a "real" trans person would have shown "signs" of being trans at a young age really needs to die. How do you even measure that? A lot of kids didn't have the opportunity to experiment outside of assigned gender roles, sometimes because they didn't know it was a possibility, sometimes because they weren't allowed to. Even if a child expressed discomfort in their assigned gender, a parent or other adult may have forced them to suppress it, or may deny that it ever happened at all. A good number of trans people also lean heavily into gender stereotypes and gender norms prior to coming out in attempt to suppress it themselves, even if no one in their life has forced them to do so. Also...people change. Gender can be fluid. Maybe as a kid you felt content with your assigned gender at birth, but grew uncomfortable with it as you grew older. There is no way to measure or prove that someone is trans.
Daily reminder that nonbinary people who don’t want any sort of transition and are comfortable with looking like their agab are valid and it doesn’t make them any less nonbinary
hey shout out of recognition and validation to all the queer people who didn’t exhibit many queer behaviors or have queer many experiences when they were young!! shout out to trans women and trans men who didn’t feel bad about or uncomfortable with their AGAB when they were younger and didn’t gravitate toward the “opposite side of things”. shout out to nonbinary and genderfluid ppl who felt content with their AGAB all of their childhood or even teen years. shout out to lesbians who didn’t have any crushes on girls growing up and liked traditionally feminine things and shout out to gay men who didn’t have any crushes on boys growing up and liked traditionally masculine things. shout out to bi and pan and omni people who only had hetero attractions growing up. shout out to aros and aces who thought they experienced crushes or attraction or whatever while growing up and didn’t feel excluded by being surrounded by allo people. shout out to literally any queer people who didn’t “show the signs” growing up because that can make you feel invalidated or worried that you’re faking it and you shouldn’t feel worried about that! When we say that everyone’s journey and experience is different, that includes you!! Happy pride month <3
[image id: a news story cover with a picture of two elderly gay men. the headline reads “does kink belong at pride? we asked lgbt elders and they asked if we were cops”]
less “if you see a man and woman together at pride be nice! they could be bi/pan/trans/ace/aro” and more “stop gendering strangers to harass them anywhere, but especially at pride holy shit”
you know what? i want this to reach the people who do this– especially the ones claiming to support trans folk (usually in really hollow ways lol i’m not bitter). keep reblogging– i want this sentiment to be widespread and for people to stop gendering strangers! especially in explicitly LGBTQ+ spaces!
“No cops at Pride” includes you, you gatekeeping little demons. You aren’t there to police who “looks right” or who seems like they’re “allowed to be there”. Just don’t fucking harass strangers, it’s not that hard.
ppl post this sort of positivity that’s like “bi ppl w a preference for women are valid bi ppl w a preference for men are valid” and yeah sure but also, hyperanalyzing your bisexuality is not necessary. the fact that you’ve dated or liked or slept w more men or more women doesn’t have to say anything abt your bisexuality. your bisexuality does not have to be measured and counted and have a pie diagram showing gender percentages. you can just be bisexual
I will just say that the reason for this is how often bi people are told that if they have any preference towards one gender or another, if their history trends one way or another, if there’s anything but utter mathematical equality in their bisexuality, they are NOT allowed to call themselves bisexual.
This was the EXPLICIT way this was explained to me by members of the queer community 20+ years ago and if it wasn’t for posts like the ones referenced, I’d never have developed the courage to start openly calling myself bi.
So no, hyperanalyzing your bisexuality isn’t necessary at all, but unfortunately other people tend to do it for you.
I also really appreciated posts like that because of (1) the fact that I experience attraction differently depending on the person's gender kept me from realizing my bisexuality for YEARS because I was expecting them to feel exactly the same, and (2) even once I accepted they wouldn't necessarily feel the same, I mostly saw posts yukking it up about how being a bisexual woman meant you were attracted to every real woman but only fictional men.
like asexuality, bisexuality is very easy to mistake for other things, and there's a lot of misinformation about it floating around, so having lots of different kinds affirmatively discussed is really helpful!
You can't debate my identity. I exist with or without your opinion.
btw people with fluid/fluctuating genders who's pronouns don't change are so fucking rad i love you <33
All nonbinary people are valid.
It doesn't matter what pronouns they use.
It doesn't matter how they dress.
It doesn't matter what size they are.
It doesn't matter what how long it took them to realize their gender.
It doesn't matter what other labels they use.
All nonbinary people are valid, and they all deserve respect.
Being genderfluid and being your agab for the moment doesn't mean you aren't genderfluid! The thing about being genderfluid is that your gender shifts
