"oh you're bi too? haha attracted to every woman and five men amiright" don't put words in my mouth. don't put your baggage on me. if you saw the men i wanted to fuck you'd hurl.

“I like women because they’re amazing and I like men because I can’t stop making bad decisions haha.”

Well when I like women it’s because I’m fucking awesome, and when I like men it’s because I’m fucking awesome. Your take on your own sexuality fucking sucks, I’m better than you.

People who say bi erasure doesn’t happen need to realize Freddie Mercury is known as the most famous homosexual man when he identified himself as bisexual. If that’s not bi erasure I don’t even know.

Also PoC erasure, most people don’t know he was 100% Indian

Specifically he was Parsi. Also raised Zeroastrian.

*zoroastrian 

#i dont think the white boys can handle a queer brown guy being their god

^^^ centuries of religious art featuring white-skinned blue-eyed Jesus have made that pretty clear

His real name was Farrokh Bulsara. He was born in Zanzibar.

Okay but why is “farrokh bulsara, from Zanzibar ” more inspiring and better sounding than “Freddie mercury from England ”?

Can I add this tidbit I found?

ID: “During a Queen concert in the 70s, a heckler shouted “you fucking poof” [gay slur] to Freddie Mercury during the middle of their set. Freddie responded by ordering the crew to turn the spotlight on hte man, asking him to “Say it again, darling”. The heckler cowered in shame.

And now we love him even more, amazingly.

I can’t stop laughing because…

like I don’t know how you can get more obvious than tweeting “I’m sure I’m bisexual,” but clearly The Sun isn’t convinced

tbt to the time a bi woman explicitly said she was sure she was bisexual and “journalists” were like

I mean, it’s a thing…

biphobia is rampant in all walks of life sadly

The look on Bowie’s face in that last picture, he’s just like “how thick are you? I’m bi, deal with it”

ppl post this sort of positivity that’s like “bi ppl w a preference for women are valid bi ppl w a preference for men are valid” and yeah sure but also, hyperanalyzing your bisexuality is not necessary. the fact that you’ve dated or liked or slept w more men or more women doesn’t have to say anything abt your bisexuality. your bisexuality does not have to be measured and counted and have a pie diagram showing gender percentages. you can just be bisexual

I will just say that the reason for this is how often bi people are told that if they have any preference towards one gender or another, if their history trends one way or another, if there’s anything but utter mathematical equality in their bisexuality, they are NOT allowed to call themselves bisexual.

This was the EXPLICIT way this was explained to me by members of the queer community 20+ years ago and if it wasn’t for posts like the ones referenced, I’d never have developed the courage to start openly calling myself bi.

So no, hyperanalyzing your bisexuality isn’t necessary at all, but unfortunately other people tend to do it for you.

I also really appreciated posts like that because of (1) the fact that I experience attraction differently depending on the person's gender kept me from realizing my bisexuality for YEARS because I was expecting them to feel exactly the same, and (2) even once I accepted they wouldn't necessarily feel the same, I mostly saw posts yukking it up about how being a bisexual woman meant you were attracted to every real woman but only fictional men.

like asexuality, bisexuality is very easy to mistake for other things, and there's a lot of misinformation about it floating around, so having lots of different kinds affirmatively discussed is really helpful!

"Nonbinary people have the privilege of blending into cis society whenever they want!" is just the transphobic version of the biphobic "bisexuals can blend into heterosexual society whenever they want!"

Whether you believe bisexuality was inclusive of nonbinary people in the 1960s, or whatever the latest debate is, the fact is that the bi community has spent the majority of the last decade trying to make it clear that bisexual means or should mean much more than just “attraction to men and women”, and there has been very, very little push back from within the bi community. The general consensus is that the word “bisexual” should be infinitely broad and inclusive, no matter what the etymological root is. Bisexuals do not want “bisexual” to be limited.

The only people desperately trying to reinforce the idea that “bisexual means 2 genders” are people who do not identify as bisexual. 

YES 👏👏 emphasizing this part extra: The only people desperately trying to reinforce the idea that “bisexual means 2 genders” are people who do not identify as bisexual. 

We deeply need y’all to STOP giving a shit about what biphobes think is the definition of being bisexual and who talk over actual bisexual people.

The Bisexual Manifesto of 1990 made it very clear that there aren’t only 2 genders and that those genders are included in bisexuality, so, like, it goes back to the year I first came out. It’s been 32 years, y'all. Bisexuality includes all genders, and it means ‘attraction to two or more’ since like 1990.

i hate the concept of ‘straight passing’ people bc none of you can seem to acknowledge that theres mspec people who arent straight passing

this is a personal thing bc- as i have explained many times, i have a mother and a father, and neither of them are straight. My father is a short, thin man who paints his nails, has a high voice, wears bowler hats and vests daily, and reviews theatre for a living. My mother (although she is now more feminine presenting) has short, curly hair (which she had shaved for a time) a deep voice, wears mostly overalls and work pants and used to be an organic farmer/painter. As you can imagine- my father, when he is not accompinied by my mother, is seen as a gay man. He is routinly hit on by men, asked about his ‘husband’ and gets profusly apologized to when he mentions his wife. My mother was reffered to by my aunt as an ‘ex lesbian’ (paraphrased) when she married my father. The fact that my parents have both been identifying as bisexual from the very start means very very little to those who make assumptions. However- when I say that I have two bi parents- its still assumed that they’ve “given up” their bisexuality- that they are the same as two heterosexual parents. I can tell you for a fact that the way I was raised was not by heterosexual parents. My dad bringing me to drag shows as a small child and my mother teaching me feminism and how to dress for myself as young as i could verbalise was not in vain. My parents are not ‘straight passing’. However- ‘straight passing’ is used for any m/f relationship between two queer people. It’s fucked, really. It’s not ‘straight passing’- you just think that bi people are straight.

im not straight passing im just assigned straight at work

please god i am so deathly sick of people saying like "how is this straight the writers are so dumb!" about literal actual gay media i don't know how to break it to you people but nbc hannibal is about two men who are attracted to each other. jennifer's body is about two women who are attracted to each other. i know you guys are used to only consuming captain america movies and the occasional mark zuckerburg biopic but there are writers who actually write gay people and they do in fact do so on purpose. you don't have to say "i can't believe the writers thought this was heterosexual" they literally did not

actually i cracked the code. you all are like this because you are biphobic

she says out loud with her mouth “i go both ways”

Calling a canon bisexual woman a lesbian becuase she has a female love interest or is in a wlw relationship is bisexual erasure and biphobic!!!!

Same thing goes for bisexual men and mlm relationships!!!!!

REBLOG THIS VERSION TOO YOU COWARDS

Same thing for bisexual people in m/f relationships that people call straight.

this is why demanding flawless representation from every piece of media, and trying to police who writes what based on identity is a huge fucking mess

source

The publisher is now threatening to sue her btw,

Checked on this, the company issued a formal apology where they admitted they assumed the author was straight because she “presented herself as straight”

She literally told them she was bisexual in the query she submitted

I know, that’s what makes this even worse.

That publishing company is such bullshit lmaooo

Their “apology” is even more disgusting. They double down on the biphobia.

“No other authors will receive any constructive feedback from us” lmao what a baby

“We put you gays and lesbians on the purity pedestal and, when you really think about it, this “bisexual” (Whatever that means) is really to blame for making us realize you people fuck.That’s why we were wrong.“

“She isn’t posting pics of herself making out with every person of every gender on Instagram, so she is obviously just a straight looking for attention :/”

This song has been old for a while and it keeps getting older.

Along with its accompaniment, “the slutty bisexual”

This saga really is an ever-growing snowball of unprofessional behavior and not knowing when to quit:

This seems like the kind of situation where, long ago, someone had good intentions that went downhill when they decided to only engage with only the most unproblematic representation available.

Such an attitude negates the work of anyone doing their best who is writing about an experience that is not their own, or even representing their own experience in a way that makes someone uncomfortable. This is further evidenced by the publisher’s about page, which states that they will not publish books that include “explicit/toxic romance” and “any works that depict rape or have extreme trigger warnings,” while not specifying what those triggers are. That is their prerogative as a publisher, of course, but purging anything problematic from your catalogue can often do more harm than good, as authors use these subjects to work through their own problems and help others do so as well. That’s why trigger warnings exist in the first place.

It’s noble to want to hold up LGBT+ authors as much as possible, but this type of gatekeeping is not the way to do it. If you are critiquing someone’s writing and have an issue with its content, point out what has made you uncomfortable and ask for clarification on why they chose to write it that way, rather than jumping to conclusions about their intentions.

blaming an abuse victim for being with an abuser is never okay. saying “it’s your fault because you decided to date him” isn’t woke just bc the victim is bi. you’re a biphobic, misogynist, abuse excusing asshole

Allow me to add that even if they got with a woman that doesn’t automatically mean that they won’t get abused. Women can be abusers too. LGBT relationships can be abusive too. It’s not that hard.

actually it IS biphobic to suggest Korra and Asami are lesbians since they are, in fact, canonically bisexual. stop erasing bisexual people.

if you say “they were just confused,” “they just thought they were straight/bi,” etc, YES THAT IS BIPHOBIA

even if the dating pool was completely even like.... u may still "end up" w a man if ur bisexual... cuz thats what... bisexuality is. literally ppl think bi women r supposed 2 b lesbians n if theyre not lesbians (bc theyre BI) then they must just b str8..

Annnnnnd even if you’ve never been with a woman and you “end up” with a guy...you’re still bi. Because hey. There are literally sooooooo many reasons for this and each and every one of them are valid.

I can’t stop laughing because…

like I don’t know how you can get more obvious than tweeting “I’m sure I’m bisexual,” but clearly The Sun isn’t convinced

tbt to the time a bi woman explicitly said she was sure she was bisexual and “journalists” were like

I mean, it’s a thing…

biphobia is rampant in all walks of life sadly

The look on Bowie’s face in that last picture, he’s just like “how thick are you? I’m bi, deal with it”

Calling a canon bisexual woman a lesbian becuase she has a female love interest or is in a wlw relationship is bisexual erasure and biphobic!!!!

Same thing goes for bisexual men and mlm relationships!!!!!

“BI-CEPS” – “BI AND LARGE” – “BI-PHOBIA SHIELD,” Lani Ka'ahumanu, co-founder of BiPol (the first and oldest bisexual political organization), San Francisco Lesbian & Gay Freedom Day, June 24, 1984. Photo by Arlene Krantz. #lgbthistory #lgbtherstory #lgbttheirstory #lgbtpride #queerhistorymatters #haveprideinhistory #sanfranciscopride (at San Francisco, California)