Little, Broken, But Still Good

there is no such thing as being "behind in life" but it's okay to recognise that you missed out on some things whilst you were busy surviving

This was posted on a ‘second hand finds’ Facebook page…

…only to be followed by this amazing message.

The roller coaster ride started.

With a happy ending…

…and a sweet poem to finish.

Hi! This tweet has been purposely taken out of context because people never include the rest of the thread. I’m not sure if you did so purposely or not, but please let me include the rest of the thread for you and explain.

Before I share screenshots of the rest of my tweets, first I’ll explain.

tl;dr: I was raised Catholic, taught that homosexuality was a sin. When I got into college, I joined tumblr and learned more about different sexualities and the lgbt+ community and started shifting my views a bit, i.e. I still believed it was still a sin but started to support lgbt+ people having the right to get married. Soon after, I started watching anime. I got into Free! and the fandom made the cutest art and fics and headcanons of all the m/m ships in the show. That made me start realizing that “these ships are so sweet and loving and normal, why is this wrong or sinful?” It made me seeing things differently. I stopped thinking that being gay was a sin, and after a few years of trying to undo internalized homophobia, I realized that I’m bi.

I’m sorry if I didn’t realize my sexuality in a way that was good or pure enough for the rest of you. Yes it took an anime and m/m fanart to make me realize that being gay was okay, I’m not ashamed to admit that. I live in Texas, I didn’t have many gay people around me in my personal life (actually I did but didn’t know it at the time because most of them were school friends who were also in the closet for the same reasons as me). We all have different upbringings, and mine involved a very religious upbringing where I was constantly told about all these sinful thoughts and actions that could send me to hell. It took a lot to undo all of that.  I’m still not out in real life because I’m terrified my parents will cut me off if they find out, and I’m waiting until I’m more financially independent.

I’d appreciate it if you would reblog this @crestholder (I can’t tag you for some reason but I hope you see this in your notifications). Whether it was your intention or not, you sharing this tweet out of context results in me continually being harassed and it’s very upsetting. I just want people to know the full tweet thread and my thought process before they decide to judge me.

Now here are the rest of my tweets on this.

Finding out Ian McKellen is gay went a surprisingly long way to making me stop being homophobic. You can’t control what it is that gives you an epiphany.

i’m really glad OP and all the people reblogging this without the commentary were just born having the correct opinions and never had to go through any struggles with their beliefs and if they did it was all very serious and they came to their conclusions in Approved ways and nothing about it was awkward or quote unquote cringey

Getting so invested in RENT made me actually face and process my internalized homophobia from my also very religious upbringing.

Like no obviously it wasn’t the only factor, but it was a big one. How could I enjoy this musical about so many queer people and still believe their love was a sin? So I choose, and I choose acceptance, and that led directly to me realizing six months later that I was gay myself.

Fiction can impact is if our minds and hearts are fertile ground for the ideas that fiction is presenting.

You can laugh but seeing m/m art and fandoms when I was 12 made my realisation that I’m queer so much easier later on. Much less ashamed.

If you want to be cynical know yourself out, but stop pretending you’re on a different plane of existence where internalised and enforced homophobia doesn’t exist

You can’t say that normalizing queer folk in media helps increase acceptance and then make fun of people who came to normalize and accept LGBTQ people because of media they consumed

Fanfic and fandom in general was my first exposure to seeing the lgbtq+ community portrayed in a positive light. Before then the only exposure I had to the concept was either people in school using ‘gay’ as a slur or my religious education saying how sinful it was. Seventeen years later and I realized I was bi. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Slightly baffled by the theme in some of the early comments is that it is ONLY okay to change your mind to queer acceptance if you do it before a certain cutoff date. Learning and growing is only acceptable in children! Once you reach 25, you’re stuck with whatever you believe for the rest of your life, no takebacks!!

Redditors crashed the website with donations over $25k and 0 wishes left. via /r/MadeMeSmile

Click here and follow to get more daily positivity on your dash!

In response to this event, some redditors created r/charityraid, with the goal of concentrating the power of thousands of users into a single charity at a time to hopefully break a few more sites.

As of 9/21/21, the site has updated with more wishes. The incredible spike in donations is amazing, but if you want to and are able to keep the momentum going, there are over 300 waiting to be filled at https://www.onesimplewish.org!

a lot of these are very basic, small things. i just spent 17 dollars to buy a kid water shoes for a lake vacation ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

7/9/22 There are 200+ wishes who need YOU!

I don’t normally tag people but I’d like to send this to @instructor144 to post on positivity day. Maybe it would help crash the site again.

BOOST.

Let’s see if we can crash the site and empty it out again.

Update, as of right now (12/8/22) there are 275 wishes needing fulfillment, ranging from a teen who was only asking for a few sticks of deodorant to a boy who wanted warmer clothes to stay warm to older kids wanting tablets for school or their creative passions and older adults with disabilities with needs and wants. Young folks recently aged out that need help with gas for their car to get to their new job or a table and chair so they aren’t eating on the floor.

150 wishes as of 16 December 2022!

i apologize to myself for pretending i was receiving enough when i wasn’t.

expressing your needs, your emotions, your boundaries and your concerns will not drive away people that are committed to being in your life. wanting to be treated with respect, knowing your worth and acting accordingly is never asking for too much in any kind of safe or healthy connection.

I’m gonna be blunt: you bring little worth to a friendship if you’re apathetic toward the good in your friends’ lives. If you shrug when they come to you with little things that they’re happy about, they will eventually stop coming to you with anything and you’ll wonder why that relationship feels stale. Practice genuine excitement with the people in your life. If you see a friend try to downplay how excited they are about something just be like “yoooo! This is a cool thing! You’re a lovely person and you deserve lovely things! I love you!“ 

I think it’s easy to be someone people complain to, but it’s just as if not more important to be someone they know they’re allowed to be excited and proud and happy around.

Continue✨ Keep going✨

Thank you, lady 🤗

The Nigerian accent. God. She reminds me of home...

Always grateful when this makes the rounds

Her name is Tega Orhorhoro, since I never see this credited.

THANK YOU @pinecontents! I've ALWAYS wondered who this powerhouse of Good Feelings is! here's her youtube:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOHburC5nCRCXC4WkjBgFnw

sending love out tonight to everyone who is progressively losing their abilities, whether that's movement, ability to walk, eyesight, or hearing.

it's hard to come to terms with the fact that you can't do things that you used to be able to do. I'll be honest, it feels like you're losing control of your life. it can feel very isolating and hopeless. its scary and overwhelming, and it's so hard to deal with.

you are not less than just because you can do less. im proud of you for still being here, and i wish you ease with adjusting to new ways of life. please take care of yourself, i love you.

gentle addition for the folks who are losing their mental capacity in any way, shape, or form. If you can’t think as clearly as you used to, if you don’t have the executive functioning you once had, if your memory is getting worse, if your sensory processing issues are increasing, if your episodes are becoming more frequent. Your life has inherent value and I hope I can help remind you of that.

@memeuplift

No but seriously. Normalize finding love in your 40's. Normalize discovering and chasing new dreams in your 30's. Normalize finding yourself and your purpose in your 50's. Life doesn't end at 25. Let's stop acting like it does.

“Recently, a friend of mine told me that she felt guilty that she hadn’t accomplished more during the last year of the pandemic. Now, I’ve heard that a few times. And I have a feeling we’re gonna be hearing that more and more.”

The Amber Ruffin Show (May 21, 2021)

Never settle for less than your worth. 🐻🌱  twitter / instagram

Some eaiser variations of push ups to help you build the strength to do a traditional one!

I don’t generally reblog ‘fitness’ stuff but gaddamn could I use some more arm strength.

Push-ups are my worst nightmare. I can only do 44 before I pass out on the floor.

“I can only do 44” hahaha omg I can’t even do one.

yes good

I was always frustrated how my P.E. teachers wanted all of us to go “all-or-none” and basically hurt ourselves without letting us build up from square-one like in the first gif.  Then they’d fuckin yell at us for not doing it right >:|

Knee-pushups is not square-one.

When I got my first personal trainer, she had me doing push ups almost standing upright in the weight lifting bars so that I could do 15 reps and 3 sets of them. It’s more about the technique of the push up, and if you’re pushing too much weight, you can’t exersize the correct muscles within their tolerances. This post is pretty important tto know cause of that.

I was introduced to the knee push-up last year and it was such a fucking game changer. I had NO idea it was possible to work those same muscles just with a slight variation in position. 

I wanna just verify that these are excellent for building strength, both as someone who took weights class in high school with a good teacher, and as someone who’s had a lifetime of physical therapy (not for my arms specifically, but I’ve spent a lot of time in sports medicine centers). And again, if the vertical one in the first gif is difficult, you don’t even have to lean into it like that. Start standing, and only lean as much as it takes you to lower towards the wall.

And remember, many exercises can be modified in this way! I did an image search for “modified pull up” and got exactly what I was looking for right away, which is this:

Doing pull ups on a lower bar, or from the straps with handles that gyms sometimes have (called the TRX - they can also be used to support yourself during squats and some balance exercises) is a lot easier than jumping straight into vertical pullups, and lets you build up that muscle with exercises that are still comfortable and safe for you, so you can do more sets of more reps.

As a general rule, always start with lower-strain exercises and practice good form before you work your way up. You don’t want to have to unlearn bad habits that could lead to injury later as the difficulty increases.

@imfemalewarrior I’m assuming you’ve seen this post but in case you haven’t—it seems like your kind of thing

Here are push up and pull up progressions! 

-FemaleWarrior, She/They 

Because I have serious issues with core strength and cannot do a sit up or a crunch without using muscles I shouldn’t and hurting myself, I looked up core exercises for beginners (because modified sit ups just have me ways to make it harder), and here’s what I found.

All from here, which also includes sit ups with the idea that you start up and don’t go all the way down.

This stuff on the bottom is some of the stuff I do for physical therapy, can vouch for it

This post makes me actually want to exercise… reblogging and pinning so I can find it easier later!

I don’t get it :D