Hi Father, I'm in college and me and my boyfriend have been going out for years. I care about him, love him and don't know where i would be without him. we go to church together and stuff but at the same time we get a little carried away when we're together. idk what to do or how i feel about this. because shouldn't he be helping me towards God? what if he's depending on ME to get closer to God? idk!
Well, you're definitely called to bring each other closer to God. We all are, as Christians, and the closer we are to each other, the more it becomes "our business" to do so.
Of course, that will happen best when what attracts you when you're together -- and what's getting truly bonded -- is the soul (the person) and not just the body. Both soul and body are created by God and tell us important things about God, but the bodily dimension of your relationship needs to wait to come to full flower until marriage. Here's part of the reason why.
So it's very healthy for you to be attracted to each other even on the sexual level, but stay focused on the other parts of your relationship for now... the more the relationship is what God wants for it now, the better it will be what God wants for it later, and the better you'll be able to bring each other to holiness!
Honesty, communication, and even occasionally Confession are essential parts of trying to work that out. But a little Jason/Crystalina Evert fix might be just what the doctor ordered.
God bless you!
- Father Shane