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The Optimistic Authour

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Dina | 25 | Greece | She/Her | Bisexual | Fangirl by nature, disaster by trade. Multifandom. Spoilers ahead. Ye have been warned.
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bauliya

just gonna leave this here

I’ve said this before, possibly even on this post, but this also means throwing out that shitty attitude of “You can tell this was made by cishets for cishets” just because it doesn’t relate to your specific queer experience. I have seen works created by queer creators based on their own experiences get labeled “by cishets for cishets” because it didn’t reflect a particular experience/reflected a different experience from that of those criticizing it. There is no universal queer experience. Just because it’s not YOUR experience doesn’t mean it’s not queer.

i can’t believe people having the experience of being-other would do it differently from me. surely the point was to recreate the perfect uniformity of idealized 1950s cishet nuclear families, only different in exactly the way i’m different.

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korrasera
“You can tell this was made by cishets for cishets”

This hits the nail right on the head. A great example of why stereotyping and prejudice aren’t useful tools even if you think you’re using them righteously.

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Sometimes. I see non-ace people talk about ace characters in a way that makes me wanna just. Take the characters and put them in a little box and go “Okay enough of these for now :)” and I won’t do that because it’s a dickish thing to do but SOMETIMES

I don’t even mean just erasing their asexuality I mean things like using the label “asexual” completely synonymously with “sex-repulsed” making an asexual character just not understanding the concept of sex or worse, straight up infantilizing the character and making them “pure” and “innocent” for being asexual

Every single asexual I’ve ever met has a very unique relationship with their asexuality. I’ve met sex-repulsed aces that passionately spread awareness about safe sex, both in terms of protection and also just making sure your BEING PHYSICALLY SAFE while having sex. A HUGE part of the kink community is asexual. I’ve met sex-favorable aces that never have sex not because they would hate it it’s just tiring and they don’t feel like it. I don’t know HOW many times we have to tell you that “asexual” is NOT an umbrella term for “person who doesn’t have sex” but apparently a few more times because it keeps not sticking

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suzypfonne

Before January 2025:

If you are a USAmerican in a relationship that might be affected by legislation that dissolves same-sex marriages, who may no longer be recognized as next-of-kin, especially if you have children, get your rights in writing!

Your marriage certificate may not be enough to prove you have rights to make medical decisions for non-biological children or for a same-sex spouse or partner.

Go to a lawyer, get it spelled out as clearly as possible that you have a voice in emergency medical and legal situations.

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irisbleufic

For those of us who aren’t lawyers or well-versed in law generally, can someone clarify what kind of document, by name, people should be drafting with their lawyers? Is it a type of letter, or is there a name for this classification of document? I’m aware that it probably varies by US state, but a lot of people are likely feeling extremely lost right now and don’t know where to start on this. I definitely don’t. I live in a state that isn’t likely to nullify existing marriages or prevent new ones from taking place, but who knows what they’re going to try at the national level and enforce from the top down.

Power of Attorney should cover most partners and spouses to ensure that they will be making each other's health care decisions in cases of serious illness. LGBTQ+ spouses and domestic partners must execute proper Health Care Power of Attorney documents listing each other as the highest priority agents for making each other's health care decisions in case of incapacity.

Here's a resource from GLAD.

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cnc-pet

it's kind of fucking wild to cite "Doctors in Europe" while explicitly writing about appealing to Americans, but they HAVE to, and they have to be as vague as they are, because "Doctors in America", such as the American Psychological Association, the American Psychiatric Association, the American Medical Association, and the Federation of Pediatric Organizations, are explicitly pro-gender affirming care (links for specific examples). But anyway yeah fuck the nyt

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milobobilooo

I DONT WANT TO LEAVE THE SOUTH!!!! THIS IS MY HOME!!!

I want things to get better here instead of having to leave it behind to be safe!! I literally live in North Carolina i KNOW about the bathroom bills, i KNOW i PROMISE YOU.

Queer people who look down on the south and refuse to acknowledge that there are queer people here infuriate me. The south is not just Bigotry World tm! There are poc here!! There are trans people here! There are queer people and disabled people and tons of other people who deserve your love and support!

Don’t forget about us please.

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flipocrite

Good people live there because they know they’re not the only ones and if they leave, who will be there for the ones who think they are alone?

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queerpeers

Story time! a few years ago my grandma found out that my sibling is nonbinary. Sibling was nervous at first bc it was an accident, and even tho our grandma fully accepted me as a trans guy, she presumably had no idea what being nb or genderfluid meant. and to an extent the sib was right—she was totally unaware that those concepts existed when we agreed to meet for lunch that day

but. but. she brought a full on PACKET of printed research and a pen. and asked questions. she took honest to god notes.

so anyway. thank you Grammy for loving your grandkids unconditionally. the feeling is mutual 💕

Grammy, squinting at her papers: “what’s this word mean? ‘nibling?’”

sibling: “so ‘pibling’ is the gender neutral word for aunt/uncle, like ‘parent’s sibling’, then ‘nibling’ is a play on that by taking the ‘n’ from niece/nephew, so—“

Grammy: “—so you’re my gribling?”

sibling: “Huh?”

Grammy: “like granddaughter or grandson”

Sibling: “Grammy—“

Grammy: “or is ‘grandthey’ better?”

Sibling: “you could just say—“

Grammy: “I just want to get it right for you because—“

Sibling: “GRANDCHILD”

Grammy: “…”

so anyway she still calls them gribling. and it’s wonderful

This is fucking adorable.

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twitter is making me insane. everyone repeat after me: rocky horror was, moreso and before all else, a parody movie. a spoof. a direct, satirical reference to the sci-fi and creature feature canon of the golden age of hollywood. the opening song literally lists a huge chunk of the movies that it is directly spoofing. rocky horror was a parody flick like..... fucking,, "epic movie" of the '00s except 1) nobody had beaten the concept to death yet 2) it had bangers 3) it was written by some gay weirdo theater kids back when that was edgier and chiefly 4) this was the era when gay weirdo theater kids were writing bangers. it was so popular because it was funny and full of popular references to movies everyone had seen and was excitingly weird because gay weirdo theater kids had not yet penetrated culture and it had bangers, and also meat loaf was in it. it was not just some gay mecca of a film because straight people of that generation fucking love rocky horror, but the fact that straight people of that age fucking love rocky horror allowed their kids to see rocky horror and go to screenings way younger than they'd be allowed to see media made by gay weirdos normally so you then got a generation of shadow casts that did have a ton of gay kids running and attending them and who by and large didn't get the references in the movie. which is fine because the way we engage with and interact with media changes over time and it can exist both in the context of its origin and the context of the present. but my g-d some of you people have both lost the thread of history and are acting very stupid about this. the writer of rocky horror has been on estrogen longer than half of you people have been alive. genderqueer people of a certain age often don't have 100% perfect progressive politics. have i covered everything yet, what am i missing. someday we will be free of this discourse and i will ascend perfectly into the sky.

realized i didn't make this explicitly clear but every single one of the ""problematic"" scenes and tropes people love to go on about in rocky horror are explicit parodies of extant and nearly inescapable pulp sci fi/horror tropes of the time, like they were referencing movies and comics and media that the viewer base grew up with, the sex scenes and frank n furter as a character, etc are so over the top because they are parodies

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amuseoffyre

It was also actively and specifically written as a pushback against Mary Whitehouse and the conservative campaigners who were doing exactly the same as today's modern "purity" police. It was tongue-in-cheek and naughty and hitting all of the buttons of the screeching conservative folk.

This is a review for the original stage production from the CD of the original cast recording.

If the Daily Mail reviewer in the 70s can make the link between vampire biting as a sex surrogate but modern people can't really does speak to that disconnect of media literacy.

And in addition to this, when asked where his inspiration for the show came from in 2023, Richard O'Brien explained:

“It actually comes from me,” says O’Brien, who wrote the book and score to the original Rocky Horror Show stage play that inspired the film (which turns 50 this month), and played the put-upon butler Riff Raff in both. “I used to beat myself up about the hand I was dealt. I don’t know how it works. I have no idea. I’ve read many tomes about the subject of the transvestic nature. It’s the cards you’re dealt. In a binary world it’s a bit of curse, really. Especially in those days when homosexuality was a crime. It’s just one of those things that western society wasn’t very keen on.” (x)

It was written in the 70s by a queer person flipping the bird at the establishment. The language used was the language of the queer community at the time. It was a rebellious, joyous, chaotic queer retelling of classic sci-fi and fantasy kitsch. It was tongue-in-cheek and satirical and smart and shrewd.

And most importantly, it gave queer people in the 70s and 80s something mainstream that they could embrace safely. The live screenings, the midnight shows, the watchalongs all over the country. People could go there and feel safe because this was a film made *for* them and *by* them.

Maybe it doesn't live up to modern expectations for queer media, but as Frank says to Janet, "I didn't make it for you". It was a piece of art that was made very much for the time and political environment it was born in. Of course it won't fit modern standards, because times have changed.

Critique it if you must, but critique it within the context of its own time and place when it was written and why it was written. It was queer art and remains queer art and just because it doesn't fit modern sensibilities doesn't make it something to be torn down.

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Okay rant time.

Pregnant men exist. Not just as an uwu mpreg fanfic trope or a joke. Just because you think pregnancy is gross or icky doesn’t mean you can’t treat pregnant people with respect, regardless of gender or sex. Even in the queer community, trans men who choose to carry their children are seen as an anomaly or as betraying everything they’ve worked for. They aren’t. If I carry a child, I’m still just as much of a man.

Also, I understand if the idea of pregnancy is dysphoric for many trans men. I do. But trans men being pregnant isn’t an excuse to exclude them from queer spaces or treat them with anything less than the same respect you would anyone else. Many trans men experience dysphoria regarding the idea of pregnancy, but many don’t. Their body isn’t your business. Don’t be fucking weird.

Even many pregnant trans mascs experience dysphoria around pregnancy! And they chose to either become or continue to be pregnant because it was important to them!

At least half the reason for that dysphoria and why it's so hard to be a pregnant trans masc is specifically how they're treated by others. There's obviously internal aspects that can be triggering like having to pause hrt or experiencing breast growth but so so much of it comes from how people treat them; whether thats medical professionals misgendering them or support groups being entirely focused on cis women or their own communities calling their bodies triggering or questioning their masculinity, even calling them detrans or saying they hurt trans masc causes.

We need to stop being weird about pregnant trans mascs! And tbh a lot of yall could stand to be less weird about pregnant women too.

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teaboot

Maaaaaaaaaan all those blocklists are finally paying off lmao

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I get rly rlyyyy tired of people trying to recommend me to go on T all the time I DONT!!! leave me alone. 👍🏾

I'm ok where I am NGL I like being gnc and you have to fucking respect that.

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foone

People need to stop thinking about hormones as something "trans people have to do" and more like tools to make your body change in certain ways.

And not all trans people want those changes! Which is fine!

It's not like all trans men have to be on T so they'll look specific ways... That's the kind of gender-essentialist nonsense that cis people use on trans people! It shouldn't be used by trans people.

you're so real foone

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tumblr staff will let the thousands of porn bots on here run rampant yet will take down trans comics with no actual nudity

i originally reblogged this post, but since staff took it down you can't fucking see my reblog anymore. well i liked this comic, i want it on my blog, and it does not include any fucking nudity. especially compared to all the straight up porn staff allows to go free

so here it is

untitled by Pas (paxiti), all pages from May 23, 2018 to June 22, 2023

babe are you ok? you reblogged the "first time as a girl" comic again

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