It's amusing how people try to create 'supportive' posts for Sand yet subtly throw jabs at him for not bending over backwards for Ray 24/7. I've seen a special rise in this since ep11. Ray taking episodes upon episodes to sort out his own feelings about Mew while trampling over Sand is hunky dory, but Sand being super uncomfortable with Boeing for half an episode, Boeing who was his boyfriend of years, is Very Very Bad towards Ray. Ray is entitled to Sand's patience and emotional labour yet he owes him not a drop of patience/support/care in return. The same people will justify the literal bruises Ray left on my boy and dismiss his verbal abuse because poor baby has mommy issues.
There's a BIG difference between being empathetic towards Ray and wanting him to heal VS using his issues as a shield for the horrible treatment he bestows upon Sand, a difference MANY watchers are happy to ignore to simplify the situation and dismiss the fact that Ray is abusive towards Sand. The sorrys and the tears and the happy days and the dreamy sex scenes don't erase the unjust accusations, the screams of being a 'whore', the shoves on the road, on the lockers, and the callous treatment. Just goes to show how most don't care much about Sand as an individual beyond being subservient to Ray's whims and fancies.
