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Idk what bi exclusionist needs to hear this but shitting on pansexuals isn’t going to stop biphobia in the community at all. It isn’t going to make biphobic gay people like you more. It isnt going to stop cishets from viewing us as a phase, cheaters, stepping stones, or people to have threesomes with. It isn’t going to make biphobic gay people stop calling you a breeder or bihet.

Even if you managed to get all pansexuals to drop their identity and identify as bisexual, biphobia will still be here. It will still be very much present. Stop trying to tear pan people down for merely existing. It’s exhausting and you look fucking stupid.

Honestly this applies to how y’all treat aces as well. It’s so very obvious that some of you treat pan and ace people like shit because you want to be validated by the gay people or cishets within your circle. Literally most of y’all’s blogs are “lol cringy kweers.” Never mind the fact that this website, Twitter, and numerous others use to treat US like “cringy kweers” because they thought we weren’t gay enough. Never mind the fact that irl me and other bi folks are STILL treated like “cringy kweers” because we’re either a joke to cishets, or seen as gross to biphobic gay ppl.

Anyway, if you’re bisexual and an exclusionist you’re a fucking disgrace and learned nothing from the shit that’s been going down these past few years. Have fun in this stupid ass attempt to “keep the community safe” from people who just want to live without judgement of their orientation.

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Anonymous asked:

Hi! So I wasn’t on the internet as much when aphobia was super popular, so I only kind of remember it. I’ve seen you & other people say it’s similar to panphobia so can I ask what the similarities are?

hey! some similarities are:

  • claiming aspec/pan people aren't oppressed
  • creating cringy insults (asexie/pannie)
  • claiming aspec/pan identities are homophobic/biphobic/transphobic
  • campaigns to change the flags based on lies and exclusionism
  • accusations of dividing the community with microlabels
  • exaggerating and flat out lying about what aspec/pan people say or think in order to make it easier for others to buy into aphobia/panphobia
  • claiming identifying as aspec/pan is due to internalized queerphobia
  • erasing aspec/pan people from queer history
  • claiming aspec/pan people are just straight/bi and want to feel special
  • accusations of aspec/pan people invading the community
  • arguing aspec/pan identities are "tumblr identities"
  • treating aspec/pan people like children
  • accusing adults of pressuring and guilting young people into identifying as aspec/pan
  • weaponizing the barest acronym to justify excluding aspec/pan people
  • using supposedly previously identifying as aspec/pan to legitimize their aphobia/panphobia
  • claiming aspec/pan people are appropriating disability terms (aspec/panphobia)
  • surveying a small group of aphobes/panphobes and generalizing the results to further aphobia/panphobia

i'm sure there are more tactics and arguments i'm missing, so feel free to add on y'all!

(also worth noting that a lot of this was/is argued against bi people and trans people, too. all exclusionism is the same stuff recycled.)

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What is the aro/ace exclusionist movement? What do they believe and who are they? You mentioned that terfs often use it as a stepping stone to get people to believe transphobic rhetoric, can you elaborate on that? I’ve never seen anything about this, so I’d like to be more informed about it.

What is the aro/ace exclusionist movement?

The ace/aro exclusionist movement was something that began sometime around 2015, a wave of people claiming to be part of the discourse suddenly started overtaking ace/aro spaces and tags, especially here on Tumblr. The discourse being whether or not aces and aro (though usually aces as they often forgot aros existed) should be in lgbtqia+ spaces.

Most of their arguments weren't new, a lot of what they were saying are things I've been seeing around for years. What was new was the name 'discourse' and I think also calling themselves 'exclusionist' and just the force of it. What used to be a very rare isolated comment was suddenly flooding ace/aro spaces.

What do they believe and who are they?

Instead of giving a breakdown I'm going to post the LGBTA Wiki page on this which shares a lot of their arguments and tactics they used. But basically they seemed to believe aces/aros weren't valid identities or if they were they weren't LGBTQIA+ identities.

They seemed to be a mix of people. From radfems, especially TERFS (but also a lot of SWERF rhetoric seemed to make its way into their posts), and a lot of young people who didn't know much about the community and its history seemed to be the largest groups.

You mentioned that terfs often use it as a stepping stone to get people to believe transphobic rhetoric, can you elaborate on that?

Yeah, so two parts to this. Number one is that ace/aro exclusionist rhetoric and TERF rhetoric is extremely similar to the point some arguments are almost 1 for 1.

Some examples I've seen personally:

  • 'I just don't want cishets in lgbt spaces' vs 'i just don't want men in women's spaces'. Cishet is a common dogwhistle for ace/aro people the same way 'men' is a common dog whistle for transwomen.
  • 'There is no A, it's just LGBT' vs 'It's 'It's LGB not LGBT.' Just like TERFs want to drop the T, and will even pretend there was never a T, or it's just a fringe movement adding it on, despite it being there for years. Ace/aro exclusionists act like the full acronym is LGBT and it's always been that way when it a. hasn't been that for years, and b. wasn't always those four letters.
  • 'Allo is a slur' vs 'cis is a slur.' Sometimes they don't say it's a slur but will say it's disrespectful to their identity to be referred to that way.
  • 'The LGBT community is a community about attraction and gender identity, not about if you like sex or not' vs 'The LGB community is about attraction, not about gender'.

And we have documented posts of TERFS using the ace/aro exclusionist movement to try and recruit people by pointing out how similar the rhetoric is: Here's one that was going around for a while.

But the very basics of if they can get you believing these things about one group of people, it takes very little work to convince people the same logic can apply to trans people. I'm also not sure if we know the real origins of the movement, but TERFs have definitely been a part of it since the beginning. And while a lot of ace/aro exclusionists claim to be anti-TERF, it's very rare to find a TERF who isn't also an ace/aro exclusionist.

The ace/aro exclusionist movement has definitely died down a lot here on Tumblr, they were very aggressive for a long time. The wider LGBTQ+ community has also in general caught up to them and gotten better and countering their tactics, but it was basically everywhere in 2015 and 2016. And I remember things like being on ace/aro themed discord servers and they'd join and troll, or they'd harass ace/aro blogs (including this one, though I have a block and don't interact policy). It was definitely a really difficult time for the community. They are still around, there's some tags you can find them in sometimes, though I think they're more active on sites like Twitter and TikTok where they can get away with it more. The best way to avoid them is definitely hang out in more moderated spaces.

So hopefully that gives you a bit of a rundown and covers most of the basics. If you have more questions though or want anything elaborated on, let me know.

All the best, Anon!

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Anonymous asked:

as an aspec pan dude who both witnessed and was very negatively effected by the aspec discourse at its worse, the most heartbreaking part of this battleaxe bi bullshit to me is how it literally just feels like aspecourse all over again?

like yes the arguments have been changed a bit but at the core it's literally just aspec exclusion but retooled for a new group. "we think you're valid, but we just don't agree with being ace pan" n "your identity is just homophobic transphobic" is probably the two biggest examples of it

that + the fact that literally all the battleaxe bi blogs i see have old posts supporting aspec exclusionists and/or transmeds literally just proves that battleaxe bis are just the same exclusionists from before targeting a new group. but young queer youth who don't have as much of an access to queer history don't realize this and take the bait. it's really saddening and im worried that minors that are the same age as i was when the aspecourse was at its worse are going to feel like they have to be someone they're not to please the community

yeah, it’s the same thing. i saw a post recently of screenshots of exclusionists in 2017/2018 when aspec people were their targets being explicitly inclusive of pan people, even using “lgbtpn” as the acronym to prove this support for pan people. and now exclusionists either fucking hate pan people or think we’re bi people wanting to be special or whatever. i was going to reblog the post but there aren’t any image descriptions and i didn’t feel like writing them at the time. i might eventually, though. idk. and i saw another post that said the same thing; exclusionists were supportive of pan people while aspecs were their target, only to turn on pan people a few years later. it’s the same groups, it’s the same rhetoric. and it all goes back to terf/radfem bullshit. (the amount of babs i’ve seen who are transphobes…..more likely you’d think given their whole schtick is hating pan for being “transphobic”.) people really need to stop buying into whatever they see people saying. be aware of the shit you’re sharing or believing, know where it comes from, know what the ultimate purpose of it is.

but yeah, it’s frustrating that this is just gonna keep going and going and going. because no one questions it. and no one challenges it. the only ones who do are largely the ones who are being targeted at the time. and no one believes us when we point out the patterns and where it’s coming from and who has admitted to it. and it’s fucking heartbreaking that queer people, especially the young ones, are going to be hurt by this again and again.

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I was around in the a-spec discourse when exclusionists tried to pass off LGBTPN as the acronym.

They originally tried ‘LGBT is the whole acronym and always was and always will be get over it!’ but when it was pointed out that this also excluded nonbinary and pan people not just a-spec people, they half-assedly tacked on a PN with the claim that that was the 'official’ full acronym.

I’d just like to say, that inclusionists were calling that shit out as far back as 2016 or so that they were gonna turn on pan people next. We were absolutely pointing out the irony that they were being half-assedly inclusive of pan, because we all strongly suspected that pan people were going to be the next target. And we were right.

I really feel for pan a-spec people, because they didn’t even get a break. Please take care of yourselves.

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I feel. Like a lot of aces could use more education on what exclusionist talking points are. It doesn’t always have to be wrapped in blatant acephobia. LOTS of exclusionists don’t consider themselves aphobes. A fair amount are asexual themselves (and just are trying to exclude the *other* aces who ~don’t belong)

It’s just weird to see the rhetoric I’ve spent years wading through and fighting against resurfacing and circulated by asexual people who consider themselves inclusionists. Exclusionism is rarely “no ace person is welcome under any circumstance,” but rather “if you don’t ALSO have this other identity to make you valid, you don’t belong” along with “it’s fine if you’re ace as a side thing to this More Valid Identity, just keep quiet about it and don’t act like ace issues matter” for those they do allow in.

This isn’t really for reblogging bc I’m too exhausted to type out all the common red flags. but. Absolutely urge aces and ace-supportive people to really examine what they boost and what it actually means to be an inclusionist.

Okay I’m a little more awake now I’m going to dig into this a bit more.  

To start, “inclusionism” isn’t just saying “asexuality/aromanticism exist,” but it’s acknowledging them as inherently queer identities.  This includes aces/aros who doesn’t also have same-gender attraction.  

I’m gonna throw out some really common ones that I see flying under the radar or absorbed into the language of people who consider themselves inclusionist.  Some of these are more blatant than others so this definitely isn’t a “you’re bad if you do any of these things” callout list, but rather “these trends source from exclusionist rhetoric and subtly reinforce those ideas.”

  • Using “queer aces” as a subcategory of “aces”–implying that there are aces who don’t count as queer, which is the dictionary definition of exclusionism
  • “Q slur” – removing the umbrella altogether, and narrowing the community down to only the individual letters of L, G, B, and T.
  • Trying to replace “queer” with “gay” as an umbrella term (which also has elements of “drop the T” transphobia, giving trans people the same “you must ALSO have a more valid identity to enter” requirement).  
  • “Queer should just refer to same-gender attraction”–also lowkey transphobic.  Watch out for “queer trans people vs. straight trans people” as well.
  • Saying that they support asexuality in general, but insisting someone must have a More Valid Identity to be welcome in the queer community: i.e. cis aroaces aren’t welcome, but trans aroaces are permitted only on the basis of being trans
  • “Gay and straight” dichotomies (again, lowkey transphobic.  this stuff goes hand in hand and has a long history)
  • This one is fuzzy because I’ve seen the term used more broadly than it used to be, but keep an eye out for uses of “cishet” that are clearly meant to include het aces
  • The aspec people who are ‘allowed in’ being expected to treat their asexuality/aromanticism as an irrelevant side detail 
  • Suppressing or mocking discussions of aphobia, or acting like they’re side discussions irrelevant to queerness
  • Bad faith arguments vs. common aspec language such as “biromantic,” “aspec,” or “allo”
  • Insisting that people go by their romantic orientation as a primary identity–for example, if someone is bi ace, they should primarily focus on themselves as “bisexual,” framing it as internalized biphobia to do otherwise.  In turn, that het aces would be required to just go by “straight” (and, thus, part of The Enemy)
  • Treating asexual/aromantic identities as some sort of rivalry or distraction vs. more ‘valid’ identities
  • Treating identifying as aspec as a risk or danger to someone finding their true identity

Some past posts I’ve written may be helpful reads too, including how many aces still support exclusionism and how exclusionism harms even the aces that are ‘allowed in.’

Take care of yourselves and be careful!

another one that i didnt see on this list is if they say aspec/aro/ace are modifiers rather than their own sexualities/identities

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FAQ - What are the stereotypes of asexual and aromantic characters?

These are just a few of the most harmful and common ones. Longer lists can be found here and here, and a list of asexual characters in popular fiction can be found here

  • Ace/aro nonhuman - robots, aliens, undead, etc. Can lead to the conclusion that ace/aro people are less than a whole person, or lacking emotion, which is a harmful stereotype that many ace/aro people deal with in their daily lives. This can be combated by showing the ace/aro character before they become undead, or by including a human ace/aro character in your story. Ideally, write the character as being likeable and sympathetic. Several things can be done to make them feel more nuanced and whole, in a way that diverts the stereotype regardless of the traits people often equate to non-human-ness.
  • Asexual/Aromantic villain - using a character’s lack of interest in sex/romantic relationship to make them seem uncaring or emotionless, and thus, cruel and villainous. If you are going to include an asexual or aromantic villain, do not make them seem emotionless, or have their evil motives be linked to their asexuality or aromanticism. I’d also include some other single allo people, so you don’t fall into the common trend of having everyone but the villain in a romantic/sexual relationship. Including non-villain asexual/aromantic characters always helps with this, as well! 
  • Traumatized Asexual - having a character come to identify as asexual after surviving sexual assault. Although this is something that does happen for many people, it can lead to some bad takeaway messages without clarity and care given to the subject (such as the idea that asexuality is something to be “cured” and that it is an inherently unhealthy, bad thing). If done, it needs to be written with plenty of attention and discussion around it, and portrayal of asexuality cannot be painted as being an unhealthy coping mechanism for an actually allosexual character.
  • Cold, distant ace/aro - often when ace/aro character is included in a story, they are portrayed as unfeeling or emotionless. This is an issue because this is a stereotype many ace/aro people battle in real life, and it is not a universal experience. If your ace/aro character seems relatively unfeeling to you, add a scene or two that shows their emotional range! If you feel it’s important to keep the character as is, consider discussing this stereotype in your story, and having it be something your character takes note of. Many people of any orientation can be cold and distant, and feeling a lot in very visible (or even concealed) ways is not necessary to be a compassionate and good person. Be ready to write these traits in ways that are sympathetic and likeable. Come to the end message that your character is not unfeeling or emotionless because they are asexual/aromantic. 
  • Fix-it asexual - someone who calls themselves asexual because they’re “too shy” or “too awkward” to get a partner, treating asexuality as a temporary condition that can be fixed with the right relationship, or a choice someone makes because they’re tired with the dating world or were spurned by someone. There’s no appropriate way to include a character like this. They aren’t ace, they’re a repressed allosexual. 
  • Ambiguously Asexual - when a character could easily be accepted as canonically asexual, but it is never confirmed. This is upsetting because it tempts ace people with representation they rarely get, and oftentimes the unconfirmed asexual characters end up in sexual relationships, to try to make the story seem palatable to a society that isn’t used to storylines with asexual characters. To combat this, confirm your character’s asexuality! If your allosexual character goes through struggles with wanting a relationship, their sexual desires, etc, make a distinction between this struggle, and the struggle between accepting one’s asexuality. 
  • Autistic = Asexual - This isn’t something to avoid, so much as be educated about doing properly. There are lots of autistic people who are also asexual, and lots of people whose neurodivergence and asexuality are hard to parse out separately for those people. There are even specific terms coined for folks whose identities stem from their neurodivergence. However, when writing these characters, and characters not like them but who share one identity, it’s usually the case that people will try and say something oppressive like, “don’t worry, I’m not like those autistic/asexual people,” which throws the other group under the bus. It’s not okay to use traits and identities of a marginalized group to try and hold yourself (or your characters) above them. It is okay to include them in your story, but they deserve to be represented in a way that is accurate and does right by people with this experience.
  • Asexual = Desexualization - This isn’t true, and is a very harmful idea to promote. Asexuality is an identity, an orientation, a sense of self, and does not have to do with sex itself. It’s about attraction, specifically the lack of it. Someone being asexual does not remove who they are as a whole person, or disqualify them from talking about sex or participating in it if they want to. Desexualization and oversexualization stem from the idea of projecting ideas onto someone in a way which limits them, rather than allowing people to have autonomy and their own voice. There are asexual people in every other demographic and it’s worth it to not erase (erACE haha) that experience.

If you want to include any of these in your story, please send in an ask so we can assist you in doing it properly, or research on the stereotype! Whether or not a portrayal is harmful is up to authors, and we are happy to to help you create unique, accurate asexual/aromantic representation in fiction!

Want to do more research? Check out this article on ace characters, this article on ace and aro characters, and this guide on writing aro/ace characters!

Here is a post specific to writing ace POC. We recommend doing more research with material and narratives created and lead by ace POC on these topics. This post does not include enough information on that, as we are still learning ourselves. (And we welcome any info from racialized ace folks who want to add/recommend anything on this subject!)

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terfs in the discourse tag

We have terfs who admit that ace discourse was their first step towards radfem ideas. We’ve had multiple break downs of how terfs and radfems try to radialize other people by using ace/bi/pan/nb/queer/etc. discourse. We’ve had multiple break downs of how popular exclusionist arguments use the same faulty logic and arguments that radfems use.

Can exclusionists maybe finally admit that this is a problem and either drop the discourse entirely or try to come up with arguments that aren’t copied from radfems?

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korrasera

This is really important to recognize, because exclusionists don’t often want to recognize this dirty little truth about their community.

note how the “queer is (always) a slur (and should never be used, even to talk about yourself or the queer community or queer academia)” nonsense is directly mentioned as point 2 on the aphobe to TERF pipeline

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How NOT to write an ace or aro character

If you’re writing a story and you’re trying to include an ace or aro character that is either A. a robot, B. a monster, or C. an alien, …while all the other characters in your story are human beings/more humanoid than your ace/aro character, …then maybe you should try a bit harder on your representation because aces and aros are commonly seen as robotic/less human for lacking attraction. In real life, we are often told that sex, romance, or attraction is what makes us human. 

If you’re writing a story and you’re trying to include an ace or aro character and that character is the most naive, childish, innocent, or immature one among a group of characters that are around the same age as that character, …then maybe you should try a bit harder on your representation because aces and aros are often told that they don’t experience attraction because they are late bloomers who will grow up to feel it, and they are often infantilized in real life. 

If you’re writing a story and you’re trying to include a neurodivergent ace or aro character and that character is the only one that’s not neurotypical, or if you treat their lack of attraction as a symptom, …then maybe you should try a bit harder on your representation because aces and aros often have their lack of attraction seen  and treated as a physical or mental health issue that can be fixed or changed. Our lack of attraction is seen as abnormal and people like to make our orientations their business. 

If you’re writing a story and you have your ace or aro character become romantically or sexually attracted to a character at the end of your story that ends up being “the one”, then you NEED to take a lot of care in writing the development of the relationship between those two characters and forming a close bond between them from start to end, and you need to explicitly establish that that character is demisexual or demiromantic, …or else it’s not good representation.  

This is so important to understand! (Also some NSFW stuff below, talking about asexuality and sex. To skip, press the J button on your keyboard)

I would also like to add that asexuality, like all orientations, exists on a spectrum—which should come across in your writing. For example, myself and my friend both identify as asexual very firmly at the moment. I’m filthy minded, experience libido and generally have an open mind to sex, I just don’t feel the attraction. She on the other hand is, as far as I know, pretty fine with writing a nice bit of smut but probably wouldn’t match up with the other stuff that I do (which has led to some hilarious conversations, namely “but what would you want with lube?” which I had to shut down with “You don’t want me to answer that”)

The point I’m trying to make it that while I agree with all of this, particularly the infantalisation bit, it’s also okay to show the range of asexuality, which does include naivety. Being asexual is pretty common, and there is no reason why you can’t have more than one asexual character and some comparisons (while still being firm on the fact that they are all asexual). I for one would really, really love to see that.

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I just wanna add that aromanticism exists on a spectrum too and its range is just as wide as the asexual one. An aro can love romance, hate it, maybe only like it a little, or for others and not themselves, etc.

Just like with what @artattemptswriting said about more than one ace, you can have more than one aro character on different parts of the aro spectrum.

I also wanna mention aro =/= ace all the time. While a character can be both, make sure to NOT imply that aro and ace are the same thing.

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pls give me 1(one) reason aces have ever been oppressed, and 1(one) example of aces being a part of lgbt history(before 2004 at least) and then maybe i’ll consider the idea that aces belong in the lgbt community lol

Proof of the existence of asexuals in LGBT+ communities before 2000:

The Golden Orchid association (1644-1949) - a group of women in China that included lesbians, bisexuals, and “women who wanted to avoid both marriage options, and any romantic or sexual partnership” that today we would call asexual or aromantic. 

A book published in 1999 supports the previous link of someone’s personal experience, and notes that asexuals could be considered part of Kinsey’s “Group 3″ (the bisexuals) because they were “about equally homosexual and heterosexual” and “have no strong preferences for one or the other” just like bisexuals. 

A source from 1999 noting that, while some female-female relationships in the early to mid-twentieth century were obviously lesbian relationships, not all of them were, but that it would be a mistake to label them all “friendships”. It specifically notes that asexual partnered relationships also existed. 

This book describes a series of interviews done in 1990 by Catherine Whitney who interviewed heterosexual women married to gay men, and found that they were often asexual. It also describes how, in 1990, Ann Landers (a very popular advice columnist) asked her readers if married couples could enjoy a full life without sex and was flooded with 35,000 responses from people of all ages who had little or no sex and didn’t miss it. It also describes how “Boston marriage” was originally coined with a not-necessarily-always-accurate implication that such a relationship between women was nonsexual, but that later on the assumption was reversed to imply women in a sexual lesbian relationship, and how that caused some women involved in such relationships to hide the asexual nature of their relationships for fear of being called frauds by the larger lesbian community.

This 1997 book that states “To be a Kinsey 3 (bisexual) is to be equally attracted to men and women, i.e. completely bisexual…it is also to be equally unattracted to men and women, i.e. completely asexual. Bisexuality is never about two, only about one – asexual, or self-fulfilling – or three – continuously and equally attracted to both men and women”.

Proof of asexuality being considered as a concrete, distinct orientation before 2000:

A 1983 issue of the Journal of Sex Research studied the Mental Health Implications of Sexual Orientation among heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, and asexual people. 

The article “Asexuality as Orientation: Some Historical Perspectives” describes different historical studies on asexuality, including a study from Johnson in 1977 where the word asexual was used to describe women “regardless of physical or emotional condition, actual sexual history, and marital status or ideological orientation, [who] seem to prefer not to engage in sexual activity”. It also describes a 1980 study by Storms who included asexual as one of four orientation categories when mapping out sexual orientation. It also describes a 1983 study by Nurius that found out of 685 participants, 5% of males and 10% of females were asexual. It also describes a 1990 study by Berkley et al. that included questions “related to homosexuality, heterosexuality, and asexuality” and included four items (out of 45) that were specific to asexuality. 

This book published in 1922 contains a lot of what I personally would describe as narcissism and pseudo-science, but acknowledges asexuality nonetheless: “In addition to the ordinary distinctive males and females, we have asexuals, homosexuals, bisexuals, and old women of both sexes.”

This book from 1996 that notes “A transsexual may have a heterosexual orientation, a homosexual orientation, a bisexual orientation – or an asexual orientation” and clarifies that “a very small number – are asexual or bisexual.”

This book mentions a study by Malyon in 1981 that noted the options available to gay and lesbian teenagers choosing whether, or how, to come out by “[describing] three possible modes of adaptation in adolescence: repression of sexual desire, suppression of homosexual impulses in favor of heterosexual or asexual orientation, or a homosexual disclosure.”

Kinds of oppression that asexuals face:

Eunjung Kim wrote a chapter titled “How Much Sex Is Healthy? The Pleasures of Asexuality” that describes how “the absence of sexual desires, feelings, and activities is seen as abnormal and reflective of poor health” in Western contemporary culture “because of the explicit connection between sexual activeness and healthiness” and argues that “medical explanations of asexuality as an abnormality that has to be corrected constitute a large part of the stigmatization and marginalization experienced by asexual people.” It also discusses the ways in which some groups, specifically Asian American males, that are desexualized can erase the space for asexual Asian American men to simply exist.

There was a recent study by the AAU to identify sexual assault on college campuses, and broke down the responders to their survey by sexual orientation, including asexual. The results clearly show that asexuals are not immune to unwanted sexual contact, stalking, intimate partner violence, or sexual harassment.

A chapter of “Asexualities: Feminist and Queer Perspectives” that notes the specific way that asexual people are talked to/about: “Because asexual difference cannot be iterated in the linguistic field where sex and a sexed position dominate the discourse of sexuality and desire, the asexual subject is linguistically and visually dismantled and reconstructed in the position of a fetish object. This fetishistic conversion happens because the asexual person is made into an image, or spectacle, for consumption.” and “The difference between the unassailable asexual (someone who lacks all of the traits commonly blamed for asexuality such as past history of abuse, disability, etc.) and the spectacular asexual is that while the unassailable asexual allegedly makes asexuality digestible for a skeptical public and presents an accessible image, the spectacular asexual is always consumed as a fetish object, regardless of mental health, ability, and gender.”

The study “Intergroup bias toward “Group X”: Evidence of prejudice, dehumanization, avoidance, and discrimination of asexuals” is exactly what it sounds like. The article’s abstract states: “In two studies (university student and community samples) we examined the extent to which those not desiring sexual activity are viewed negatively by heterosexuals. We provide the first empirical evidence of intergroup bias against asexuals (the so-called “Group X”), a social target evaluated more negatively, viewed as less human, and less valued as contact partners, relative to heterosexuals and other sexual minorities. Heterosexuals were also willing to discriminate against asexuals (matching discrimination against homosexuals). Potential confounds (e.g., bias against singles or unfamiliar groups) were ruled out as explanations.”

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality describes many issues that asexuals face, including: how asexuality is seen as “invisible” and lends to people thinking it does not exist, how asexuality is actively erased as “unimportant” or not its own identity, the explicitly and implicitly negative messages associated with a lack of sexual attraction, the fear asexuals face when they believe there is something physically or psychologically wrong with them for being asexual, the belief asexuals face about how they must be deeply flawed since they do not conform to other sexual identities, how asexuals face cultural ideologies that sexuality is biologically based and ubiquitous (that all humans possess sexual desire) and that don’t acknowledge asexuality, that to describe oneself as asexual is a statement of moral superiority or purity or failure to find a suitable partner, that asexuality is an immature state they will “grow out of”, that asexuality is a description of action or a preference, that asexuality is unnatural or unhealthy or has to be a symptom of something else, etc.

Asexuality has been shown in the media in a negative light for decades, reflecting the idea that (for various reasons steeped in classism and racism) any woman who wasn’t willing to marry and procreate was a threat to the status quo, as seen in this 1955 book that notes: “Women who did not marry incurred political and social scorn for another reason. The influx of eastern and southern European immigrants in the United States pushed the question into eugenic terms–the wrong people were reproducing. Educated women came primarily from white middle- and upper-class stock, the most desired element by dominant social norms. When these women refused to marry and reproduce, they forced a new concern into the public discourse. it is not a coincidence that the stereotypical asexual unmarried older woman emerged at this time as a source of popular humor.”

Some people in some religions are very explicit about hating asexuals specifically because they are asexual, seeing asexuality as “a perversion akin to homosexuality and bestiality”. 

Other religions see asexuals as actually sinful if they choose not to have sex with their spouse.

While not every member of every religion looks down on asexuals, many people in portions of various religions choose to view asexuals negatively

Because of these religious beliefs about asexuality, that also opens up asexuals to discrimination in various legal ways, including (but not limited to) things like the new adoption bill in Texas

Asexuality was implicitly pathologized until very recently, and even now, the DSM-V states that a diagnosis of HSDD may not be given only if the patient has a preexisting knowledge of asexuality and chooses to ID that way.

TL;DR

Asexuals have long been considered part of the bisexual community. When people used to talk about bisexuals, it included asexuals because asexuals were the bisexuals too. Bisexual history is asexual history.

Asexuals have also long been considered as a stand-alone orientation that was part of larger non-straight communities and could be studied in comparison to other sexual orientations. 

Asexuals face many of the same issues that other marginalized orientations face as well as issues specific to their orientation. These include erasure, medicalization, misidentification, harassment, rape specifically targeted at them for being asexual, and religious intolerance, to name just a few.  

None of this is exhaustive. There are more sources to be found and studied. 

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