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Teach about asexuality in schools 2K16
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aroace kevin??
Aro!ace!Kevin who doesn’t even realize that he’s different until high school, when the other boys at church start getting a lot less subtle about their attentions to the girls and the jokes they bandy around when the youth group leader isn’t paying attention. Aro!ace!Kevin who laughs along awkwardly and says, when they ask him who he’s got his eye on, that he’s saving himself for after his mission. Aro!ace!Kevin who hears about the homosexuals the church disapproves of and wonders, for a moment, what it would feel like to want something so badly you’d go after it, even if you damned yourself in the process. It reminds him a bit too much of his own desires (even though they’re nothing alike, obviously), and instead he wonders how anyone could like men (or women) enough to give up the church. They must be crazy; there’s nothing better than the church and its promises. Aro!ace!Kevin who meets Elder McKinley and realizes that, yes, there are people who can’t help it at all, and they’re not just choosing it, the way he sort of assumed they were. He meets Arnold, who falls for an African girl who, by all standards, is one of the most beautiful people Kevin has ever seen. And Kevin doesn’t feel anything. Aro!ace!Kevin who loves his friends, he’s sure of that, but he never feels the desire to push beyond that, to find out what it feels like to press his lips against someone else’s, what’s it’s like to go from 1st base to 2nd to 3rd to home, to bring someone home to meet his parents and have them ask “So when’s the wedding?”, to daydream with them about the life they’ll have together, fragile and tentative and dream-like, but powered by love. Aro!ace!Kevin who starts to think that he’s spent so much time and energy focusing on what he wants in the afterlife that he can’t focus on anyone else now, and half throws himself into ‘loving’ (doing favors for, hanging around, constantly talking to) his friends in hopes it’ll make up for what he’s done and half falls into a sullen sort of hopelessness, because he’s ruined himself and any chance at happiness because he was such a goddamn selfish child. Aro!ace!Kevin who finally gets confronted by someone, who demands he tell them what’s wrong because he’s acting like a crazy person, and he realizes they think he’s going to commit suicide. Aro!ace!Kevin who tells them everything, who yells it in their face so then they’ll just leave him alone, the way he deserves. Aro!ace!Kevin who’s friends don’t understand, but they know they love him and that he… well, he acts like he loves them and he’s clearly not a psychopath, so he must be okay, right? And they love him anyway. Aro!ace!Kevin who attends weddings like everyone else but squirms and averts his eyes through the whole ceremony and acts like he only came for the party afterwards (even though he wants it, he wants to know what that feels like, to want to live your whole life with someone, to kiss them and have sex with them and be in love with them, because he has never, never felt that before. Aro!ace!Kevin who comes to terms with the fact that he’s different while he’s on his mission, and becomes almost okay with it by the time he and Arnold (and the new Mrs. Cunningham) step off the plane in Salt Lake City. Aro!ace!Kevin who is almost always at Arnold and Naba’s apartment after that, because he loves them more than anyone else in the world (except for Connor McKinley, who is currently a thousand miles away), and puts his all into the friendships he made in Uganda i stead of worrying about the women his family throws his way. Aro!ace!Kevin who, finally giving into his desire to know, once and for all, if there’s anyone else in the whole world who understands what this feels like, does some Google searching, and finds out that he’s not broken, and he’s not sick, and there are other people like him who are so proud of what they are that they go to parades for it, and have festivals and events and flags, and even though Kevin has never been a huge fan of green or purple he buys some t-shirts and flags and those black rings (which he replaces his purity ring with) and finally starts to feel good about himself, for the first time in a very, very long time.
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Asexual Awareness Week Fandom Challenge
Participate in this challenge in any way you want on Asexual Awareness Week (Oct 26 - Nov 1). Edits, gifs, fanart, fanfiction, fanmixes, just copy-pasting this and listing them out one by one, literally in any way you contribute to the fandom on a day to day basis.
Day 1: A male character you see as asexual.
Jughead Jones for Asexual Awareness Week
Character belongs to Archie Comics; art by me
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MAJOR NEWS FOR ACE VISIBILITY & REPRESENTATION!
“Archie Comics has released its preview of this week’s Jughead #4 with a very pleasant surprise for fans: Jughead openly acknowledges he is asexual in a casual conversation with gay pal Kevin Keller.
Jughead Jones is now unquestionably the highest profile openly asexual character in comics, joining almost no one (except Tremor of DC Comics’ The Movement) in representing asexual fans. Bravo, Archie Comics!”
Read the full piece and see the cover and more of the comic here
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person: i headcanon this character as asexual
me: hey right on
person: they're just so cute and innocent there's just no way i could ever see them being interested in sex
me: hold up
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stop calling aro/ace people ‘straight’ or ‘basically straight’ 2kever.
I’d appreciate if people could reblog this, because this is a thing that ace people constantly have to deal with. A huge number of people, especially the L and G (but I have seen it from bi and pan people too) love to claim asexuals are ‘secretly straight’ in order to exclude us in much the same way they try to exclude bi and pan people from the community.
Like I have literally received death threats and suicide provocation for saying that ace people belong in the community and nearly all of them called me ‘secretly straight’ or some variation there-of and I can’t be the only ace person who’s had to deal with this crap. We are not straight.
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I am Chinese and demisexual/demiromantic. Since I was young I’ve always been exposed to this idea that I was the “wrong kind of Asian” in terms of appearance because I wasn’t a hypersexualized, perfect thin, tall, pale Asian doll. I was awkward, I had a lot of acne, I didn’t have a good fashion sense, and was constantly afraid of other people thinking I was “too fobby” and undesirable (mostly because of all the microaggressions I got from peers). Part of the way I dealt with this fear was having a lot of casual sex in high school. People thought I was naive and didn’t like sex because of my repressive Asian culture so I wanted to prove them wrong. I hated it every time. I didn’t understand why I didn’t enjoy it. I felt like a failure because I couldn’t be a cool, confident, sexual, and desirable Asian woman, the only kind I knew that got respect, and if not respect then they got attention (I am trans but identified as a girl back then). I felt used. I felt guilty because I was using others. This led to a lot of bad situations where I experienced sexual assault, because I didn’t know I was allowed to say no. I couldn’t bring myself to say no and fail trying to be this person I desperately wanted to be. Being on the ace/aro spectrum has influenced my trans identity as well. When much of the LGBT+ community proves itself by saying “we love/fuck just like you, cis straights! Probably even better!” It can leave you very alone and inferior if you don’t feel sexual and/or romantic attraction. I’ve also had a lot of sex trying to prove my identity as a queer woman before I accepted I was trans (which was around the same time I realized I am ace aro). At this point in my life though, I’ve accepted that I am Chinese, trans, ace, and aro. I’m learning how to fulfill my emotional needs without sex or romance. I’m reconnecting with my Chinese heritage and working on deconstructing my internalized racism. Something that’s helped me a lot is talking to other ace aro poc on tumblr and finally finding a community who understands me. I’m really glad this day is a thing!
person: sex is fun and natural and brings people together!
me, an aseuxal: okay...............that sounds fake but alright
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So, well, I'm 18 and have been gay since I was 11. And just, sort of, came to terms with the fact I'm asexual. What do I do now? I'm not sure what to do with this information or how to proceed. Any advice would be a blessing, thank you.
What do you like doing? What makes you happy? Do that. You’ve come to terms with the fact that you’re asexual and that’s awesome! And now you go about your life. Who you decide to share this information with (if any at all) is up to you. It can just be something personal. That’s okay. But like really, just live your life as you want to.
-Kieren
#im reblogging this because when i finally realized i was asexual i still felt??? like something was missing#like i was supposed to DO something with this information#but really nothing changes#nothing changes but now you know yourself a bit better than the day before#asexual stuff#queer stuff#asexual resources#queer resources#it comes back to queue in the end
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#yes ALL aces
support sex repulsed aces support sex positive aces support sex neutral aces support sex negative aces support sex indifferent aces support sex favorable aces support aces who are ace because they’ve been abused support aces who’ve never been abused in their lives support aces who love chicken nuggets and dinosaurs support aces who don’t fit ace stereotypes support alloromantic aces support aromantic aces support aces who aren’t comfortable with their orientation support aces who couldn’t be more proud of being ace support neurodivergent aces support cold and detached aces support flirty aces support disabled aces support aces who have sex support aces who don’t have sex support trans aces support cis aces support aces who are constantly hated for who they are support aces who are surrounded by loving and accepting people support nonbinary aces support ace people of color support aces who are told they don’t exist support aces who are told that it’s just a phase
SUPPORT ALL ACES
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SO, YOU’RE 13 YEARS OLD AND YOU READ THE WORD “ASEXUAL” ON TUMBLR AND NOW YOU THINK YOU ARE ASEXUAL?? That’s amazing, i’m happy for you, it’s wonderful that you found the word so early, there are so many people who spent years feeling broken and wish they learned about asexuality earlier, also keep in mind that your feelings are valid, no matter if they might change on day, you are important and precious and i got your back, little friend.
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psa: stop treating asexuals like they are incredibly innocent children who have a weird obsession with dinosaurs/dragons/unicorns/ect because this stereotype is actually kinda belittling and degrading because not wanting to fuck people doesn’t make you a child who only wants to draw with crayons and eat mac n cheese fuck off with your “uwu” bullshit.
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Petition for homoromantic aces to call themselves gayces
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50shadesofacceptance
Please spread this it’s fantastic
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Never, ever assume asexuals have it easy.
Asexuality is growing up under the assumption you are a late bloomer, and then the assumption you are broken. Asexuality is learning the word and still being afraid to define yourself as asexual because how can you say you don’t feel something you don’t even understand. Asexuality is coming out to people and having them laugh and tell you ‘when you find the one’ Asexuality is trying to enter spaces that promise acceptance and being told ‘but you’re straight’ Asexuality is trying to enter a relationship, worried that if you tell them they won’t give you a chance and worried if you don’t you’re just leading them onAsexuality is living in a culture that finds sex so vital half the world revolves around it, and never understanding Asexuality is being told you have it easy, so often you doubt any of your problems are real
So no. It’s not easy.
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Ace Pen Pal Project
OK, so I hadn’t intended to come out with this one JUST yet, but since I’ve seen the post going around stating that we need this, I’ll go ahead and strike while the iron is hot.
Being someone who has always been enamored of the Pen Pal idea, I thought it would be cool to introduce something like this into the ace community to help people make ace friends and meet new people. The idea was cemented at the conference after I saw how uplifted people were to be around others like themselves.
So, I’m introducing my Ace Pen Pal project. The system is easy enough; anyone who’s interested in participating can fill out this form and I will use the information to match them up (to the best of my ability) with another participant.
There are no restrictions at this point, though there will be vetting to help prevent trolls from getting in. All you need to do is fill out the form and you’ll be matched up. You can choose preferred contact methods (blog, e-mail, address, whichever you like), preferred genders and ages, etc.
So, that being outlined, you can join via the link below, and please let me know if you have any questions or concerns!