#ugh – @elisera on Tumblr

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kinnporsche

asavapatr

MILE PHAKPHUM as KINN & APO NATTAWIN as PORSCHE KINNPORSCHE: THE SERIES (2022)

#ugh #kinnporsche

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mirrorofprinces

yeetlegay

I love the fact that Kinn introduces himself as a mafia heir and Porsche introduces himself as the man who loves him/the man Kinn loves because it implies that Porsche’s job is literally to love and be loved. Porsche said fuck capitalism my paycheck is kisses and my office is Kinn’s lap 😤

#UGH #the way they have my entire fucking heart this days #well #they're in a timeshare with mileapo but NO ONE MINDS THAT #the futures I want for them #kpts

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pinetreelady

astrabear

The tough thing about boundaries is that it’s not enough to state them, you have to enforce them.

I think some folks see “setting boundaries” as a kind of magic talisman to influence other people’s behavior. “I’ll tell you what I need or can’t accept, and you will act accordingly.” And sometimes that’s what happens, and that’s great! But if the other person disregards your stated boundaries, it doesn’t mean setting boundaries didn’t work.

Because boundaries aren’t about others’ behavior, they’re about your own. If the other person’s behavior doesn’t change, then yours has to. “Please don’t discuss [x topic] with me” is a request. “If you continue to talk about [x topic] then I will end this conversation/hang up/leave” is a boundary, which you must then enact. The point is less about stopping the other person (although that’s ideal) and more about protecting yourself. And you have to be committed to protecting yourself, because no one else will be.

You have to be so committed that you’re willing to tolerate other people being hurt or angry or uncomfortable. You have to accept that some relationships might change. You have to hold onto the idea that it’s all right for them to change, because the way they were before was hurting you, and you deserve to not be hurt. You gave them a choice: maintain a relationship or keep doing the thing that hurts you, and they chose to keep hurting you, so if the situation is now awkward or unpleasant that was because of their choice. Enforcing boundaries means deciding that if someone is going to feel bad here, it need not be always and only you.

There is no magic formula that will make other people treat you kindly and respectfully. But you can learn to treat yourself with kindness and respect. That’s what enforcing a boundary is.

#still trying to learn that #ugh #do you know how exhausting this shit is #ANYWAY #you can't change others #only yourself #boundaries