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I think, we need to be prepared that, when uterus transplants and pregnancy become available for trans women, there will be cis people claiming that wanting to abort is inherently less womanly. Stereotypes about horrible liberal women who get pregnant and have abortions for fun will be repurposed for transmisogyny. And we need to be prepared to fight against this and remind about reproductive rights as one of the core principles of equal rights.
I know there's gonna be the first trans woman to have an abortion, and I know transphobes are going to be fucking vile about it and claim it proves trans women have inherently a more shallow connection to womanhood, so I'm saying it in advance that none of it is going to be justifiable in the slightest, and she will need our support.
I've had a chat with a woman named Suad and she's trusted me to share her story with you all.
Suad is a young engineer from Gaza who was excelling in her field, and had recently been told that she is pregnant. She had a bright future ahead of her until disaster struck and Israel and their constant bombings destroyed everything she holds dear.
She and her husband are now living out of a tent like many Gazans now. They have had to struggle to find food and water, and not only this, but Suad is also trying to nurture an unborn baby without access to adequate food and the prenatal care that a pregnant mother needs.
She is fundraising now to get herself, along with her husband and their family members out of Gaza. They require $20,000 to get out of Gaza and an additional $8,000 for transfer costs and living expenses in Egypt.
(ID in Alt)
As of right now, they have made only $2,732 of their goal and their situation is urgent. Suad is now nearly 9th months along and will be giving birth to her child very soon in very dangerous conditions for both herself and the baby.
Please donate whatever you can to this fundraiser, and if you cannot donate, I urge you to share!
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A screenshot of a reddit post with the title:
My ovulation tracker suddenly asked what state I live in
And flared: "burn the patriarchy" in all caps.
The body of the post reads:
It said telling them was required to continue using the app
The fuck it is.
I deleted it immediately. Like I'm gonna risk police showing up to my door if I miss a month due to non-pregnancy reasons.
Update: I just went to the tracker's spot in the App Store to leave a review warning other potential users. According to the last few reviews that were written, I am not the first user since the last update who noticed and immediately deleted. [the word "not" is in caps]
I have no problem naming and shaming the app, but I'm unsure if it's allowed. If a moderator could let me know if I'm allowed to name the app or not, I'd really appreciate it!
Edit #2: I've gotten permission to name the app as long as we don't go brigading. The app is called Ovia. Avoid it like plague! [The word Ovia is bolded]
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It always shocks me when I bring up trans men’s issues - specially issues common in the south/more conservative/rural areas - to someone who makes their whole thing being a ‘trans advocate’ and they just don’t know what I’m talking about .
I mentioned how common it is - especially in more conservative Christian places - for trans men to be set up with a husband by their family and then be forcibly impregnated as a way to make them detransition to someone who runs a whole blog about ‘spreading awareness about trans issues’ and she looked at me like I was crazy and said “woah I never knew that happened to trans men.”
She knew about and understood that that stuff happens to cis women, but she never thought it happened to trans men… like come on.
Many years ago I tried to talk online about how often the partners or friends of trans men and transmasc people would try to get them pregnant to derail/slow/stop their transition if they didn't approve of some aspect of their transitioning - Both in the sense of medical transition (Because if you're pregnant, you're usually told to stop taking T, and you can't get top or bottom surgery while you're pregnant) and social transition (because, especially early in transition when a lad might not have much facial hair yet, a visible pregnancy belly and bigger breasts is feminising in the eyes of onlookers).
In response I was told that this was dysphoria talking, that this having happened to one of my friends in the past was just a weird one-off accident, absolutely nobody's fault and definitely not a predictable pattern of abuse or a conscious act by his partner! Anyway, eight years later, I've heard of the same thing happening to six more people that are either my own friends or friends-of-friends, and the partner of the original example proudly admits to sabotaging his birth control because "It was worth it to have our daughter".
I live in a big, very queer-friendly big European city now and even here I have met a trans masc who spoke at a local event about his experience of trying to get on HRT where he was denied by several different therapists on grounds of him being married to a man and having young children, because if he goes on T and his husband no longer finds him feminine and fuckable enough, it could break up the marriage. It sounded like his husband is a decent guy and supportive at least, many don't have that.
Having grown up in a very poor rural area, I'm sadly all too familiar with cases where ppl got pressured into having children by not only their partner but also their entire family & community, often as a form of control, for example to prevent them from leaving a bad or even abusive relationship.
Lou Sullivan's mother's reaction when he came out was to tell him she wished she could've done the same when she was young, but she was a Catholic wife and mother of 6 in a time and place where she didn't and couldn't have that kind of freedom. Lou, on the other hand, was born in a different time and was actually able to opt out of marriage and pregnancy in his youth, making it possible for him to be independent and afford to medically transition.
If you think about it even a little bit, it's not hard to see what likely happened to most trans men throughout history, and it remains an on-going issue.
My first HRT provider was incredibly reluctant to prescribe me testosterone and one of the reasons was because I am married to a cis man. It was clear she thought me starting HRT would break up the marriage or result in violence. Her solution was to try to prevent me from transitioning at all. She spent a lot of time describing her patients who detransitioned after starting HRT and threw out a casual "and you want to be cautious right?" as if the 30-something Southerner in front of her who fled a southern state at 18 to escape an oppressively Christofascist family didn't know shit about caution.
This was in a midwest city in the United States that considers itself progressive. Getting HRT was an uphill hurdle for me despite having previously had top surgery and having a letter of recommendation of support from my therapist I had seen regularly for years at that point.
And even when she finally caved she would only prescribe me low dose and insisted she only prescribed IM injections or the expensive HRT stickers (I forget the name) that she insisted insurance would not cover. I was stuck going in for in person IM injections until I switched providers with help from my therapist. It was much easier after that but I still think about her and the damage she's still likely causing for other trans people.
Bro strider unplanned pregnancy. Bro strider researching his options. Bro strider driving out of state for an abortion
quick somebody wheres the post about how the fetuses in daves room are bros abortions he gave to him as a gift and someone calls them "abrotions"
Someone sent this to me as a "gotcha -is this feminism?" moment and I sincerely have to ask... is there something wrong with you? You can CALL OUT western and us imperialist violence against Yemenis right now in the same breath as bringing awareness to issues like sexual violence being committed by Yemen's Houthi forces. In the same way Sudanese creators and activists, were asking people to be reflexive about South Africa. It would be different if one didn't acknowledge the atrocities happening everywhere -and it would be hypocritical of me, as a feminist, for example, to say no women could ever be wrong or evil, for instance -but there are PLENTY of problematic women on this planet I don't align with at all, and quite frankly there are one's I find despicable.
So for those who were unaware, like I was, this has been and is happening to Ethiopian women, and we should be talking about this too. Women and children are ALWAYS the one's disproportionately attacked, murdered, and violated during conflicts, wars, and tensions. Even when these countries vehemently deny it is happening or happens, I will always believe victims and survivors of sexual abuse and violence. I am appalled I didn't know about this sooner.
"Women are facing sexual violence and harassment by all parties on the ground," a spokesperson who researches migration issues at Mwatana for Human Rights, a Yemeni NGO that documents atrocities in the country, told Middle East Eye. "We documented one example of a woman who was exposed to sexual violence for over five months, she was raped and got pregnant," the spokesperson said. "There are also many girls who are being trafficked," he added. The spokesperson's claims build on a mounting body of evidence of serious human rights violations by Yemen's warring sides. Human Rights Watch (HRW) has previously reported that the Houthi rebels, who control much of the country's north, are targeting Ethiopian women trying to cross into neighbouring Saudi Arabia. Afrah Nasser, a Yemeni non-resident fellow at the Arab Center Washington DC, said it was "distressing to hear the reports" considering the long and rich history between the two nations. "It is deeply distressing to hear reports of Ethiopian women being subjected to forced sexual slavery and sexual harassment," she said. "Such actions are not only heinous violations of those women's fundamental human rights but also reflect a wider pattern of gender-based violence and discrimination that occurs across all of Yemen going totally unaddressed."
psst. hey
people who are legal adults who want their tubes tied or top surgery etc etc should be able to do so full stop.
"oh but what if they regret it for the rest of their lives"
okay. so what.
Adults make decisions about our lives, that's what being an adult is. We may decide to get a face tattoo, or quit a promising job, or join the army, or move to another country.
That's practically all we do as adults. We make decisions that effect the rest of our life, and then we live, or sometimes die, accordingly. Maybe i'll spend the rest of my life regretting telling my influential boss he doesn't know his ass from a hole in the ground, but, as an adult, that's the kind of life decision i am allowed to make for myself. And after all, it might be the best thing i ever did. It's my life, and i get to do all the fucking around and all the finding out i want to.
surgical transition, or sterilization, or whatever... is exactly the same. If you aren't going to let a legally adult person decide for themself about that stuff, then you can't let them get a tattoo or move to Florida either
The right to be wrong is one of the most fundamental rights there is. If people try to take away your liberty whenever they think you'll regret your decisions, your liberty doesn't mean much.
The whole "adult" thing in this post drives me fucking insane. I don't even want to talk it out (okay, I did end up with a rant), just, if you think bodily autonomy only applies from a certain age, Fuck You. This is probably the most adultist post of that kind I've seen, usually they just mention "if they are old enough" and "[x category] are not children" like once each but this one literally makes the Entire Point that deserving autonomy is an adult thing.
The "legally adult" part also makes this so fucking laughable. Your right to autonomy is determined by your local laws! That is why there shouldn't be other local laws restricting your autonomy. Jesus fucking christ??
And fun how apparently according to the op at, for example, 12 y/o, you are not old enough to decide you never want to carry children, but are old enough to carry children, then, I guess!
Or not old enough to decide they don't want breasts, but old enough to live with unwanted breasts. Ee tee cee.
And less on the general topic but lol no, actually, if someone decides to join the army they are not making a choice about their autonomy only, they are also deciding, you know, to join the army. Which in many cases just means joining in on imperialism in an active part!
It's important to note that because she shared recordings of this interaction on TikTok, she was blacklisted from hospitals in her area and cannot now get proper treatment for the cluster headaches that are disabling her. They also threatened legal action against her, even though New York is a one-party state, meaning she may audio record any conversation in which she is a participant, anywhere not prohibited by law (such as courtrooms).
I think we should be not be punished for recording and sharing whatever medical interactions we want, provided they are of our own treatment, without fear of reprisal, and if hospitals and doctors want to not be publicly shamed or sued for discrimination they should just, I don't know, not be flaming fuckheads. And every single facility that has blacklisted her should be forced to pay the same penalty, as they are being equally discriminatory.
The entire medical system is a trash fire designed to kill people at their own expense.
Also important to note is that one of the nurses who refused Tara treatment sent social media messages to Tara's boyfriend discussing Tara's medical history despite him not being an approved person to share that information with
So I know I said I would do a post about my car but I need to help my neighbor's youngest daughter. Kendy is a 19 y/o nonbinary latina and has been SA'd by her abuser to try and force her to stay. She is currently 14 weeks and the police have been useless. Since she is so far along, she can only get an in clinic abortion which will cost $1375 for her area. I've had her apply already to try and get it at a discounted rate but she did not qualify. Considering I went through a similar scare in the spring, I really want to get her some help. She doesn't have paypal so I'm letting her put her card onto mine and Tea's however she does have her own cash app. I'm doing tarot and tea readings (pay what you can) and @scarsofbeauty is doing art commissions. Please consider helping her out! She is beyond terrified and is trying to leave but doesn't want any connections to him.
transphobes: going on T will make you infertile!!!!!! you'll never ever be able to get pregnant ever if you go on T!!!!! it will RUIN your uterus!!!!!!!!
literally every transmasc sex ed: Testosterone Is Not Birth Control we are literally begging you to wear condoms and be careful because you can absolutely get pregnant if your uterus is otherwise functioning. please for the love of God don't think T will keep you from getting pregnant because that's not how testosterone works
frankly this is another case of "transphobes have no idea what trans people find desirable" because if testosterone could make you infertile, temporarily or permanently, trans guys would be constantly posting about how much they love that. folks would be cheering about all the money they saved not getting a hysto. its like when people try to fearmonger about T by going "your clitoris will get large!!!!" like. yeah man. thats kind of the point.
tbh its been real funny watch you and your tbro crew act like the mention or idea of pregnancy and/fat people should be tagged like a live leak reupload.
theres people who get/are pregnant consensually. sometimes theyre even fat ! its ok ! i prommy
You're lying about what happened. The post was talking about a specific group of transmascs they didn't like, even vagueing about something specific I talked about, then said that they wanted to make us fat and pregnant. Stop lying, you know that that's not what happened. I don't mind fatness and pregnancy, I mind being talked about in this manner without my consent.
"You should be made fat and pregnant [against your will, because you've blatantly said you do not want to be pregnant on your blog in the past]" is a really different statement than "some people are quite happy to be fat and pregnant and I am talking specifically about those people"
cis women if you call yourself a trans ally but the concept of trans people with uteri disappears from your mind the second you start talking about reproductive autonomy your trans allyship is bullshit and so is your intersectionality. you have no fucking clue how terrifying it is to be trans with a uterus right now. you have no idea how many trans people suffer and die because of trans erasure in healthcare language. we see you talking about respecting pronouns while talking about "women's bodies" and "but if MEN could get pregnant–" either put the words "people who can get pregnant" and "reproductive transphobia" on your tongue or shut the fuck up.
& i wanna be real clear this post is not directed to terfs or conservative transphobes this is directed at YOU, the liberal/leftist cis woman reading this, who uses the right pronouns and says "why can't you just respect their gender!" but can't be fucking bothered to change how you talk about reproductive justice to include trans people. i don't wanna hear about your trans solidarity when it all crumbles to dust the minute you actually have to put in some effort. i don't wanna hear you whine about how the big mean trannys are making you be intersectional in a way that's upsetting your cis privilege while trans people die because they can't get fucking coverage for "women's health" procedures with M/X on their insurance
& if you think this means you shouldn't talk about misogyny, you are wrong and clearly don't talk to trans activists. trans people are constantly talking about we are affected by misogyny. you can talk about misogyny without misgendering trans people. ASK ME and I will give you tips for how to talk about reproductive justice while including trans people & the ways trans people are uniquely impacted by this. But I cannot express how fucking cheap your allyship feels when you quickly drop your trans-inclusive language to say the most cissexist shit about pregnancy
