btw, on the personal note here, and i know this has already been discussed, but you remember that 'i'd rather be in the forest with a bear than a man." yeah...
last night i was coming back from work, late. one of my colleagues gave me ride down town to catch up night tram, so i was waiting there but about 4 other people and this men just kept walking back and forth and he was looking at me. i was in my uniform, and i'm used that people just look at me while i'm wearing it, but he was looking at me and looking at the trolley bag i had with me. now, he walked up to me and said "do you need help with that?" "no, thanks." "it just it looks heavy, i can help." "it's not. thanks but no." now, keep in mind it's like 1am. he could be a thief. he could be on drugs. he could be a perv. i'm keeping it cold but polite because i really don't know how he is going to react. then i see it clicks with him. "i'm sorry, i just wanted to help, sorry about this." and he walked away on the other side of the platform. we get in the tram, i go on one end, he goes to the other. i'm silently praying he doesn't get out on the same stop like i do. he didn't. i walked home and i just kep thinking, maybe he really just wanted to be a good guy and help but... don't men really understand that this freaks out women so much? alarm bells ringing pretty much immediately? and yeah, i don't think they get it.