Sceleritas is so sweet and encouraging!
Backstory of my Durge (he is a trans man, and this pre- all that):
He is a "late bloomer" in his Urge. He was raised by a noble family, very strict parents. Through the years they knew something was wrong with their sorcerer prodigy, and made him hold in his Urge so badly, that he did not act on it and it festered. On the day he was arranged (forced) to be married, he snapped, and killed the whole household. Sceleritas finally came to him on that day, and he started his life anew.