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(retags) @the-trash-eating-llama @cow-stealin-gal

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Can't tag one because of my legal issues today. Vyra should know who by looking.

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I forgr yesterday was Saturday, so…. Happy Slimegirl Sunday! Me, in my outfit for pride!

GIF by andrewisdoing

.... what

You just now saw this? Better late than never I guess.

Yeah. College sucks and I've had a horrible few weeks

Well, here's to hoping life gets a bit better everyday! I can relate to something being horrid...

Yeah. On the plus side, I joined a new minecraft realm with my siblings so now I my minecraft hyperfixation has come back

Yaaaaaay! (I think?)

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I forgr yesterday was Saturday, so…. Happy Slimegirl Sunday! Me, in my outfit for pride!

GIF by andrewisdoing

.... what

You just now saw this? Better late than never I guess.

Yeah. College sucks and I've had a horrible few weeks

Well, here's to hoping life gets a bit better everyday! I can relate to something being horrid...

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Almost every Transgender Woman I have interacted with the past two days has been without reason.

Today especially, I take time to read what everyone is saying and quote or reference those words in my reply, if considered relevant.

I see almost nothing of respect in the responses, but I quote those responses anyway to show I am paying attention.

I also researched Tone Policing because I was blamed of that but did not understand. I will try to stick to fact and logic if at all possible.

Please understand I do want peace. I want a civilized discussion. We cannot have a civilized discussion without understanding and compromise.

Seriously, I would apologize if I could. Almost everyone I have talked to has blocked me and I cannot see reason to continue a pointless discussion.

Leave this topic alone. It is something I would like to consider done.

Also, almost all the heckling so far has been from cowards who would rather bully than show their stripes (anon asks).

The only ones that did show their stripes are blocked as well, some by them, some by me. Those were for different reasons.

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I forgr yesterday was Saturday, so…. Happy Slimegirl Sunday! Me, in my outfit for pride!

GIF by andrewisdoing

.... what

You just now saw this? Better late than never I guess.

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draco-the-voiddragon asked:

Oi, if someone gives you crap about this situation push whoever it is my way. I can take it. I've been blamed for both just and unjust things my whole life.

Anyone that tries to harass another should be reflecting on what words can do, too. Misinterpretation and lack of information are what make these situations worse.

Ask for whoever it is to copy parts of what is posted by you in response, then explain what is understood vs misinformation.

Use first person statements (I, me, my) as much as possible. Never use second person (you, your) to avoid the idea of blame being pushed around.

Make sure to do the same for what you respond with.

I hope ya take a break from Tumblr. This did not deserve to happen to anyone.

cow-stealin-gal answered:

Unrelated note:

Today I visited a local festival and then I was watched a movie (Inside Out 2) with food and drinks.

I played some games afterwards.

I had a pretty good time today.

Fun! What was the festival for?

Was the food good?

What games ys play?

Sorry for the radio silence, my phone died at 1 percent before I got the chance to take a picture of a keychain.

The festival was a mix of Hispanic/Latino culture (Mexico, Columbia, etc.), Italian (I think) and Asian culture (Chinese, Japanese, etc.) near the end. It was generally a local market set up on the asphalt where people walked around the road to browse or buy.
I got myself some pork meat (I forgot the name), fried rice and beans, and a patty with a cup of pink lemonade (I finished half of the lemonade). My sister picked up dumplings, candied grapes, and a can of soda. The food was decent although the candy was pretty sharp.
I've played a truck game, air hockey, and a Tomb Raider arcade game.

Word of advice: never order a horchata, it is liquid preservation starches with extra sugar... Not healthy under any means.

Told this by 7 of my coworkers, who are all of Latin American descent. Also, I cook a lot of rice and the look seemed right if I were to add brown sugar.

As for the dumplings, that sounds tasty! What was in them?

I usually freeze my grapes, something about the texture on a cool day. It also doubles as a wine chiller if that helps anyone. Boosts the flavor of it's the same kind as well.

The games sound enjoyable too!

cow-stealin-gal asked:

Actually, I do wonder one thing.

What happened to Apollodimiyon?

Like their comments are gone and when I tried to check up on their blog, I couldn’t get to see them.

My best guess is that the person blocked me, which is weird because I haven’t responded nor blocked them.

If that user was seen from one of my posts, I likely blocked them.

I got so much anon hate that I blocked them all and turned off anon asks. It's easier for people to act tough behind a screen or two after all. At least with this, I know who are willing to be open with their words.

The only non-anon, relative ask I did get I read over and deleted after the third "You" statement.

Afterwards, I looked at any replies from others that likely would not see reason either and blocked them too.

As for anyone else, idk.

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draco-the-voiddragon asked:

Oi, if someone gives you crap about this situation push whoever it is my way. I can take it. I've been blamed for both just and unjust things my whole life.

Anyone that tries to harass another should be reflecting on what words can do, too. Misinterpretation and lack of information are what make these situations worse.

Ask for whoever it is to copy parts of what is posted by you in response, then explain what is understood vs misinformation.

Use first person statements (I, me, my) as much as possible. Never use second person (you, your) to avoid the idea of blame being pushed around.

Make sure to do the same for what you respond with.

I hope ya take a break from Tumblr. This did not deserve to happen to anyone.

cow-stealin-gal answered:

Unrelated note:

Today I visited a local festival and then I was watched a movie (Inside Out 2) with food and drinks.

I played some games afterwards.

I had a pretty good time today.

Fun! What was the festival for?

Was the food good?

What games ys play?

Almost every Transgender Woman I have interacted with the past two days has been without reason.

Today especially, I take time to read what everyone is saying and quote or reference those words in my reply, if considered relevant.

I see almost nothing of respect in the responses, but I quote those responses anyway to show I am paying attention.

I also researched Tone Policing because I was blamed of that but did not understand. I will try to stick to fact and logic if at all possible.

Please understand I do want peace. I want a civilized discussion. We cannot have a civilized discussion without understanding and compromise.

Seriously, I would apologize if I could. Almost everyone I have talked to has blocked me and I cannot see reason to continue a pointless discussion.

Leave this topic alone. It is something I would like to consider done.

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draco-the-voiddragon answered:

Anonymous asked:

Draco I know you didn’t mean ill and I’m not holding against you or calling you transphobic or even unfollowing, but def next time do NOT double down when someone corrects you, even if you think you’re not in the wrong. As a trans woman myself I am acknowledging that you are absolutely a trans ally, and I can’t wait to hear what you have to say when all of this blows over❤️

Thank you for this, it is helping me remain calm.

Especially with my coworkers driving me even crazier.

However, I will not go belly up for someone who is trying to discredit and insult me for something I felt insulted on first.

I just hope this has a better ending!

I'll likely take a break from Tumblr tomorrow.

(Not the anon).

I honestly wanted to give my two cents, but I kept getting a sinking feeling and getting physically weaker and shaky.

I’ve also started to monologue to myself, even though I didn’t write anything.

But I will say this, from my point of view, the op was generally aggresive with two people. Or they probably had a bad day.

Even so, I can’t handle being put on the spotlight with drama. So I kept my mouth shut.

I’m sorry for keeping quiet.

noellevanious

youre scared and shaking about my post, but not too scared that you wouldnt they/them me...?

even though you arent involved in the situation at all...?

Wait a minute…

WAIT A MINUTE.

Or they probably had a bad day.

NOO..

“They”

AAUUGHH NOOO

NOT AGAIN.

But answer me this: are you still angry right now?

noellevanious

That I'm being misgendered? Yes actually

I’m sorry for the repeated misgendering, I wasn’t thinking clearly.

But I would like to ask, why are you so angry about being misgendered?

My only assumptions are that you either have been misgendered repeatedly, or that you have had a terrible moment with being misgendered.

noellevanious

I'm angry about it because i don't like it. it isn't that complex. you just have to not do it.

I overcomplicate everything!

It’s SO difficult for me to keep things simple.

Even worse, every single word I say in this thread pisses them off.

Am I that horrible to you?

You just did it again!!! You’ve been told what, four, five times now that they/them is wholly wrong, and that she uses she/her, something that is extremely easy to check! You’re rolling this up in self pity but you’re the perpetrator of bigotry here. You have misgendered Noelle like 5 times and been corrected at least 6 times. It’s so extremely easy to gender people correctly after being told once, twice if you mess up by accident, but this many times feels deliberate and clearly wears at her patience, of fucking course she’s mad at you! You don’t get to “but THEY were aggressive with 2 people” your way out of being a transphobe and transmisogynist. Noelle being flippant with people who misgendered her is NOT an excuse to misgender her further!

In this instance, I want @gamergoo to understand that @cow-stealin-gal is a separate person. Leave them out of this. They misgendered twice, but I am the one responsible.

"You" statements seen: 9

Statements referring to Noelle, who could and should advocate for herself: 6

"You have misgendered Noelle like 5 times and corrected at least 6. It's so extremely easy to gender people correctly after being told once, twice if you mess up by accident..."

I caused the second misgender of a post I saw for the first time. Someone else caused a first, was corrected, and remedied that. However, in no way was anything pronouns specific brought up until I was responded to.

"You don't get to 'but THEY were aggressive with 2 people'"

I am a man. I use He/Him. I want some reflection of how hypocritical that sounds right now.

"Noelle being flippant with people who misgendered her is NOT an excuse to misgender her further!"

Absolutely true. No questions about that. Cow-stealing-gal does not know the whole story, so they used their own default settings. I know they overload emotionally easily. That lessens everyone's reasoning skills.

Now recognize no one has given a shit about how people are attacking someone not originally involved like it's not a problem.

I don’t really care who’s originally involved, cow stealin gal misgendered my friend several times and was corrected several times and has not apologized to her, instead choosing to block and play the victim. Your behavior towards trans women is frustrating, and the implication that I can’t be upset at my friend’s mistreatment is, frankly, pissing me off.

The word for what you are doing right now is Tone Policing, and it’s not exactly making me inclined to respond cordially to you. Do not interact with me again or I will block you.

Then let us try to have a civil conversation. I am willing to do that.

I understand being frustrated at a friend's suffering. I respect that ideology.

However, let us try and keep tone policing out of our discussion if at all possible? Fair?

There’s no fucking ideology behind me being upset! And I’m not leaving tone policing out of it! Because it’s why I’m upset now! You want to have a civil conversation but you came into my inbox to call me a bitch, and NOW you’re saying “no ad hominem please” like come onnnnnnn you cannot be for real with this!

draco-the-voiddragon asked:

I already sent an apology reply.

So ignore facts? Just solely fiction and feeling?

Blame me for tone policing, I want to exclude that. Then be a hypocrite saying to include it.

Reason is out the window? Alright. Just leave me and my friends be then.

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Hey, leave my friend alone, bitch.

I am fine being made fun of, but I will not tolerate anyone hurting my friends.

I have said I would apologize to Noelle already, but we have blocked each other. I do not want more people being hurt.

gamergoo answered:

DID YOU JUST CALL ME A BITCH????? HOLY SHIT THIS IS JUST STRAIGHT UP MISOGYNY FHDHDH

you posted that you got sooooo anxious and nervous and upset that you were told not to misgender someone, and now you’re in my inbox calling me a bitch! Now how do you think that makes me feel? Any consideration for how *I* might be sooooo anxious and shaking and throwing up? I mean I’m not but like. Come on. At least you have the decency to gender me correctly.

I responded to your friend ONE TIME saying that they were continuing to misgender MY friend while policing her response, I did not “hurt” them, they are not “suffering” they have worried themselves into a spiral over a negative response to a mistake they made and refused to rectify. Fuck Off.

I sent this BEFORE I replied to your last blog. I was uncivil when writing this because I was frustrated how it affected my friend.

I apologize for the profanity, I got blinded.

Edit since I can't reblog:

Slimygoo blocked me. She accepted the apology but did not forgive me. That's all I want to relay.

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mishacakes

ok but does anyone else ever just

all the time!+

I love u mootsssss.

achilleanauthor

We love you too

translesbianfoxgirl

The later in the day the strong and more often it is

decoysender

!!!!!!!!!!!

@giggleshit @bellaphomet3 @lost-my-soup @jacktheeldergod2 @the-trash-eating-llama @tropical-bread and others !!!!!!!!!!!

the-trash-eating-llama

You too.

@cow-stealin-gal

@draco-the-voiddragon @mayhem-moth

PFFFTTT

@stormlendinez @f4y3w00d5 @applegameisprollytaken @slimylittlemaggot @tapjoys @the-spine-eater @serious-tabaxi

Thank you! It is appreciated!

(retag) @the-trash-eating-llama

Hey, I wanted to give a quick update!

I actually got severely ill from the anxiety buildup from yesterday and barely made it home. It was embarrassing throwing up in front of my friend's place...

I want to just continue on with my day as tomorrow I have sentencing for an event. This event is already stressful enough as it kept my life on hold the past four years.

That being said, there is something I got to say:

The incident happened really late at night for me, and I needed to sleep before work. I was more calm and was going to apologize that morning. However, I saw all the hate comments and insults. I get I am in the wrong for the Noelle incident, but I hate the emotional hell I went through yesterday.

I need EVERYONE to understand that being cruel is not my normal. I see things that would be hurtful for anyone, not just me. Those words could be suicide bait to the wrong individual.

If it were anyone else, I'd step in and make them hate me just so my friends do not have to suffer. I know several people on this site who are struggling emotionally, some with depression or suicidal thoughts. I also struggle with depression and have violent mood swings, but I have suffered to the point where I do not feel anything at times.

I did not think to check Noelle's pronouns, I didn't consider that when making my post for a few reasons. They're not fully alleviating, but they are my only reasoning why:

Blogs on this site also can be from several years ago, dating back to 2007 if I recall. Noelle could have been born a woman then became a transgender man by the time I saw the post.

I use "they" because: yes, I am too lazy to check everyone's bio or pinned blog. I can not if I am in a bad reception area.

I don't want to short circuit my brain either. Some of my mutuals have Role Play blogs of another gender, so I default to what feels safe.

I do not feel safe. I feel attacked.

I see people who want a place in the world actively making someone suffer. I see people making a self-fulfilling prophecy come to light.

These same people who are fighting for their place in the world refuse to listen, to compromise, to explain what went wrong and how to fix it!

I was taught reciprocate what I hear and to use "I, me, my" statements when in a disagreement. That way, I show if I understand correctly and say my piece without blame.

All I got in response was the same set of words and "You, you, you" statements. That is just constantly pushing blame on another. "You are the problem. You refuse to give respect. You will not reflect on your actions!"

I get I was in the wrong! I want to apologize to Noelle! I want an apology from punishedgirldick for refusal to listen, but that is all. Anyone else who wants an apology better consider if they were ANONYMOUS asking. I will consider them unworthy of an apology. I showed my stripes, but they did not show theirs.

Call me a transmisogynist if you desire, but I want everyone to be heard, not just one side or the other.

With all that said, I'll see those that care later tomorrow.

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#It's Gary Time #Go to eep

Go to bed at 10pm in your respective time zone or I'll send Gary to put you to sleep.

Anonymous asked:

You responded to my last ask by saying you were "careful with your words" and that's what got you in trouble. That is the opposite of the truth. Being CAREful with your words would mean CARING enough to check pronouns. You're lying to yourself if you think you were being careful

It was fucking midnight. What is your point?