[brutal pipe murder sounds]

of all the phrases we used to say in the 2010s era we need to bring back ‘what the hap is fuckening’ because honestly… what the hap is fuckening lately brother

Being ace in fandoms is so awkward sometimes because yeah the allos like the irredeemably evil villain who has murdered countless innocent people and experiments on children because he's conventionally attractive, what's my excuse? I like this guy for his personality. His personality is a burning truck of chemicals without a driver rolling at 220 km/h down the hill towards the daycare.

official asexual post

having a cat is great. there's a small little animal wandering around. effervescent

EATING MY CHARGER

If your apology involves degrading yourself, calling yourself shit or insulting yourself, its not an apology, try again.

Can someone translate this?

Don’t try to guilt people by saying “I’m sorry I fucking suck.” “I’m sorry I’m just the worst and I should die” Because thats not an apology, thats trying to guilt the other person into dropping the subject.

Yup.  That’s called Weaponized Remorse.  Basically, you’re avoiding accountability by blowing up a big Feelings Bomb at the person you hurt and going “let’s not focus on what I did or what I should do to make amends, let’s focus on how awful I feel about it all, and how you should make me feel better.”

It’s really easy to accidentally learn to apologize like this, especially when you have mental health issues that mean you genuinely feel that way about yourself. You aren’t a bad person if this has become a habit, but you can help other people AND yourself by apologizing differently!

Try to focus on your actions rather than your traits:

E.g. “I’m sorry I keep ghosting you, I’m shit at friendships” –> “I’m sorry I keep ghosting you, I’m really struggling to keep up with my friends right now”

Then, if you can, turn the conversation back to the other person - you’re apologising because their feelings matter to you, so show that.

E.g. “I don’t mean to - our friendship means a lit to me, and I know it must make it seem like I don’t care.”

This gives the other person an opportunity to express their own experience so you can talk it over more if they want to, without skipping ahead to reassuring you that the relationship isn’t broken.

If you read the descriptions above and started feeling guilty, it’s fixable! And if you want, you can even apply your new apology skills to apologising for an old apology style

The way I learned apologize basically boils down to this, in whatever words are your own: 1. Say you’re sorry 2. Say what it was you did wrong and why it was wrong or admit that you don’t know what you did, but want to make it right regardless (and then let them tell you) 3. Tell them how you plan to make it up to them, or tell them you’re thinking about how to make it up to them and then tell them once you’ve thought of something. You can also ask what they want you to do to make it up to them as well, but I *personally* prefer to at least try to think of something first and then ask if that sounds like a good plan and ask for anything they’d want me to do right after that. This is the most important part. FOLLOW THROUGH with whatever plan is in place. I hope this helps! <3 <3 <3 !

Firm believer that all trans guys should have fangs,,, testosterone should give you fangs

Firm believer that all trans guys should have fangs,,, testosterone should give you fangs

Firm believer that all trans guys should have fangs,,, testosterone should give you fangs

I guess what gets me about fatphobia is seeing someone literally recovering from addiction and gaining weight being framed as a bad thing because a substance use problem that is eating you from the inside out is preferable so long as you are twenty pounds lighter.

It has never been about people's health.

When I was about 10, I watched part of a documentary about people's experiences with drug addiction, and one of the people interviewed was a man who became addicted to crack because he was trying to lose weight. It escalated until he spent ten months homeless, barely eating, and spending all the money he had or didn't have on crack just so he could reach his goal weight, but even with all that he never quite got there. Eventually his family convinced him to at least try to recover, and after relapsing a couple times he was finally able to quit.

Except, as soon as he was home and eating more frequently and healthily, he started to gain all his natural weight back, and his "friends" and even family started telling him that maybe he should get back on crack just to see if the weight loss would be permanent this time. After he was home, he recovered completely in spite of them, and at the time the documentary was filmed, years later, he said that he still feels tempted to go back and try to lose all the weight again, because when people hear his story that's the one "joke" they always make.

And watching just that part of a documentary when I was 10 made me realise that 1) drugs aren't something that only evil or stupid people do, and 2) the way Western societies treats fat people is extremely fucked up.

They told a guy to become addicted to crack again just because they didn't think he was nice to look at. And he was extremely nice! He was handsome, well-dressed, soft-spoken, thoughtful, very forgiving towards everyone, but all that didn't matter because he was a bit fat. That pissed me off as a kid and pisses me off 10 times more now.

i just want an AU where the justice league figure out there is SOME sort of connection between Captain Marvel/Shazam and this one 10 year old and someone starts getting a little too close to the truth (or a particularly outrageous falsehood) for comfort so Shazam just kind of...

"oh yeah I'm actually Billy's imaginary friend."

"what."

"Yeah, the kid's lined up to be a super powerful wizard and all that someday, but in the meantime all that 'magical potential' has to go somewhere, or something, y'know?"

"wait. wait. oh my god. this is why you just disappear when you're off duty and batman hasn't been able to find your secret identity????"

"haha yeah for sure. no secret identity i totally just stop existing entirely. yup."

"doesn't that bother you?"

"no? why would it?"

cuz like ''the manifestation of a particularly magical 10 year old's idea of a perfect hero'' isn't unbelievable in universe and anyone ever thinks to accuse him of being a child he can just be like ''yall we've BEEN OVER THIS.'' yeah of course he's a lil childish a child came up with him why would it be unethical to go into battle with him he's an imaginary friend not a real kid No Billies Were Harmed In The Making Of This Superhero 

The tags are better, honestly

Her: whatre u wearing ;)

Me: *remembering girls like sensitive intellectuals* a turtleneck

Me: *remembering girls also like sexy girls* and booty shorts

everyone knows that space is very very cold, and the sun is very very hot. so i assume there's a bit of space kind of near the sun which is just right. balmy space

Yes, that’s. That’s where we are.

i forgot how fucking weird november is theres no afternoon its just night after 2pm

when it rains you simply do not get a day

you will live and you will say the wrong things and make mistakes and people will love you anyways.

i made this post because i've got so many friends that think saying something wrong in a conversation is the end of the world. it isn't. you'll be okay. you don't have to be embarrassed about every little thing. you are alive and doing things and speaking to people. you will make mistakes and you will live.

(unmasked voice) if trump wins i’m going to start building community locally and going to protests and firebombing walmarts. …why am i not wearing a mask? well the government said i dont have to and people might judge me :(

too afraid of judgement to wear a mask talking about all the huge society altering protests ur gonna engage in yeah sure man have fun with that. also what are your plans re: protests if slash when youre too sick to walk. how are you preventing yourself and ur comrades in this community ur building from ending up in that exact situation. if i have long covid and you have long covid who’s doing the mutual aid. Etc.

why dont you “organize” a mask onto ur face

is the community youre building accessible to disabled people? to immunocompromised people? to those vulnerable to covid/long covid (which is everyone who’s previously been infected, btw)? why or why not?

is a covid-unsafe community really what you want? why is it acceptable to implicitly exclude disabled/immunocompromised people from these spaces? does excluding them mean valuable insight & information & connections are lost? is it worth it?

who told u it was safe to unmask? did u stop bc everyone else did? have u read into the research on covid, its effects on the body both in the acute phase and after? is it worth risking ur own health? is it worth risking others’ health?

who is going to take care of u when u get sick?

what will happen when u r both sick?

never thought i'd become a destiel political meme blog, but here I am living the dream

"lying is wrong" what evangelical nonsense is this???

listen to me. lying is morally neutral. and for many people in shitty situations it's a survival tactic.

lying in order to cause harm is often wrong, because causing harm is generally wrong. lying is also done for a myriad of other reasons, including because it isn't safe to speak truth, or because privacy is a thing and damn what an incredibly invasive question to ask in the first place.

truth is earned, my friend.

also, sometimes lying is funny. sometimes it saves time. sometimes it's easier, sometimes it accomplishes a goal, sometimes the truth is nobody's business, or is tricky to articulate, or you don't know what the truth is but are expected to have an answer regardless. sometimes you just straight up want people to stop bothering you. sometimes lying is an experiment to see how much you can get away with. sometimes you just want to be a little mean, yeah.

and in none of these situations is lying automatically "right" or "wrong" it is simply a tool that people will use, and that you will have to make your own decisions about based on situation and context.

climb out of the dark pit of assigning moral values to neutral behaviors. that's puritan thinking that's got its greedy fangs in you, rip 'em out by the root

i'd rather see 1000 graffiti penises than 1 product billboard. i'd live in dick city if it meant i could avoid advertisements in my daily life.