i used corruption because i trusted you

Punish, off my new project Perverts, is out November 1st.

Perverts will release January 8th.

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some happy tododekus for these trying times!

And I danced and I pranced and I sang with him

Oh gawd every time you think it's over it gers BETTER

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Izumi Miyamura  +  facial expressions in ep.4 😡

the year is 1347. my husband just died from “the plague” and i’m moving in with my female “companion” in a secluded mansion in the european country. we have no kids and two dogs and we seem unusually close. i call her my wife but historians call her my best friend. little does everyone know, she’s both.

Love how a lot of “autistic parenting problems” can get fixed by just using your brain:

“my autistic child doesnt like hugs” so don’t hug them, that will be 150 dollars

“My autistic child had a meltdown in a busy grocery store” so don’t bring them to a busy grocery store

“My autistic child is a picky eater” So give them the food they like but also encourage them to try new food in fun positive ways

“My autistic child only want to wear the same shirt everyday” so let them wear the same shirt everyday

“My autistic child claims loud noises hurt their ears.” So turn the goddamn noise down, Susan!

some of this definitely tracks but a lot of the time it’s not as simple as that. if you’re a single parent with an autistic child, and you can’t afford childcare, you can’t just leave your kid at home alone while you get food. sometimes taking children to places that they don’t like is 100% necessary. however, something that might help in this situation is giving the child clear information beforehand about what is going to happen, letting them know they are heard, and telling them exactly what is expected of them and how long it will last:

we have to go to the grocery store. i know that you don’t like it there because [anything they have said before about why it makes them upset] and i don’t either, but we have to do it. we are leaving at x time, so you have until then to [transition from what they were doing before]. when we are there, you need to walk next to me/hold my hand/(maybe give them a task such as counting how many types of fruit they can see in the store, a small activity to do, or a stim toy. keeping them grounded and entertained is good). it will take y amount of time, and then it will be over and we can come back home and you can do z [special interest related activity or other reward that will recharge their nd batteries after a draining experience]

autistic children grow up to be autistic adults. sooner or later they will have to go into a grocery store, maybe on their own, maybe every week, for their whole adult life. acclimatising them to knowing how grocery stores work from a reasonably young age, helping them learn that grocery stores are not scary, and that if they are scary they are at least endurable and that trips there don’t last forever, is going to be far more effective and helpful in the long run than simply teaching children that if they don’t like something they don’t have to do it. coping strategies are far more useful than avoidance for situations that are necessary.

i am saying this as an autistic adult, who was an autistic child, and who has very specific difficulties with grocery shopping myself, before anyone comes for me calling me neurotypical or whatever.

My favorite has been, “Sam, you’re autistic, my autistic kid freaks out in stores what do I do?”

Has he had water and a snack before going in?

“What?”

Has he. Had water. And a snack. Before going in.

“Well no but—“

He’s melting down and overloading because his basic needs aren’t being met but he isn’t recognizing it/doesn’t know how to communicate that. Grocery stores are inherently overwhelming but it’s worse when you’re dehydrated and your blood sugar is low. Those tiny water bottles and an easy snack like a banana while you’re sitting in the parking lot before going in and going over the game plan will help.

“Oh.”

Yeah. Also sunglasses. And headphones if you can. Also have you tried involving him?

“What?”

Hey *insert child’s name here* in this aisle we’re looking for milk, you know the kind we usually have in the fridge, it’s red with a white cap do you see it? Like that.

“No. I havent done that.”

Try it. Now he’ll be hydrated, with a level blood sugar, know what the game plan is, have some items to help with sensory info, and be less bored. It won’t be perfect but it will help.

I would like to emphasize the “sunglasses and headphones,” because seriously, 80% plus of people’s problems (that they can’t just easily avoid with no negative consequences) would probably be solved if they got their kids comfortable sunglasses and headphones. (If you’re reading this as an autistic person and don’t know the wonder of sunglasses and headphones - get them and use them. It took until my mid-twenties to realize how much better life could be with $15 at a CVS.)

Also you know what? My kid didn’t like hugs. They still don’t like most touching with most people

But they will absolutely choose to hug me now of their own volition

Why?

Because I askes first and I respected it if they said no

Also my husband and I hug and they see hugging your loved ones as a positive

But we always ask and if Kiddo said no as a little kid we’d say “okay! How about a high five?” And that was usually enthusiastically agreed with and if they say no now we just say okay

Kiddo asks to hug me now of their own volition because they know it’s an option rather than a requirement

If kids feel safe and in control of the physical contact they might not mind giving hugs

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