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For the anon, I've been put on anti-depressants for my anxiety, and they do help if you find the right one! I also take Klonopin (a benzodiazepine) as needed. The antidepressant that worked best for me was Prozac! And just remember to not be discouraged if your medications don't work right away, sometimes they take time, and sometimes you may have to switch!
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I have horrible anxiety and I am going to the psychiatrist Wednesday and have been told I'll probably be given medication, what are good kinds of anxiety meds and what are ones I should watch out for
Hi there anon, I’m glad to see you’re getting the help you want!
Unfortunately, I’m fairly sure there is no one medication that can be considered universally good. Different things work for different people, different people have different side effects, etc.
On top of that, I don’t have any personal experience with any medication, so I really wouldn’t feel good just looking up different ones and throwing that info at you.
The best thing would probably be to discuss this with your psychiatrist - they will be able to tell you what exactly which medication does. You should also definitely report any side effects to them.
Followers, please send me some personal experiences with different anxiety meds to help this anon out!
My dad's been studying psychology (actually wants to go into forensic psychology), and he knows that my appetite loss isn't a side effect of my medications (one of the side effects is actually weight gain—not weight loss). How can I explain to him that, most likely, it's due to the depression and anxiety disorder and that it's /not/ my fault? Because he says it is my fault.
Hopefully, just explaining your situation to him should be enough. Changes in appetite are pretty common with depression, so if he won’t just believe you, you could simply tell him to look it up. It’s a tried and tested fact.
Really, if he’s been studying psychology, he should reconsider his approach towards your problems as a whole, because blaming you doesn’t do anything but shame you for something you have no control over.
I hope your dad stops blaming you, anon. Best wishes and stay safe.
How do I ask for help with my depression?
Try checking out this post to get some tips on how to ask a friend for help!
Roughly the same should apply for parents, with addition of asking to see a professional (if that’s what you want).
I hope that post helps some (I made it with you in mind)!
Best wishes.
i'm starting high school in a week and honestly the nervous excitement is tearing me apart. my anxiety is triggered so much and i just want to sleep until the first day of school so i don't have to deal with the anticipation. what can i do to calm myself down or occupy my time?
Hey there, I’m sorry to hear the anticipation is wearing you down so much!
Generally, I’d recommend things mentioned in this post to help keep your anxiety under control and things from this post to help keep you busy. What also really helps me is either sitting down to write something (try some roleplaying if you’re into that!) or going on a google hunt, where I pick out (for example) a certain movie and try to find out as much about it as I can without actually watching it. This article has some more ideas on how to cope with your current situation.
I’m sure things will be fine, friend. I hope school goes well!
my mom died when i was 12 and no one ever asked if i was ok and no one ever talked about it. im trying to stop blaming my dad and sister and brother but it just gets harder. i feel like my brother abandoned me because after she died he moved out two months later. He never asked if i was ok and it hurts the most that he didn't talk to me or try to help me. i am 18 years old with depression and i want to talk to him about all this but i am so scared. i dont know why but i am terrified
Hi there, anon.
I’m really sorry to hear about your mother. Death in the family is never an easy thing to handle, especially not at a relatively young age like that. Having family that doesn’t try to ensure you’re doing okay only makes it worse.
First of all, I’d like to say that it’s okay for you to be disappointed in how your family handled the situation. It’s okay to wish they would’ve done things differently. Of course, you do also have to acknowledge that they were dealing with the same grief as you, though. Everybody had to deal with this situation in their own way - unfortunately that sometimes makes it hard to look out for others.
Talking to your brother is a big step, being scared is normal. But if you think this is the right thing for you and that it could help you be more at peace, please do so. Make sure you do it in a situation that makes you feel comfortable. There is no rush. You can do it, sooner or later. Hopefully, your brother will understand, since he might've even felt something similar.
Best wishes, anon. I hope this works out for you.
I love someone who lives so far away and i dont know what to do
I’m afraid I’m not quite sure what the problem here is, anon.
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for over 1 1/2 years now - and my second long distance relationship as is. Talk to the person - if the feeling is mutual or they want some form of relationship, I’m sure the two of you can work something out.
Long distance can be hard - but it’s also potentially very fulfilling, as it is much easier to get the space one might need. With the internet being what it is, staying in contact and seeing each other isn’t hard either.
I seriously recommend talking this out, anon. Communication is really important in this.
Best of luck!
theres so much sadness and things ive been keeping to myself and i really think i need to tell someone and i know who im going to tell but i am very scared. this person is someone i look up to a lot and im scared that they will never look at me the same or be angry. i feel like im going to burst i cant take the weight of my feelings anymore. i need to tell someone.
Hey there anon. I’m glad to hear you’ve decided to talk to somebody!
I understand that you’re in a tough position now - telling somebody is a big step and being afraid of the outcome is completely normal.
Hopefully, this person will react well - try and help them understand by providing resources and, most importantly, let them know what you’d like them to do. Being open about your needs will help the other person figure out how to act in this situation and, hopefully, encourage them to respond well.
Unfortunately, some people will not react well, which can be terrible, especially if this is the first person you talk to. But, if that happens, please don’t give up. There are always, always other people that will react differently and try their best to support you. Just because one person doesn’t understand, doesn’t have to mean that you’re on your own now. You’re being very brave by talking about it already - sooner or later, it will pay off.
Best wishes, anon! I hope the person is really worth your admiring.
im scared of driving i can drive with my brother just fine but when i drive with my dad and sister i feel like i want to die and i feel so anxious and im trying so hard not to cry. im scared ill never get my license im 18 and i still cant drive for shit. im too scared of everything and if i cant drive i might as well die.
Hey there, anon. I’m sorry this is stressing you out so much.
First of all, there’s nothing wrong with not driving. I’m 18, I can’t drive and I probably never will drive. It’s okay to not be able to drive (for whatever reasons) and/or not to want to drive. You can take your time with getting your license if that’s what you want or need. There is no rush.
Either way, if you really do want to keep driving, just try your best to avoid driving with your dad and sister. Ask your brother instead. If you can, try and think about why driving with them in particular scares you so much - there might be another, underlying issue at hand.
In addition, check out this ask I answered for resources concerning your anxiety.
I really hope things get better soon, anon. Best wishes.
(1 of 2 again, sorry I write so much!) Hey Mink, this is the MOH anon. First of all, I just wanted to say thank you. Honestly, I think I really just needed to tell someone how I was feeling without having to worry about being judged for it. The links you posted in your reply were actually really helpful, now I have some ways to maybe deal with these panic attacks a little better if I continue to get them. So thank you, really and truly.
Also, thank you to the anon who also replied. I guess I really just worry that my friend ISN’T as good a friend as I want her to be. She hasn’t always been & though I forgave her a long time ago, I still don’t trust her as much as I used to. Then I went and blew up at my mom & assumed the worst and she is rightfully upset, but I’m worried I only did that because I didn’t want to (more realistically) assume the worst of my best friend. But you’re right, and it’s good advice. So thank you! :)
Welcome back, anon! And don’t worry about how much you’re writing, I like asks of any length, hahah.
I’m glad to hear back from you and I’m glad you feel somewhat better. I really hope some of the coping strategies in the links I gave you end up working for you.
I hope your situation improves, anon! Best wishes from me, once again.
im sorry to bother you i just really want to talk to someone i feel so terrible and shitty and lonely and i have no reason to live but i dont want to die and im always so sad and confused and i dont want to tell my friends about it because i dont want to burden them and i dont think they care and i dont even know why i feel this way i hate myself and everyone else and i dont know what to do please tell me what to do im so so tired of being sad
Hi there, anon. I’m really sorry to hear you’re doing so badly.
First of all, you’re not bothering me. I’m glad you’re willing to talk to me, honestly. It’s a lot better than keeping everything inside.
Bottling up all these feelings really isn’t good, anon. I suggest trying to talk to your friends about it or, if you’d really rather not, try 7cupsoftea or similar websites. I’m sure your friends won’t mind you talking to them, though. They’re your friends for a reason, after all.
You can try checking out some of these links 1 2 to maybe help you cope with your depression (at least I’m assuming that’s what you’re describing).
Lastly, I want to address something. I don’t believe that anybody needs a “reason” to live. Simply you, existing for yourself, on your own terms, is all you need. No justification. I hope you can ponder that a bit and, maybe, see things the way I see them.
I hope some of this helps you, anon. Best wishes.
Glad to see you're back:) I was a bit worried
I’m also glad to be back, anon! I’ll also assure you, there’s never a need to worry about me. I’ll always be fine sooner or later - sometimes it just takes a while to get there.
For the MOH anon: you could talk to your friend and explain that the situation is very uncomfortable for you as you care very much for both parties. You could tell her that, as this is something that offended her own mother, she or her mother could talk to your mom and sort it out between themselves. If she's as good a friend as I guess you want her to be, she will respect your wish and try to, at least, understand your point of view. Maybe go for a quiet coffee and gently explain your concerns.
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(1 of 2) I have pretty bad anxiety and also mild, chronic depression. I've been having a very anxiety-stricken week and, while I've always had very bad social anxiety especially, I'm not used to having actual panic attacks like I've been having (my anxiety just never manifested in that way), but I thought I'd been handling them pretty well.
However, today my best friend (who’s getting married on the 30th, I’m her MOH) called me & accused my mother of saying something very hurtful and offensive to her mother @ the bridal shower I threw her last weekend. I confronted my mother about it, & she denied it and got pissed at me for assuming she would’ve said anything which made me feel awful. That means my mother or my best friend is lying to me & I have no idea who to believe and I got home & had the most frightening panic attack. I just normally would call my friend & she would try to calm me down but since she is part of this I can’t. The worst part is I know she has lied to me before just to create drama between me & someone else & just thinking that she would be lying about it makes me so panicky bc she is one of the only friends I have & I’m afraid I might have another really bad attack again tonight bc I can’t stop thinking about it.
Hey there anon. I’ll do my best and try to help some.
I’m sorry you’re caught in the middle like this. It really doesn’t sound pleasant in the least.
First of all, the fact that you’re experiencing panic attacks probably means this is really pushing you far out of your comfort zone. If at all possible, once things blow over, try talking to your friend about situations like this so they can hopefully be avoided. You shouldn’t have to get triggered this badly.
Unfortunately I don’t have any concrete tips on how to deal with this situation, besides confronting your friend about it (which might not be an option for you in your current state). I’m sure things will be resolved eventually and you can find out what really happened. It could be that things were just a misunderstanding and/or miscommunication at some point.
If you can, try some of the things on this or this post to try coping with the situation and/or distracting yourself.
Followers, if you have any idea how to help this anon, please send in an ask or leave me a reply! I’m really a bit stumped in terms of directly applicable advice on this one.
I’m really sorry for not being able to help much, anon. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts and I hope your situation gets better soon. Best wishes!
I'm not feeling it today..I have really bad anxiety today and I'm still shaking. I have work in a couple of hours and I just can't do it.
Hey there, I’m sorry you’re not doing well today.
Please don’t beat yourself up about needing a break today - sometimes things just become too much and allowing yourself to take the time you need is exactly the right thing to do.
Try doing something pleasant, something you enjoy. Have some warm drinks, maybe. If you’d like, check out this post with info on how to cope with anxiety.
Hopefully, the rest of your day will be a bit better. Just take things slow for the day and I’m sure you’ll be fine.
Best wishes!
i have social anxiety and i have a college interview in a few days and i really think i am going to flump it and not get in. it is really important for me to get into this college class because it will help my future career. i feel like i am going to break down in the room and i am going to muck everything up, i cant even think about it without it freaking me out. do you have any advice for keeping calm and coping with anxitey. xx
Hey there, I’m sorry to hear you’re about to face such a stressful situation!
I’m fairly sure that I’d feel just the same. Interviews like that are stressful as is, but with the added factor of anxiety it seems like disaster is unavoidable.
But, let’s try and find some ways to make it more bearable for you.First of all, try to avoid other things that could stress you out. Plan things like transportation, what to wear and anything else beforehand so you don’t have to worry about that on the day of the interview.Secondly, practice. Prepare yourself for the kinds of questions you might have to answer, play it through in your head, ask a friend or family member to ask you some questions as if that was you interview.Last but not least, try out some of the things listed here for help with anxiety and these links 1 2 3 specifically for anxiety about interviews (they’re about job interviews, but I figured they’d still apply). Hopefully, somewhere in there, you will find some more things that work for you personally.
I’m sure you can do this. You’ll do your best and I’m sure that’ll be just fine.
Best wishes from me and I really hope you get in!
I have anxiety, especially around driving & I've seen it spike up when my girlfriend is in the car. I've had 3+ anxiety attacks in the last 7 months while driving (city parking) with her as passenger. She is a counselor for a living so she has an understanding of anxiety, but I don't want to force her into the role of counseling me through my attacks. I am wondering if you have any tips/resources for reducing triggers/coping with anxiety while being in a relationships and/or with driving?
Hey there anon, I’m sorry to hear about your situation.
Unfortunately, I don’t think I’ve seen any resources that combine relationships and driving.
However, I recommend some of our general anxiety resources you can find here, especially exercises involving grounding and mindfulness, since you should be able to perform those in a car rather easily.
Here are some resources concerning driving related anxiety, 1 2 and this website dedicated to it!
You should try discussing this with your girlfriend still - if you'd rather not have her take on the role of a counselor, just tell her you're talking to her because she's your girlfriend, not because you're expecting her to take up an additional role. Of course, if she's got any tips on hand, I'm sure that wouldn't hurt.
Please also consider that this might indicate that you have two intersecting triggers - driving and the thought of accidentally hurting your girlfriend. Until you can cope better, it might be a good idea not to drive when she's in the car.
I hope some of that helped you, anon! Best wishes!
