thank fucking god I'm not 14 anymore

hey if you are 14-17 It does get better you are just in your caterpillar goop era

Told my nearly 14 year old this. They said ‘I’ve never related to anything so much’ and then did a little snap to add to it lol

For real

Save the bees

Plant more trees

Clean the seas

Punch Nazis

part of the reason i like tumblr and i think part of the reason it has the unhinged je nai se quois that it does, is that unlike pretty much every other public social media platform these days, it allows for the "unpalatable weird" without any chance of it making it back to a professional regular adult or the creator of media in any capacity. on twitter, even if you're using an alt account, the guy who writes the book is there and might see your post (here, neil gaiman is here, but hes like, cool about it - the tumblr etiquette has always been that they are in our house, and not vice versa), and the only person who can be deranged under their own name is ppl who dont worry about professional consequences.

i had more to say about this but im getting tired but tldr: im a corporate lawyer and tumblr is the only place im not worried about my employer finding out how much i post about wizards, and i think that mindset is why tumblr is Like This - because its a social space where ppl who have something to lose (professional dignity) can be weird about wizards.

sometimes doing the right thing means coming to the end of that journey.

no reward, maybe even no closure. you did the right thing, and now it’s over.

I wanted to share a bit about what’s been happening over the last few months (year?).

Since the top x bottom discussion started and that hater appeared, fandom and reading/writing/drawing for me became hell. This person absolutely ruined my experience with fandom, and how I view it and interact with it. I took some time off trying to distance myself from everything. Though I still love it, I can’t draw/read/write anything anymore without feeling there’s something wrong, or I’m doing something bad, or that it shouldn’t be like this or that and I attribute that to being a target of that hate (for whatever reason) until this day.

I pushed away from friends I’d made and people I really liked inside the fandom, I stopped drawing what I loved because I couldn’t stare at it anymore and I stopped reading fanfics because I couldn’t shake the feeling I was doing something wrong. I still can’t, most of the time.

The worst thing is, I’m still being targeted. Idk, more than a year later and they won’t leave me alone. Less than a week ago, I got 99 DMs about how my art is terrible, how I should k*ll myself etc from that same troll, and I’ve been getting those constantly over the last few months.

No, I don’t take them seriously and no, I don’t believe a word they say, but I can’t shake the terrible feeling that comes with knowing there’s someone who goes to these lengths only to make me feel bad (I don’t know how many people are still being targeted by this and I’m sorry if you are). Also, I’m going to the police once New Year’s is over. I was going to keep quiet about it, but my mother convinced me otherwise. I don’t think it’ll do me any good, but maybe it can add to the numbers and help someone in the future.

And I don’t know if this post will make any difference, but if you’re reading this, please, PLEASE, treat people nicely. You don’t know what they’ve been going through, how their life is and how your words may affect them. Even if you’re hiding under anonymity on the internet, it doesn’t mean you don’t have to take responsibility for your actions and words. Why spread more hate and rage?

I’m so, so incredibly thankful for the fandom and everything it’s done to me. It probably saved me from myself in more ways than I can count and I wish I could still feel the same way I did in the beginning, or at least shake that uneasiness that comes with it nowadays.

Anyway, I know no one asked and probably no one wondered, but here’s why I kind of vanished and why there hasn’t been as much drarry content as in the beginning. I miss you all I used to talk to (and those I never spoke to, as well), I miss getting to know people, participating, and being a part of something. I miss it all and wish I’ll get it back someday.

Thank you for reading, if you’ve made it this far, I appreciate and miss you, and I hope you have a wonderful 2023.

it’s fucking obscene that @fantalfart has had to endure this. it’s fucking 2023 for chrissake, people. check your bullshit and LIGHTEN UP, FRANCIS, IT’S FICTION.

I'm with Peach on this one...

just learn how to make soup and your life improves tenfold 

certified soup post

shoutout to everyone dealing with. thhe fucking difficulty

this post is gonna talk about pro-shippers btw

So, i dont get why pro-shippers are bad? but i also dont get why they do it at the same time, so i would like to hear from both sides as to why they should do what they do, and/or why the other side is bad

i want to be educated and i will do my own research, but i want peoples opinions

thx! (please be RESPECTFUL to everyone responding)

Proship is the default stance fandom used to have--we didn't need a label because you were either normal or an asshole, and what we define as proship now used to be considered normal.

Essentially you abide by the principles of SALS ("ship and let ship") and YKINMKATO ("Your Kink Is Not My Kink And That's Okay" or "kinktomato").

Basically "we all ship what we like and stay in our own lanes and have nothing to do with the ships or kinks that distress us"

People who didn't abide by this were the ones involved in ship wars and were by and large regarded as raging assholes by everybody else.

Quite frankly if you look at the roots of anti behavior and how often they decry a ship that turns out to be the "rival" of their OTP, it becomes blatantly clear the anti movement is basically what happens when you mix ship wars with radfem and puritanical christian ideology.

Yes, I said radfem. There is a lot of anti-kink, anti-sex, anti-porn rhetoric in the anti movement, both things that are well known as things radfems (especially SWERFs) spout. Quite honestly they often literally word for word use the same arguments. You also see echoes of this in how they decry mlm ships as evil and corrupt and immoral while praising wlw ships that tick all the same boxes and wholesome and good.

I also brought up puritanical Christian thought--there is a heavy emphasis on "sin". They don't call it that but the concept is the same--if you have Impure Thoughts you'll be an Impure Person and Impure People are Evil. Also you must protect the children from the corrupting influence of Impure People. Again, they pretty much word for word make the argument Christian fundies do about thoughtcrime and sin.

They also seem to have a weird obsession with making everything about incest and/or pedophilia even when the work in question is entirely innocent.

When an anti sees something they don't like, the go-to response is telling people to kill themselves or threatening them.

When a proshipper sees something they don't like the go-to response is block the shit out of it to never see it again, then go on with their day.

At the end of the day if you're an anti, you want to eradicate everything that makes you even mildly uncomfortable without having to do any work to curate your experiences and you want to frame things that make you uncomfortable as immoral.

If you're proship, you just wanna be allowed to ship your silly little ships in peace and avoid the ships that make you uncomfortable.

A huge chunk of proshippers don't even ship anything problematic, or at least nothing majorly so. Lots are only into totally wholesome ships--they just don't think defaulting to death threats (and now terrorism) is the right response to seeing shit that upsets 'em.

Most of us are just Fandom Old And Tired and want the fighting to stop, people to learn how to filter and block stuff they don't want (I'd have killed for half the abilities we now have to curate what we see back when I was young and getting in fandom for the first time--and kids today don't even use 'em!!! Why!!!), and for children to stop seeking out 18+ content if they're just gonna scream at the creator when they find it.

I'll also mention that the abovementioned "you want to eradicate everything that makes you even mildly uncomfortable without having to do any work to curate your experiences and you want to frame things that make you uncomfortable as immoral" mindframe is also very conservative Christian -- there's this idea in Evangelical Fundie Christianity that if you "allow" sin to exist around you, then you are guilty-by-association, and God will blame you for not purifying your environment, etc. etc. This is why fundies don't abide by "Don't like abortions? don't have one" or "Don't like gay marriage? Don't get gay married." In a fundie world, it's their literal God-given mission in life to purify everything around them and make sure sin doesn't EXIST.

The weird anti tendency to hate-follow tags, go looking for anyone who does shipping wrong, and send them aggressive, violent threats of eradication are VERY fundie in nature -- "warriors of purity," etc.

Anyway. It sucks, so.

As someone who has come into fandom after the split...

I have seen one side engage in harassment campaigns, dog piling, specious accusations of child abuse and pedophilia, and yes death threats,

And it's not the people who enjoy writing smut.

i would buy officially licensed tumblr shoelaces staff really missed out on a golden opportunity with their new merch store

tumblr is a site that, by tradition, you do not discuss using in public, let alone plaster on your body. however the subtlety of shoelaces combined with the comedy of the Bit would make that specific item worth it

i may be terminally online but at least i have fun and curate my experience to cater to my interests and don't intentionally seek out things that will make me feel worse and don't take out my personal issues on strangers on the internet

do you agree

reblog if you agree

sorry theres not a single person on this website id pay to follow idc if we’ve been mutuals for six years, if you put up a paywall we’re divorced

Do I want fangs? Yes.

Do I want someone with fangs to bite me? Also yes