why does nobody on this sight understand the meaning of “you’re welcome” as in “you’re welcome to my help” goddamit lol. there’s always some post about how “you’re welcome” is somehow a selfish thing to say like what do you think it means…
I GET ANNOYED WHEN PEOPLE ARE WRONG ABOUT WORDS OK.
I think it’s a generational thing! Younger people are more likely to say “no problem” instead, because it’s like saying “you have not inconvenienced me at all, your needs are not burdensome and I’m happy to help” whereas “You’re welcome” reads more like “yeah, i went out of my way to help you and it took some time and energy (even though I don’t mind it” and can feel somewhat passive-aggressive sometimes.
Whereas older people often feel that “no problem” is rude because it’s like “hey i’m trying to thank you for something, and you’re just minimizing it and acting like there was nothing to thank you for”.
So I think it’s just perceptions shifting over time *shrugs*
I know I’ve read that post but I don’t think either phrase is better or worse and I think that is absolutely not what “you’re welcome” means. I fucking hate that post lol. You’re welcome means “you’re welcome to my help” like I was totally happy to help you, there’s absolutely no negative connotation to it, there’s no negative connotation to “no problem” either! It’s just such a stupid meaningless generational complaint, those posts agitate me so much. And I’ve seen multiple posts like that! UGH.
Hot take: be like the British, say ‘Don’t mention it.” Throws everyone in the USA off their track.
I’ll one up that slightly and go with “Let us never speak of this again.”
I always feel guilty when someone says “You’re welcome” but that’s because my family was shitty and programmed me that way. It was never used the way it was intended in my house. It was always a passive aggressive, indirect way of calling me lazy or ungrateful. Never a sincere “oh you’re welcome!” but something like “I did your laundry. You’re welcome. >:(”
Like…I didn’t ask you to do that? I was going to do it myself? And had you just said “Oh hey. I know you’ve been really busy with band practice/drama club/choir/etc. so I did your laundry for you.” I would have said thank you. So I sort of default to a cheerful “Dude, don’t even worry about it.”
OH I wonder if that’s what it is? I’m assuming the “you’re welcome” is actually genuine not like a hostile “pfft you’re welcome!” like of course nobody wants that! I feel like people often leave off at thank you so when I get a cheerful “you’re welcome” I feel nice?? But my family wasn’t into hostile “you’re welcomes” lol. But those other replies are just as good.
I think the only bad response to ‘thank you’ is ‘sure’ which isn’t awful but isn’t particularly giving either lol. Like “sure” really means nothing and it could be taken positively or negatively.
Language is hard.
Let’s just not speak anymore and we can resort to a series of grunts. Language is too hard lmao
i mean we’re almost there: oof pfft oof meh eh gah bleh
i almost never say you’re welcome and i pretty much always say like either no problem or don’t worry about it. i feel like overly formal if i say you’re welcome?? but i vaguely recall that post and they were totally wrong about how you’re welcome is used, yeah
Wow, thinks makes me wonder how people feel when I say "Of course." Maybe I should switch it up and say "Not at all." lol I have this sudden urge to be upper class and old Timey.