🌈Ranibow Sprimkle🌈

what they don’t tell you about uncluttering your countertops/tables/general spaces is you’ll think it’s dumb as hell & allow it to all pile up because the idea of organizing and removing shit is daunting but once you do it and step back and See how things look without clutter you will feel as though you just snorted a line.

I feel like it's quite common for abuse victims to judge the way we react to our trauma, and to compare ourselves to “real” victims of abuse. We distance ourselves from this hypothetical, ideal, movie-like, unproblematic and helpless abuse victim, and we tell ourselves they have way better reasons to call themselves abuse victims than us. And for those of us whose abuse happened during our teenage years, we might specifically berate ourselves for handling our trauma in a “cringy” or immature way.

And, first of all: teens are all a little bit cringy. That's okay. It's allowed to be immature at that age. This says nothing about how real your trauma is, though. There's no one wrong or invalid way to process trauma.

If your teen abused self is/was acting reckless and edgy and tough—wearing emo band T-shirts, writing “bad” poetry about how much they hate the world, dying their hair crazy colours, skipping school, and other such stereotypical teen things—you're not any lesser than other abuse victims.

Your trauma is not just an angsty or attention-seeking teenage phase.

You're not the “wrong” kind of abuse victim for not being completely helpless, passive and unproblematic.

You're not the only one who's dealt with teenage trauma this way.

And you don't have to let anyone downplay your pain because of this.

No reason to front for yourself