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hello hank today I had about 3 panic attacks because I was thinking about how inevitable death is, how everyone changes, how everyone that you see in your life will someday die, how one day the sun with engulf the earth in its fiery glory and the earth will fall to its demise, and how in the year 3015 no one would've known if I if existed or not. sorry if this anon is a bit dense but I needed to let it out. how do you stop thinking about this??? maybe it's just my anxiety talking. sorry.

I’m a terrible person to ask because I both think about death all the time and am not bothered by it (in the abstract, at least). This is likely not a good strategy for you, but that’s how I manage. I just think about the fact that the length of our time on Earth (or Earth’s time in the universe) is irrelevant because all meaning is inside of us. 

That doesn’t mean that meaning is fake, it means it’s constructed. The affects we have on each other by loving those close to us, and by being empathetic and compassionate towards those we do not know, are our only true contributions to the world, and that they’re fleeting does not matter because, again, all meaning is inside of us. We all get to have those affects, and we all get to choose every day how to try and make them. 

To me, that’s very freeing and very relaxing. Thinking about death reminds me that imagining meaning as something external to the self is wrong, which is a HUGE relief.

But, I recognize that my reactions are not normal, so my suggestion to anyone having mutliple panic attacks per day is to see a suitable health professional. Talk therapy has proven to be very helpful in dealing with anxiety.

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As many of you know, the joyous birth of baby Alice delivered tremendous heartache as well… After a long labor and emergency C-section, baby and mom were in trouble. While Alice, struggling to breathe, was rushed to the NICU, Kathryn fought for her life. A uterine hemorrhage necessitated replacing over 2 liters of blood. Intubation was required to restore her own breathing. Kathryn then went into septic shock and complete organ failure: her heart, lungs, kidneys, and liver stopped functioning while clotting threatened her limbs. The odds were stacked heavily against her.
But while Kathryn remained unconscious, the ICU doctors worked desperately to save her. Why all of this happened remains a mystery. Some factors suspected are a rare blood disease called HUS that can be triggered by pregnancy and surgery. Another possibility: amniotic fluid embolism, which is almost always fatal to the mother. Most doctors go their whole careers without encountering one.
While there was tremendous fear, there was also incredible strength. Friends and family provided physical, emotional and financial support. The sleepless new dad, Gabriel, ran back and forth between the NICU and ICU, making crucial decisions and providing boundless love.
Kathryn required emergency dialysis, and teams of specialists consulted and prescribed targeted drugs and other life-saving procedures. 12 tense days later, she stabilized — her heart and lungs made a comeback and she regained consciousness. The doctors call this a miracle. Without a doubt, it is a testament to Kathryn’s strength, spirit and to all of our love and prayers.
Alice remained in the NICU for ten days and thankfully now she is at home. Kathryn continues to amaze and show improvement across the board. But it will be a long road to recovery — physical therapy and more dialysis before she can join her husband and precious baby who is happy, healthy and not surprisingly, the most beautiful child ever born. Beyond that, there will be many months of extended medical care and treatment hopefully leading to Kathryn’s full recovery.
Peonies and plush toys would have been appreciated under normal circumstances, but what the family needs now is financial aid from those who are in the position to contribute. We are unsure how much their insurance will cover for care-to-date and the treatment, rehab and surgeries looming ahead. Kathryn will not be able to work for a very long time, and Gabe will be restricted while caring his two best girls. Beyond that, Kathryn will likely need some professional nursing care before she’s on her feet (literally) again.
Please share this link with those whom you think would be empathetic and generous. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
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