meliorism

honestly i think a good place to start for People Who Don’t Have Disabilities But Want To Help Out People Who Do is to just… take more breaks when you’re doing stuff. set a precedent where you are not always pushing through fatigue just because you can. it is literally humiliating to have to be the first and or/only person to take a break from stuff constantly. it makes me feel so terrible to be doing the least amount of work in a group setting even when i am doing as much as i am physically capable of, even in circumstances when i know no one else is necessarily judging me for it. 

i cannot hate myself into a version of me i will love.

i cannot punish myself in any way that will unmake the past.

If you have BPD you need to ask your loved ones for reassurance instead of assuming they don’t like you or intended to hurt you. I know it can be really hard, but establishing that you need it will make people far, far more understanding.

Don’t say, for example “do you hate me? I’ve been awful you should hate me” that is unproductive and makes both of you feel bad

Instead, try “hey, I noticed you used this tone/words/etc, what did you mean by that? I need some reassurance right now”

It’s not perfect and not everyone will help but it does work. It empowers both of you and can help you work towards a future where you don’t even have to ask

On twitter I’m seeing dozens of threads from Black activists warning people against burnout, giving all sorts of useful tips about preventing and managing it for the sake of a long-term, sustainable effort.

On tumblr I’m seeing a hell of a lot of young white kids yelling at anyone who actually follows those steps, and acting like burnout is a moral falling rather than a well-proven psychological phenomenon.

Be careful who you get your information from. Don’t let guilt lead you to make choices that will harm both you and the movement.

I’m going to reblog this again since I see more individuals are inquiring about burnout prevention tips in the notes and it’s why I sought out this resource. I hope it helps you!

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im painting on leaves again

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I want to be a kind and loving person, and I will continue to put effort into my compassion and softness instead of being swept up in resentment and hopelessness.

I just wanted to say I am so glad this resonated with people. I wrote it in a bid to work through my overwhelming feelings of resentment that felt as if they replaced the kind person I used to be. They did not, but they did overshadow me for some time. We all deserve to be loving and loved. Keep treating yourself as gently as you can.

brown butter sage pasta U know what's up.......

As you get older, you really just want to be surrounded by good people. People that are good for you, good to you, and good for your soul.

It’s okay to let things go simply because you find they’re not worth your energy. Whether it’s a craft you no longer enjoy, a relationship you’re getting tired of saving on your own or an argument you’ve tried and failed to resolve. Walking away, and knowing when you should, is very valuable.

Bah. Too tired write to

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Perfect for this time of year ​

Extra Creamy Tomato Soup

For the Recipe: https://www.facebook.com/groups/veganmethod

probably the best advice I've ever got was from my grandpa when I moved from my town and started a university, he told me to leave the house everytime when I start to feel down, just to go to the park, a supermarket, a bookstore, to even drive in a bus or tram, just be around other people because staying at home all the time kills you; and you know he was right

People who use he/she pronouns are so cool. Daily reminder to tell your local he/she that her pronouns are super cool and you hope he’s having a good day.

the truth is that they may never see your perspective. they may be too self involved to try to empathize with you, to ever feel they owe you an apology. but your perspective is still valid.