Demisexual Pride

I'm sorry, I'm here to ask something: is it possible to be demisexual only towards one gender? Like being demisexual and not liking men any way you put it?

@ the anon who was wondering if you could be demisexual and bisexual at the same time, I feel it is also worth clarifying that you can be demisexual and bisexual and have both of these labels apply to your sexual attraction. I do not feel like you need to inherently split it between romantic and sexual attraction. For example, it would be possible to be demisexual while also only exclusively experiencing gay or straight sexual attraction when you do experience it. Thus, it is also definitely possible to be bisexual and demisexual. It's just that the amount you experience it is less. I say this as someone who personally identifies as bi demiaroace. I'm both demiromantic and demisexual, but I experience those in a biromantic + bisexual way.

I think I might be demisexual

I always identified as ace bc. sex was just never a fucking option and barely felt comfortable doing it even with people I had crushes.

but then I met this girl who I fell for and I just know I felt sexual attraction. like, man, they sure we're right about "you know when you feel it" bc you just fucking can't stop thinking about them in a sexual way and it's just random thoughts and I'm pretty sure that happened bc we were physically close since we cuddled and kissed a lot

but, for personal reasons, I started to draw back my feelings towards her and now I feel less and less sexual attraction towards her and I do not want her sexually as before but I feel like she's the only person I feel comfortable having sex with

'cuz I did tried to kiss other people and make out with and it was just the same feeling as always when they showed clear sings of wanting sex: boring. fucking boring and nothing and annoying if too much

idk, I just wanted to kinda vent and put this out there

thank you for listening me!

I will still say that I'm asexual tho, since it's not only under the umbrella but also I like it

Hello.

I'm writing a story about demiromantic/sexual whom also has attachments issues (i.e is afraid to get close to other)

Can those two aspects coexist without one invalidating the other?

Hellou!

Is it possible to be demisexual+bisexual? Cuz once I asked one of my "friends" and they were like, "obviously not." And I don't want to bother searching it up because it doesn't make me feel sure for some reason.

I’m starting to venture into demisexuality and what that may mean to me and my identity, and I need a little bit of help. I’ve seen people say that they are fine with getting into romantic relationships but as soon as it starts to lead somewhere sexual is when they freeze up, and they need that emotional bond with the person. I feel like for myself it’s the complete opposite, and that I need an emotional bond before I even think about entering a romantic relationship, I can have crushes and what not but I don’t want to be with someone unless we have a strong and established bond/friendship. Does that still make me Demi?? Is it something else completely?? Or am I just overthinking things

Thanks!! 💕

I recently found out I'm demisexual-hetero, and I'm not sure if I'm still valid in the LGBTQ+ community. Do you think I am? What makes someone valid?

So i think i COULD be demiromantic because ive been talking to a bunch of people and some of them will be exactly my type no red flags but i wont experience any romantic attraction but i’ll feel like i should so i like fake it to myself??? I dont know im so sorry if any if this is offensive in any way im so so confused

Hello, I'm sorry to bother but I have a mini rant DX so I have a friend and they keep saying I have high expectations and I'm picky; then they say "in this generation everyone is like that" when I try to explain to them that for me as a demisexual person it's not about being picky or anything similar....

I explained it to them a few times but don't know what else to do now...(If you have any advice on how I should explain to them I would appreciate it)

Am I Gray Ace or demi sexual? I don’t know which label fits me better. I’ve only experienced sexual attraction twice in my life. The first time was with someone who I trauma bonded with intensely over a short period of time. But I didn’t know him long before I felt the sexual attraction. The second time was after knowing someone and developing a bond over an extended period of time. And the sexual attraction to both these people was strong but I haven’t experienced sexual attraction outside of these two people. I have also had close romantic bonds without sexual attraction. As in, I’ve felt intense romantic attraction many times with no sexual attraction. I have felt romantic attraction towards fictional characters and celebrities but never felt sexual attraction towards characters or celebrities. I’ve felt romantic attraction instantly before.

If someone is definitely attracted to one gender but multiple after forming a bond, does that make them demipolysexual?

Any good book recommendations that explicitly include masculine demisexual or ace characters? Let me know if that's too specific. The only one I've read is loveless

I am a demisexual queer women who is in a relationship with a straight man. I generally don't think about my sexualality too often but this leads me to not be able to express how I feel. My partner does not really understand my lower sex drive or things relating to me being demi. I know he wants to understand but I struggle with explaining how I feel without making it sound like I am not attracted to him.

Do you have any recommendations on how to talk about it?

Hi!

I am slowly realising that I might be somewhere on the ace spectrum. I am not sure though if I am ace(no sexual attraction) or demisexual which I know does fall into the asexual umbrella. I mean irrespective of how a person looks, if I find an emotional connect they do become much more to me than others. Looks don't play a part at all. But I really don't know if thats love or sexual attraction or if I have convinced myself regarding a particular one.How can I try to understand what I could be amongst the two? Without somewhere gaslighting myself which I feel I do sometimes.

Thank you :)

Hi, the definition of demisexuality seems a little ambiguous to me, so I'm hoping to find some clarity. From what I understand, it's sexual attraction formed after building an emotional bond. If a demisexual person were to have emotional bonds with several friends, would that result in sexual attraction to all those friends? Since sexual attraction and romantic attraction aren't mutually exclusive. Is that how demisexuality works? Thank you in advance!

Hiya, fairly recently realised I'm demisexual, but I'm gonna be honest I really don't know much about it at all. Curious if there's any specific place you'd recommend to look to try and better understand wtf is up with my sexuality? All I know is I'm flat out not interested in anyone I don't have a really strong relationship with but beyond that I haven't got much to go on

You know, growing up, I thought my brain was broken. I would watch my friends stare at “hot” strangers, and I looked around but I never saw what they saw.

I would see how they fell in love. First they are attracted to someone, then they get to know them, and one day they realize how much they love someone. But for me, I would get to know someone, then start falling for them, and suddenly realize that I’m attracted to them.

People told me that when I found the right person, it would be different, normal… and I didn’t really believe that. People thought I was lying, and calling others ugly because I wasn’t attracted to this… stranger. They would ask if I found someone cute, and I’d usually say “I don’t know, I don’t know them”.

I’ve never really felt welcomed in the rainbow community. So perhaps it makes sense that I never heard about Demisexuality. But once I learned about it, a lot of my life finally started to make sense. I wasn’t broken, I was a Demisexual. It still feels so new, and I still don’t know if others will understand/believe me… but now I know that I’m not alone. And I’m excited, and a little scared, to meet other Demisexuals.

It’s nice to know that this page exists, and I just thought I would say something. I hope I’m not rambling too much, and you don’t have to post this comment, but I wanted to say thanks.