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Safe space for Demisexuals to find inspiration and positivity. Run by Mod Ruadhan, updates may be infrequent but the blog is active. Everyone is welcome here. No discrimination, only love and support
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binghsien

lrb i am increasingly just telling people who profess to having no internal sense of gender and never had had one and find the idea of having one kinda alienating “you’re agender.”

technically what i should be saying is “you might be agender, maybe explore that?” but there are like a billion cis people and a million trans people telling them “if you don’t care about your gender at all that means you’re cis” which it absolutely doesn’t not so i feel the need to be a counter-weight.

if you are one of those billion cis people or million trans people: please stop saying that “not caring about your gender means you’re cis.” particularly when someone says “but i’ve never really had a sense of gender.”

not having an internal sense of gender does not mean that you are cis. it has never meant that you are cis! cis people care a lot about their gender! not caring about your gender means (very likely) that you are agender.

you don’t have to do anything with that information. it doesn’t compel you to start using specific pronouns or identifying in specific ways or joining specific support groups or communities. what it means is those things are there if you need them. what it means is you’re more like us than you are like them.

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I think that there may be an important and likely easily missed difference between not having any internal sense of gender and thinking you don’t care about gender because you haven’t really had to confront it. If your gender aligns well with societal expectations, many of the ways gender and gender roles affect your life (and the ways you care about it) will be invisible to you because you don’t bump into them or strain against them regularly. I think that that’s what a lot of (especially transphobic) cis people are often unintentionally referring to when they say they don’t have a gender. That said, there are likely also a lot of agender folks out there who haven’t really questioned or figured out their gender.

Anyways cheers, good post.

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cazort

Also, agenderflux person here, being agender or not, isn’t an either-or thing. You can see being agender as a spectrum, and it can also interact with genderfluidity, in the sense of some people, like me, being mostly agender but having some partial attachment to other gender identities that fluctuates over time.

If this stuff seems painfully abstract, it is. Think about it only if you find it empowering to do so. I personally find agenderflux to be a useful term for understanding my own experience of gender, but I recognize it is super esoteric and I don’t expect other people, even other nonbinary people or other genderfluid people, to necessarily understand it.

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Hey, it’s mod merlin. Maybe I’m not looking in the right place, but I find a distinct lack of nonbinary positivity posts, so here goes

To all the stunning nonbinaries around the world, and off it, a love letter from yours truly

You’re amab? Fucking amazing, I personally love you, you’re cool and absolutely stunning

You’re afab? Bloody awesome, peak wonderful. I adore you, you’re clever and sneaky

You’re a nonbinary who uses a gendered label for your romantic or sexual orientation? That’s totally valid and there is nothing more fun then confusing cis people!

You’re a nonbinary who doesn’t use gendered labels? Cool! You do you, it’s amazing you’re rejecting the shackles of cis stuff!

You’re nonbinary but you don’t know what to label yourself as, or don’t care? Brilliant! That’s totally wicked thing to do, and I love that!

You’re Agender? I’m one too! Same hat. I personally think you look aboslutley stunning and perfect today, yesrterdya and all time.

You’re gender fluid? Guess what??? You exist! And that is an amazing accomplishment, and I love that! Never listen to what a cis person says to you about your own gender identity, they don’t get it.

I’m totally missing loads of things here, so please feel free to add more! I’d love if this became a chain thingy

Yours,

Merlin king

#nonbinary#validation#positivity#mod merlin#genderqueer#enby#agender#genderfluid#demigirl#demiboy#trans#transgender
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