Happy Ace Week 💜 Here's your regularly scheduled reminder that asexual people belong in the queer community because WE. ARE. QUEER!

Thank you for coming to my Ace talk hehehe. If you're Ace I hope you feel validated. If you're not, I hope you learned something!

If you like my lil ace bunnies, I have them as stickers in my shop!

i've heard about the recent rise in aphobia online (haven't personally witnessed it due to the many asexuals i surround myself with) and all i have to say is aren't aphobes tired yet? do you never look at the arbitrary rules and "life goals" society has provided for you and just heave a sigh of world-weary apathy? have you never stopped to examine the system you've been put in and asked yourself why you care what other people are doing with their lives? why do the sex lives (and lack thereof) of other people bother you so much? i'm sorry our deviant sexuality that ostracizes us from both queer and straight society isn't deviant enough for you. aren't you tired? aren't you weary? must you say "waiter! waiter! those people aren't eating cake when everyone else is! everyone point and laugh so we can ignore the conservatives trying to stop us from eating our own cake!" i'm so goddamn tired. aren't you?

I haven't said this in a while so hey, being Ace is really cool and awesome actually, and I'm very happy to be the way I am. Wishing all asexuals a very happy being you. Keep rocking :)

“If you’re cis and aro and/or ace, you don’t get to reclaim the word queer”. Next time I see an aphobe say that, I’m rearranging their bones. 

I understand that not everyone is comfortable with reclaiming queer, but you don’t get to dictate who in the community can and can’t reclaim it.

I completely forgot people were allo. I was talking to my roommate about something and she was like what should I do if I need alone time with my guest? And I had to stop myself from laughing because my first reaction was like ???. I forgot sex was a thing people actually did

Researching Asexual Experiences - Looking for survey and interview participants!

Hi there. My name is Brooke Higginbottom. I’m a student researcher in the sociology department at the University of the Fraser Valley, in British Columbia, Canada. I’m working on an independent study. As someone who identifies as Asexual, I decided that I wanted to focus my research on the different perspectives and experiences of asexuals when it comes to establishing and maintaining romantic and/or sexual relationships. 

I intend to publish the results of this study. If you want to know more about me, my study, or my reasoning for this research topic, you can message my account or contact me through email: [email protected] 

If you’d like to participate, there is a link to a survey below. You don’t need to answer all of the survey questions if you don’t want to, and feel free to answer each question in the way that feels the best for you. Survey responses are anonymous and will not be public. Only I and my supervisor will be able to see any responses. 

I’m also looking for people to have one-on-one interviews with, so if you’d rather do an interview than fill out the survey, please contact me to let me know. All interviews are going to be conducted online through Discord, Zoom, Skype, etc. This will not include any video sharing to maintain confidentiality. 

I estimate that the survey will not take more than an hour to complete. Please read the consent form before starting the survey! 

Here is the link to the survey:

https://www.surveymonkey.ca/r/QYGH5ZP

Look at these cute dragon babies I made for my enamel pin set!

A new flag for the aspec community

Just an idea I had for an aspec flag. 

I haven’t really seen a flag that has been widely adopted for the greater aspec community as a whole, and I thought to throw my own hat into the ring because why not. 

More about the flag in the break below

Continua a leggere

[ID: A pride flag with five horizontal stripes of: Green, yellow, cream, medium blue, and purple. There is a small four pointed star in the center. End ID.]

I wanted to create a new aspec flag, mainly because the aspec flags we have only included aro and ace people, and completely forget not only aplatonic and agender people, but also other less known types of lack of attraction.

I wanted to made a flag inclusive to all aspec people that dont just stop on the ace and aro part of the community. Our community is diverse and beautiful, and I find unfair that there only flags that erase these amazing labels! (This is by no means hating on the people who made these flags!)

Here the stripes' and symbol's meanings:

Green Stripe - The green strip represents aromantic and agender people!

Yellow Stripe - Similar to the aroace flag, the yellow stripe represents love and relationships outside of amatonormativity ideas from our society. It also represents how our community fight against amatonormativity and radicalize the word "love". (Eg, but not limited to: Loveless, lovepunk and lovequeer aspecs). The yellow stripe also represents tertiary attraction.

White Stripe - The white stripe represents the diversity of the aspec community.

Blue Stripe - Like the aplatonic flag, the blue color is the opposite of yellow, that generally represents friendships and platonic attraction. This stripe represents anyone who is aplatonic.

Purple Stripe - This stripe represents asexual people, but also the aspec community as a whole.

Compass Rose Symbol - This symbol was inspired from the @the-moon-is-aroace 's aspec flag! Only changing the color for aesthetic reasons! I'm quoting their definition:

Well thats the post. At least in the beginning, if you use this flag, please credit me.

Have a nice day/night :D

you can’t beg for queer rep in media, then get disappointed when that queer rep is aro/ace.

A quick rundown on aegosexuality

Aegosexuality is a sexuality that falls underneath the asexual umbrella. Someone who identifies as aegosexual enjoys the idea of sex, but feels a disconnect between themselves and the subject of arousal.

For example: someone may enjoy reading and feel aroused by sex; however, they wouldn't want to be physically involved in the act.

By the way:

Your asexuality doesn't make you a soft uwu baby. Your aromanticism doesn't make you evil or cruel. Being aceallo doesn't make you bad rep for the aroace community. Being aroallo doesn't make you a player. Being romance-repulsed doesn't make you heartless. Being sex-repulsed doesn't make you childish or innocent. Being romance-favourable doesn't mean you aren't aro(spec). Being romance-repulsed doesn't make you a bad person.

You get to decide what you are, not the stereotypes or other people's opinions, you.

A quick rundown on demisexuality

Demisexuality falls under the Asexuality umbrella. Someone who is demisexual will only feel sexual attracted towards a person they have an emotional bond or connection with.

ex. a demisexual person may find a coworker sexually attractive after talking and working together, but wouldn't find them sexually attractive prior to talking and working with them.

Often times, people who identify as demisexual will also identify as another sexuality.

ex. A demisexual lesbian would be attracted to women and nonbinary people they form a connection with.

This does not mean that demisexual people will find all people they form an emotional bond with sexually attractive. It is the same as a straight woman not finding every man sexually attractive. This applies to every sexuality.

An Ace Witch