You deserve to see yourself represented. You deserve to see stories about people like you, made for people like you.

I came out the day after the election

and I did not do it with grace. I did not do it softly. I did not do it kindly. But I did it because I could no longer stand by and be a quiet/acceptable gay when the next generation was watching their future burn.

I came out to my mother in an awful in-your-face. I-dare-you-to-be-a-bigot way. Because I could. Because for the first time in my life I am free of having anyone relying on me.

I came out to my family. Because I watch as half my niblings have come out to me and are terrified as my siblings spout anti-gay rhetoric. I came out to my family and hope I paved the way for those young eyes who are watching their parents closely to gauge their reaction. The way I once watched my parents reacting to Ellen coming out and knew it was not safe.

I came out the day after the election to a family that voted for Trump.

I came out angry that I will be attending more funerals.

I came out feral and biting.

I did not come out gracefully.

I did not come out kindly.

I did not come out softly or quietly or acceptably*probably not a word*

I will be gay out loud.

For me

For those who would not be safe if they came out

We forget pride is not about love.

Pride is a bloody fight for survival against those who would be happy to watch us burn.

I came out

And I am not apologizing.

I need to cut up chunks of the Every Body documentary for tumblr. One of the things I've been seeing a lot of on here is queer people being skeptical about intersex medical abuse. Every Body has clips from a 90s international intersex meet-up where these people are describing the surgeries they were forced into at like. Age 8 and stuff. I've seen some trans ppl saying things like "well thats extreme malpractice and they'd get in trouble for that so there's no way that's happening" and its like. There are real faces behind these stories. We are real human beings really being medically ripped apart.

It also has a lot of interview clips from David Reimer. His face broke my heart. Knowing what I know about him after reading that book about him last term and then seeing his broken, beaten down face is awful. But the fact that he also took the time in that interview to speak on intersex medical abuse. The fact that you could see how much it hurt him to know what was done to him became the blueprint of what is happening to intersex infants. It hurt so bad but he was so fucking genuinely brave and strong for giving the interviews he did before ending his life. He said himself that he was speaking up to try to prevent anyone from going through this anymore.

Every Body is an amazing documentary that follows three intersex activists and their stories, and it's packed with relevant info. Had video interviews of John Money, even. And the whole thing was so queer positive and all the interview subjects were some sort of genderqueer or trans on top of being intersex.

One thing that killed me was telling Bambi at the start of it about a time I got caught in pre-k standing up to piss despite having a vulva and the pre-k teacher screamed at me and left a long note on my backpack for my parents. I was terrified. My parents never fucking said A WORD about it. I realized recently maybe that's bc I had a clitoral reduction like my scars indicate and they were freaked that I think I'm a "boy." Then someone in a clip from the 90s intersex meet up mentioned getting caught standing to piss and getting in trouble and it hit me like a fucking bus. I genuinely can't believe I made that memory connection right before an intersex person from 20 years ago said the same exact thing.

I attended an intersex orgs zoom meeting today and they mentioned having tried to do a screening of Every Body but that there had been difficulties with resources in getting it done, and how they'd like to be able to do it in the future.

We also talked about a newish Turkish documentary called Superhero Intersex (at least the Danish Film Institute has info on it and indicates that it has english subs) that would be interesting to see and screen maybe.

(Finnish people, get the newsletter from Intersukupuolisten Ihmisoikeudet, ISIO ry, and join the meetings, the 10th of every month, sometimes online, sometimes in person. And people from other countries look up the intersex advocacy org in your area and join it.)

A little bit of ace positivity for today:

The aceweek 2024 ended three weeks ago, but everyday is a day to be proud of being ace, so celebrate yourself and your identity with a little something every once in a while!

Happy ace life for all of you! (Although remember that labels might change and fluctuate over time so it’s ok if it changes but I guess you get what I meant)

🖤🩶🤍💜

You're still allowed to be repulsed by certain actions even if said action is done under a different attraction. Just because a friend claims they want to kiss platonically doesn't mean you magically have to be favorable towards kissing suddenly because it's not under a romantic or sexual context. Just because someone claims an action is under a form of attraction you aren't repulsed to doesn't mean you suddenly aren't repulsed by the action. You can still be repulsed by kissing or quite literally anything else even if it's not done in the original context that you found it repulsive in. You deserve to have your boundaries respected and don't let people try to break those boundaries with "loop holes"

you don't have to have sex in your relationship for it to be successful <3

I have been very anxious and worried and upset for obvious reasons, so I have been collecting resources that people have been posting into a master post, as well as adding my own resources. This post is LONG so it's under a cut, but it includes:

We're still here. We will still be here, no matter what.

We still have each other.

I know this is just a little blog in a big, sometimes frightening world.

But remember that we are not alone and there is a community of people that share your joys and your sorrows, your fears and your hope.

also, polling places aren’t opening the whole day tomorrow. make sure you know when your polling places close and open.

[ID: An infographic with the title "Election Day Polling Hours", made by Ballotpedia. In the top right corner is the text, "All Times Are Local For November 5th, 2024." Following is a list showing the hours for each state or district:

States marked with a single asterisk means that those are the minimum hours; some localities have additional hours (Idaho, Massachusetts, North Dakota, and Vermont).

States marked with two asterisks mean that hours vary; some localities open later (Maine, Minnesota, Montana, and Rhode Island).

For New Hampshire, which is marked with three asterisks, hours vary; some localities open later and close earlier.

Oregon and Washington conduct elections largely by mail.

Contact your local elections office for more info.

The website linked is VoteSaveAmerica.com/Vote

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And remember that if the polls close while you're in line, you are still legally allowed to cast your ballot and the poll workers can't turn you away. Even if you get in line one minute before closing time, you are still in line and you have the right to vote.

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day 627 - happy ace week!! i am totally drowning in work this week, but here's a quick couple of ace palette slimes i drew in wigglypaint <3

So....asexual awareness week + A X O L O T L gf god uh

if i had to explain what tumblr is like i’d only show this

No one seems to be acknowledging the far funnier element of this, which is, that when you go to the commenter’s account, you find out they are actually fucking roleplaying as a sexually repressed skeleton and jjst really committed to the bit while everyone in the reblogs is talking about how much they hate minors or whatever. thank you kharak the skeleton servant of the almighty lich king

Happy Ace Week 💜 Here's your regularly scheduled reminder that asexual people belong in the queer community because WE. ARE. QUEER!

Thank you for coming to my Ace talk hehehe. If you're Ace I hope you feel validated. If you're not, I hope you learned something!

If you like my lil ace bunnies, I have them as stickers in my shop!