🌈Survival & Housing Fund For Black Lesbian Couple🌈
We both come from low income households with Black immunocompromised elders & parents, who have had difficulty receiving adequate medical care since & BEFORE the pandemic hit. Both of us were working at the start of the pandemic, while I got laid off, & my girlfriend, a Trauma Informed Massage Therapist who specializes in the treatment & bodywork of marginalized communities, had to shut down & cease work for 6 months due to a state shutdown. While she has recently returned to work in a limited & precarious capacity, she does not make enough to sustain her household nor do i mine, as both of our unemployments have run out.
For my girlfriend, who works in close proximity to other people due to the nature of her profession as a massage therapist, she is extremely at risk for COVID-19 exposure. She has debilitating and diagnosed Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, so this pandemic has hit her hard in many ways; not only financially, but as well as mentally. She does her best to minimize transference and exposure to COVID aerosols, by obsessively cleaning not only her office, but herself and all items she touches thereafter. We get drive thru testing every 2 weeks to make sure that we have not gotten sick, and also not gotten her immunocompromised parents sick, because they would not be able to survive it. Having OCD and carrying that weight & responsibility on her shoulders is hell. But, she is one person trying her best.
One of her personal goals is to obtain her own office space for her private practice where she will be able to take on more clients of marginalized and low income experience and expand to teaching people of color & children in low income communities (who are the most often overworked & underserved when it comes to healthcare and bodywork) how to preserve and treat their bodies when they don't have access to conventional healthcare. Teaching child to child massage would help enable a generation to effectively learn & practice emotional intelligence, autonomy, consent, & empathy in a way that utilizes safe touch.
As for me, it's been difficult finding work from home positions that will take someone with no prior experience or that even have openings. I've exhausted my own savings (some of which were to fund our goal of finding our own place together) from my previous job keeping abreast of bills that have not ceased once since the pandemic started. My physical and mental health has been in decline without access to a psychiatrist to monitor and prescribe me antidepressants for my struggle with suicidal ideation and a suicide attempt that was a year ago in October. 2019 was not a very kind year to me, & 2020 has shaped up to be similar in terms of trauma & survival. I currently live in a household where a former abuser has easy access to and having to cope with him being in close proximity and not alert my family is a trying and triggering process that sends me down that dangerous path of thinking. Another goal of this fund is to get me away from such trauma and onto a path of healing, not just acquiring more coping skills.
The areas we respectively live in and come from are not safe for various reasons. For me, it's growing up & coping with near constant gun violence, overpolicing, abuse, and normalization of misogynoir within my neighborhood. For her and her family, it's living in a predominantly white & right wing gun toting area as one of the only Black families in her area. We want better for ourselves and a safer community to live in that allows us to express our full Black lesbian selves in entirety without threat of persecution or violence. Or as close to actualizing that reality as we can get.
Goals Of This Fund:
- Secure safe housing & first few months rent for my partner & I
- Supplement our income to keep up with bills & necessities
- Secure transportation to facilitate my move in
- Obtain rent for an office space for her private massage practice
- Enable us to stay in quarantine
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We appreciate our communities coming together to uplift us and encourage to make this fund, as we are nowhere and nothing without community. We are living in times where community aid is more essential than ever, especially for Black communities who are treated as footnotes & left in the margins in times of national insecurity.