The Greatest Thing You'll Ever Learn

reblog with who took your concert virginity in the tags

i would like to point out that sneezing into your elbow and washing your hands (soaping for 20 seconds and rinsing in warm water) is something everyone should be doing all the time as part of basic hygiene and not just when a global pandemic is happening

April 15th is a accursed day in human history. Lincoln’s death (1865), Sinking of Titanic (1912), Boston Bombing (2013), and now Notre Dame Fire (2019).

this one’s for all the fat girls who’ve cried in dressing rooms 💗

when i was about thirteen or so, my mother took me to sears to buy me pants. i went into the youth section and picked out jeans and dickies.

the act of trying to fit my fat, squishy body into something that would not go past my knees was embarrassing. but it’s doubled when i realized i was wearing the biggest size in that section, what was supposed to be my section. the look my mother gave me when i told her that nothing fit is seared into my memory.

so i cried. i cried because this meant i had to shop at the womens section. for some completely asinine reason, in my teens, i decided that if i ever shopped in the fat lady’s section, it meant that i had failed. at what? i still don’t really know. passing by the abundance of ugly, drab, boring clothes that the plus size section provided felt like i was in a funhouse, like this can’t be my reality.

but the pants fit there. i took no pleasure from this, and i cried again.

so that’s why i made this post. because the experiences that fat and chubby kids go through in dressing rooms is unique and so rarely talked about. i’m in a much better place now and have definitely embraced my fat thighs and hanging double belly, but i know a lot of us who grew up to be fat adults still have some pain we have to address and work through.

so again, this is for all the fat kids who have cried in dressing rooms. however your particular story went, i hope you can look back on it and start to heal.

when your child comes to you and says “this is something that makes me uncomfortable and unhappy and makes me not want to spend time with you” and you respond with a 20 minute speech that boils down to “deal with it because life sucks” you have no respect for your child and you need to change your parenting tactics

YES! This is why we parent with respect for our child. Doesn’t like tickling? we are a tickle free house. Doesn’t like it when I call him my baby boy? Ok, sucks for me, but I get it, he’s a big boy now and so I don’t call him my little baby boy. At the end of the day, we are teaching him NOT to ignore his own intuition and autonomy. If I kept on tickling him, even after he told me he doesn’t like it, I’m teaching him that he doesn’t have the right to say who can and cannot touch him, that he should ignore that voice inside of himself, and that because I’m bigger he has to do what I say. I ABSOLUTELY do not want a child who:

1. is afraid to tell people (especially grownups) to stop touching him/stop talking to him in a certain way

2. thinks that he has no right to ask an adult to stop touching him/saying things to him

3. thinks that his parents won’t listen to him when he expresses himself, especially if someone has done something his intuition says isn’t right. 

I firmly believe that unless the couple has discussed and agreed to marriage ahead of time, nobody has any business making a surprise public proposal.

Okay except some people want a surprise public proposal. 

Girl my husband took me to Spain and gave me a kinder egg on the beach, the ring was inside the capsule (Lord knows how he did that) if any feminist tried to take that away from me I may cut a bitch. Best surprise of my life.

I wish people were capable of analyzing larger social trends and figuring that a significant number of women end up getting pressured into engagements or marriages they don’t want bc the audience that comes along with a public proposal will think she’s a bitch if she says no - instead of thinking “i liked it when it happened to me, therefore it could never turn out badly for anyone, not ever!!!!”

I think what people are misunderstanding here is that agreeing to marriage ahead of time doesn’t need to be like, asking permission to propose? I surprised my now spouse with a proposal in Disneyland but before that we had several conversations about the future of our relationship, future plans for our retirements and how we’d have to get married eventually for immigration purposes. I didn’t go to her and say “so would you say yeah if I proposed?” or hash out deets ahead of time, but we had enough of a mutual understanding and communicated desire to get married that, although it was a surprise for when and how I proposed, it wasn’t out of left field at all.

This is exactly like conversations about consent, people get up in arms thinking that it means you have to have contracts and serious sit down conversations before doing anything when its REALLY EASY to simply COMMUNICATE with your partner so things like this are done properly, yeesh

“proposal can be a surprise, engagement shouldn’t be“ - saw that somewhere, thought it was the most accurate

Each year on my birthday I am forced to do things I don’t want to do so my family can make me pretend to be happy

i just really love when someone has studied a historical figure for a long time and gets so familiar with them that they talk about them as if they were friends. like there goes my boy caesar killing a bunch of gauls again! oh julius you rascal

as tomorrow is september first id like to make sure everyone remembers not to make jokes about Wake Me Up When September Ends

to clarify if you don’t know:

-the song is about Billie Joe’s father’s death

-he has repeatedly requested that people leave it alone, and yet people persist in joking about it, including tweeting directly at him about it

-don’t be an asshole and make jokes about it

-September 1st is the perfect day to make hogwarts express jokes instead!

some fun sex tropes:

In their last year at high school, Enjolras and Courfeyrac find themselves tied winners of the “most likely to end up in jail” prize in their yearbook. They take it graciously.

If asked why Combeferre, as the third member of the infamous meddling trio, isn’t also tied there, everyone who voted for those two reply automatically; “he wouldn’t be stupid enough to get caught.”

does anyone else ever get into the habit of listening to a cast recording and becoming accustomed to the specific way that actors sing the song and when you hear another version you just kinda

……

"you should just get your license!" “driving is fun!” “It’s not that hard!” leave me the fucK ALONE

Fav OTP : Lanie Parish and Javier Esposito ( Castle)

My older sister posted this on my facebook wall with the comment “This sounds like you”…