aditi⭑

Having been in a good amount of toxic situations I had to get out of all alone, my love language has become ‘consideration.’ I just love when people think about me and try to make life even a little bit easier because it's already hard enough.

People will look at you and the million things you have going on and come to you to make it a million and one without even an ounce of empathy and kindness.

Having a person to say ‘I'll take care of that so you can focus on this’ is damn near necessary to heal my inner child, inner teen and also the outer adult.

You get to be hurt by stuff that hurts.

You don't have to frame it as a 'learning experience' unless or until you're ready— or ever if you don't choose to.

This is your life and you are letting people make you unhappy? In your own life?

Damn.

Don't know how to put it but I think people don't understand that it's really about the principles of things. The situation may be small, but out of all the ways you could've moved, you chose to move that way?? hmm..

It's like if you didn't feel yourself wildin', i dont know what's left to say. or the point of saying ath.

You can't just unlove, what you loved, overnight and be with someone else the next second unless you never loved it to begin with...and I guess that's why they say that true love is tested after the breakup and not during the relationship.

People are allowed to leave your life. YOU, on the other hand, are not allowed to let yourself leave with them.

Character is not something that you do when someone else is looking, analysing or just being there with you. It's what you would rather do irrespective of someone's presence or absence.

-ig@/sadiahakim

there's a clear difference between 'turning to hatred' and 'losing feelings.' and the latter is more dangerous.

People often rush towards a state of hate but when you hate something, it's still there in your mind. However, when you lose all feelings, you can't even see the person standing right in front of you.

I could never put, one of the most dominant things on my mind, into words but I found this today and this is exactly what I've been looking for:

"Just because you can resist the devil doesn't mean you should hang out with them. If you don't want temptation to follow you, don't act like you're interested. It's much easier to avoid temptation than it is to resist it."

via ig@/jakepaulturner

here's a tweet to fuck up your healing:

"I have so much love for her. And she doesn't want it. And I can't have it because it's not mine. And I can't give it to anyone or anything else because it's not theirs. its her's, all her's and there's nowhere else to put it. it's so fucking heavy, and I have nowhere to put it."

get in loser, we're healing and falling in love with life again.

the traumatized urge to delete all social media and return to the shadows of anonymity🤝🏻the healed urge to be seen and stay connected.

I prefer rejection over confusion.

Reject me loud and clear, so I can know where I stand. It won't decrease my self-love or worth, I've been alive long enough by now to know I love me for sure. I vibe with me. I promise you won't ever see me taking anything personally, I haven't given anyone the authority to shake the foundations of my love for myself. It's always good here bub:)

You may leave, respectfully.

We are responsible for our choices.

But we also need to acknowledge the realistic limitations of our options. That's not an excuse. That's reality.

Maybe we can ease up on ourselves for going with the less shitty of the shittiest choices we had.

And this is for the survivors not for the abusers to make excuses for their actions when they clearly knew better!!

Please don't try to have a casual conversation with me if you owe me an apology:)

xoxo

Behind every healed girl,