Ugh you literally cannot have a discussion about Snape (or probably also many other fictional characters) without people bringing their trans-/ queer-/ whatever-bullshit into it in the blink of an eye. I'm so tired of this time and I'm so tired of this fandom and of this generation. I cannot tell you how much I don't give a sh** about this topic.
I get it, different people might have the same comfort character and at least that's a bit better than constantly having to be yelled at by people online, who hate this character with intensity. And I get it, we all want to feel close to our comfort character personally. But I'm definitely incompatible with huge parts of the current fandom around it and I have yet to find anyone who writes or draws stuff with Snape that is more like my world and experience. I'm glad I have found 3 authors that are a little bit like that so that I can join in a little bit.
But no, Snape is absolutely not "queer", absolutely not a cross dresser and not homo- or demisexual or whatever other term people have come up with. He does not wear nail polish and high heels and he does not secretly feel like he is a girl. Everyone can have their own interpretation anyways but this is mine and I'm done with reading people's rotten takes on that.