Just a word of wisdom because I saw it more recently. Be careful what life-advice you do or don't take, especially online. There's lots of people with resentment and really unresolved sh*t and they're selling their hateful, often destructive conclusions as guidance online. It may even sound plausible or very subtly packaged but trust your gut instincts. If you feel repulsed in any way, there might be a good reason. Especially in terms of relationship advice of any sorts. Actual guidance comes with empathy and feels warmer, it cares about the consequences of that advice. Please look with awareness at this stuff.