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nope, just changed my ao3 name to dandrogynous and made them registered user-access only. between that whole sending cornelia fic thing on twitter and me kind of moving on from fandom, i didn’t want my name connected to those fics and i didn’t want someone who doesn’t need to see them seeing them.

I went to tatinof w people and I’m going to ii with friends so tbh I don’t know if their shows are fun to go to alone! But I feel like it would be. Just think of it like going to the movies alone - maybe a little awkward before the previews start but once the lights go down the last thing you’re gonna be thinking about is that you’re there by yourself. Dnp are so great live and you’ll be surrounded by other people having a truly fantastic time so I think if you go you’ll have a good evening regardless of whether you go by yourself or with someone else. Also if you have a twitter it’s easy to find other people going to your show, you could find someone to hang out with if you really felt like it. Have fun!!

Hi, that’s amazing! I would love to read it. If you want a beta hit me up. I’m really happy that you’ve found time to write something that feels easy and fun again. And thank you so much, things are actually going really well.

haha i am, it’s @finnreyofficial’s birthday on the 31st of July so we’re going to the Cleveland show and we’re gonna get drunk as skunks and have a great fuckin time.

aw yeah I can totally do that! hit me up off anon, I’m pretty sure anyone is able to dm me on here. I’m so glad you’ve started writing, it’s a fun hobby but also a really amazing tool for introspection and thought. it’s gotten me through a lot of tough shit. can’t wait to read what you’ve got for me, boo!

aw omg that sounds awesome and so fun I’m so happy for you. I saw love simon with this dude a couple weeks ago! great date. hope things continue to go well with you guys, when are you hanging out again?

yes king same!!!!!!! we are out here living our best gay lives. how was your date what did you do??

I swear you and all the other phannies who are phannies with a holier-than-thou complex will jump down his damn throat for anything because you all have expectations of him that he’s never claimed for himself. Y’all assume that everyone is out to get you and that if someone disagrees with your interpretation of something then they’re misogynistic. You’ve decided somewhere along the way that Dan hates young people and girls and thinks the only way to be taken seriously is to have men approve of him when he’s literally never said that at all, or done anything to indicate that that’s what he wants from his audience. Wanting to be taken seriously =/= misogyny, it = wanting to be judged by the content he’s creating now, which he clearly is proud of at this point in time. The “email” from “Sandra” was a way for Dan to provide a reason for otherwise randomly unlisting a bunch of videos right before tour bc if he had just unlisted them without any announcements you all would have thrown a shit fit then too. It’s like… logic? Idk, stop projecting your insecurities onto Dan and use your brain. Also when did I mention his depression at all during any of this? Good reach though.

aw this is cute I love u!! thank u. I am really genuinely so happy w what i’m doing w my life. I hope things are going well for u too 💙

haha, I feel like the whole point is that it’s like that ironic “edgy” thing. also it’s stuff that Dan himself would wear, like, that don’t talk to me shirt basically looks like his wardrobe already. if that’s not your cup of tea then don’t buy anything, you know? it’s just merch. I really don’t understand why people get so mad about everything Dan does. when Phil releases merch it’s gonna be bright and silly and childish and I’m not gonna like it but I’m not gonna put him on blast for designing a t-shirt that doesn’t fit my personal preferences.

also - and this is just me being a danboy watching with exhaustion while this fandom repeats patterns for years and years and years - I hate when people talk about Dan in terms of “edginess” because often they’re talking about his depression. which is real, and out there, and something he deals with every day. he’s just a dude trying to share things without sharing too much, and if he wants to talk about his life through jokes and dark humor then that’s okay and I wish people would like… listen to his message instead of the words he uses to send that message. so many people use dark humor as a way to deal. why is it different for Dan? especially now, when he is also actively talking about recovery and therapy and physical wellness as well as mental health? idk. this got long and tangential and I’m not trying to jump down your throat these are just my thoughts LOL long story short I don’t love the merch but I like it and I might buy an eclipse crewneck and I think everyone has been toootally overreacting because they want Dan to be someone he is not. the end.

that shit sucks bro I’m sorry :( if you think about it though you are 1000% tougher and manlier and stronger than any cis man out there and you won’t have to deal with this forever. it gets easier with time, and if you ever decide to start T it goes away entirely. also pre-T I found that light exercise (yoga, jogging, playing just dance on the wii) helped a lot with cramps and general dysphoria. take a long shower with some essential oils at the bottom of the tub, let yourself breathe, be kind to your body. hope you’re okay.

dude!! yes!! not to be that guy but I told you so!!!! just keep reminding people about your pronouns, they’ll get it sooner or later. FUCK that’s so awesome. we love safe and supportive workplaces.

YOOOOOO!!!! isn’t it amazing how much anxiety immediately lifts?? like 100 pounds have fallen off your back. i’m so fucking happy for you, dude, welcome to the rest of your life 💙💙💙

imagine being this wrong about anything… can’t relate

yeah I mean I obviously don’t speak for all trans guys either but if it were written respectfully and researched properly and and done well I wouldn’t have a problem with it. it’s not something I would ever read bc pregnancy horrifies me but I definitely don’t think that it would be like… morally bad to write about, lmfao. it could be really good actually, in that it would definitely help to normalize it. but I would never read it personally.

you’re not out of line at all! but yeah I mean mpreg is like… inherently transphobic bc it literally is an entire trope based on the idea that Men Can’t Get Pregnant So What If They Could. like…. men can get pregnant actually, there are a lot of trans men who can and have conceived and carried their own babies, and the hoops fic writers jump through to write about ~sexxxxy pregnant cis men~ instead of trans men is a lil icky. but also like whatever, lmfao. i’d rather have cis writers writing a weird mildly transphobic trope than trying to write fics about trans men and relying on generalizations and stereotypes to do so.

hi I’m good! working a lot but good. it’s been warm where I live lately so I’ve actually been able to go for runs outside and stuff which feels great. and I have a lot of exciting stuff coming up since concert season is starting and I have tickets to like three shows in the next few months. also i’m six and a half months on T and i’m looking CUTER THAN EVER so things are good. how are you!!