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I never usually reblog informational stuff. But in this case it is something I feel very strongly about.
This, because more people need to see that 50 shades is nothing more then gloryfied abuse.
God I hate how hugely incorrect 50 shades of gray is about bdsm and it promotes abuse so much.
Say it louder
Wooooow yes
Can they not advertise 50 Shades literally everywhere??? The movie is 100% about sex like?? Children exist, Straight People??
Y'all say that the LGBT community pushes agendas everywhere yet so far I’ve seen hetero sex on billboards, ads, commercials, buses, etc.
Because at the end of the day, for some reason straight people genuinely believe that BDSM sex between a white heterosexual couple is more acceptable than a gay couple holding hands in the background of a Disney channel show.
And let’s also point out the fact that it romanticizes and normalizes abuse on top of that.
Nothing gives me more joy than this picture right here:
It’s fucking disgusting!
(via smolshell)
The fact that 15 year old girls are looking at Christian Grey and thinking that he is the perfect man and that him and Anastasia have a healthy relationship is a sickening and terrifying thought.
What fucking parents are letting their kids read this book!
we need more male characters like Peeta Mellark to save us from the toxic abusive Christian Grays of the literary world.
50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
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Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.
so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay
im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid
Let me
just
fucking
drop
some fucking
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.
And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.
HEY LOOK EVERYTHING I HATE ABOUT 50 SHADES SERIES IN ONE
ooo, someone actually broke down the Safe Sane Consensual thing and how 50 Shades DOESN’T EVEN TOUCH IT WITH A 10 FOOT POLE.
def reblogging.
Reblogging this again because it explains what I hate most about 50 Shades. The laughably horrendous writing is bad enough. But this is the worse thing. I haven’t even read this book. But from the parts I’ve seen it’s obvious that the above statement is completely accurate.
BDSM relationship? Yes, good. Do what you will.
But do it SAFELY motherfuckers. Seriously. I hate that people read this book and think it depicts a realistic, healthy D/s relationship …
Trial has been set for a Swedish man who killed his girlfriend while playing a “Fifty Shades of Grey” inspired sex game.
The German woman was 28 years old when she died after he hit her 123 times with a wooden blackboard pointer and bound her up in nylon tights and condoms.
Reblogging because why wouldn’t I? This piece of shit book series makes all the wrong people look bad.
I may be a little weird but at least i didnt write fifty shades of grey
So there’s this movie coming out with a predominantly black cast and it’s all about an abusive man and it’s clear that he’s the abuser.
Now see, if the guy was white, it would be called Fifty Shades of Grey.
In the hands of a sane and logical writer, this is how the book/movie would end.
Aro laughed. “Ha ha ha,” he giggled.
-Stephenie Meyer New Moon
Excuse me but
“His voice is warm and husky like dark melted chocolate fudge caramel… or something.” -EL James Fifty Shades of Gray
Fifty Shades is a treasure trove of terrible lines.
“I feel the color in my cheeks rising again. I must be the color of the Communist Manifesto.”
“His erection springs free. Holy cow!”
“Holy crap! He’s wearing a white shirt.”
The fact it used to be Twilight fanfiction really comes through when you actually look up some of the text.
“His eyebrows widened”
- E.L. James; Fifty Shades of Grey
This post always makes me feel better about myself.
I stopped my work day so I could make this stupid gif.
I nearly peed.
For fucks sake I thought you were kidding about the Communist Manifesto
I wanna see the look on E.L James' face when she sees these asks. It's gonna be great.
E.L’s reaction is most likely this
Me contributing to #AskELJames
Author of 50 Shades did an ask tag on Twitter and it apparently went as gloriously as anyone could have hoped
Author of 50 Shades did an ask tag on Twitter and it apparently went as gloriously as anyone could have hoped
Tsssssss
IM SORRY WHAT
We’re
The slaughter of children in the Hunger Games was portrayed as one of the horrors of a dictatorship in a horrendous dystopia. Not something to be sought after and glorified as a romantic movie. How can anyone even compare the two?!
What she said^
They just straight up admitted it’s abuse too
And yes I was upset about that slaughter, so are all of the good guys, that’s kinda the point!
FINALLY, MY GREY LIVEBLOGGING HELL IS OVER!! For previous updates, see our GREY tag and my twitter @Hello_Tailor. Here’s what I learned from reading this book:
1. Christian Grey is a massive Creep. Obvs. He orders a background check on Anastasia after they’ve met one time, then starts stalking her, and things go downhill from there.
2. There are about a billion references to wine in this book, presumably to give the impression of Christian Grey as a suave man of the world. Unfortunately, E.L. James did not even make a token effort to google any basic facts about wine, so Christian ends up looking like a total idiot.
Side note: Christian is consistently rude to waiters/baristas, AND seems convinced that all of his female employees want to bone him. What a charmer, right? I want to read a book from the perspective of his PA: “Oh yeah, Mr Grey skipped another board meeting to track his boring girlfriend’s cellphone around a mall. Then he fired someone for serving the wrong kind of croissant. That’s pretty standard for a Wednesday.”
3. Most of this book is filler. I lost track of how many pointless scenes she included about Anastasia’s favorite brand of tea, or what they were going to have for breakfast, or what time Christian got up that morning.
4. I’m wondering if even the most ardent Fifty Shades fan would enjoy the sex scenes in Grey. Instead of focusing on Anastasia’s role being bossed around by handsome, rich Christian (which I believe was the appeal of the original trilogy), Christian’s POV means we’re treated to endless descriptions of how fragile, clumsy and sexy Anastasia is… followed by weirdly medical, methodical descriptions of sex.
The prose really is… quite something.
5. Finally: for an international sex symbol, Christian Grey is embarrassingly dull.
