I've played all 3 games multiple times since COVID started getting prepped for 4. Setting up my worlds getting invested in each set up.
So one thing I'm doing is trying to leave a different person in the fade each playthrough. (Cheated a little left Stroud the first 2 games cause i couldn't bare to leave Hawke)
But for my final two i forced myself to leave Alistair with the Wardens so I had to make the choice.
Left a Male/Mage Hawke (romanced Fenris, all his family is dead) and honestly I burst into tears 3 times. When I had to choose him, when Varric came running up asking for him. And again during the scene where Varric is writing letters to their friends and Hawkes LI. The grief was real.
I love Alistair just as much, and actually probably more. Hes my most romanced LI through all playthroughs through all games. But leaving him behind didn't quite hit the same way. Noone other than Varric really mentions it even happened. My Inquisitior chewed out the wardens and that made me tear up a little but, Lelianna, Morrigan, hell even Cullen, all knew Alistair from the 5th Blight, none of them even acknowledge his sacrifice. And this was a playthrough with a dead Warden. I just wished there was a scene like with Varric getting angry with the Inquistor with Lelianna. Or Morrigan even mentioning him.
I feel a little betrayed by Bioware. Give Alistair some love, the man deserved to be mourned by his friends.