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@curiouslilbird / curiouslilbird.tumblr.com

90s child | AuDHD | multifandom. Reblogging humor, creativity, important points, and beautiful things, primarily.
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At times anger and resentment may be so deeply rooted inside of us that they will fog our mind. Especially if we have been treated in a certain confusing way and convinced ourselves, since it was not what we wanted or deserved, that we're a victim of this situation and everyone cannot love/care about us as we'd like to, we may always interpret others' intentions as negative to us. Even in the (rare) occasions they're not, even when they are actually done with care towards us (but may be worded/done in a unclear way too).

Please take a breath and ask for explanations or read twice if you read something that you may misinterpret especially if it happens when you are already stressed/angered and/or in a victim-like mentality (like if you have to do something you don't want to but are obliged, and you have no one to help you or such). It's a reaction that happens out of habit seen this background: you're trying to defend yourself from the nth threat that makes you feel unworthy and shameful. Try to ground yourself before replying with frustration and pain, also to avoid further useless fights with innocent people.

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when “no means no” comes up, you hear guys say “oh, but sometimes girls play hard to get” and like…. i guess, yeah.  men & women both can be really bad at being honest about what they want.  but just consider your options.

  1. the other person says “no” and means “yes” –>  you back down –>  they learn that if they want something, they have to clearly express themselves
  2. they say “no” and mean “no” –>  you back down –>  you’ve successfully respected their boundaries 👍👌
  3. they say “no” and mean “yes” –>  you ignore them –>  you’re perpetuating a pattern of bad communication & ignoring boundaries 👎 & given that you aren’t a mind reader, it’s really just luck that you haven’t coerced an unwilling person into sex
  4. they say “no” and mean “no” –>  you ignore them –>  you’ve committed sexual assault 🚨🚨🚨 do not pass go, do not collect 200 dollars

unless you care more about getting laid than not assaulting people, respecting people’s “no”s is a win-win situation.  don’t be a potential rapist

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lavendette

This is really important

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fungi-funguy

Walkable cities are nice, and I want them. I want sidewalks with that cool glow-in-the-dark pavement in them. I want busses and trains. I want the passenger trolly tracks plucked from under the roads and updated.

But I also want back roads to be paved more often. I want speed bumps around the poor neighborhoods where kids nearly get hit by people using us as a shortcut to speed through. I want the country to be more livable too, because people shouldn't be forced to move to the city just to survive.

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Why do so many people make tiktoks while they're clearly driving. What the fuck. Stop that shit, you're gonna kill someone.

I think people online treat driving too casually tbh, like there was a poll about people's bad habits while driving and they weren't bad habits or problematic or whatever, they were all things that literally kill people every single day. You are driving a massive vehicle that can very easily turn into a murder weapon with your carelessness, take this shit seriously.

"Haha I never use my turn signals" you are going to kill someone.

"I don't do full stops at stop signs lol" you are going to kill someone.

"Sometimes I text while I'm driving 🤭" YOU ARE GOING TO KILL SOMEONE.

Also people who speed up or suddenly stop or swerve a lot to freak out someone in the car for fun: it stops being funny when you get into a car accident because of it. Just so you know.

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ms-demeanor

By the way, the way that No Child Left Behind impacts the trade worker shortage in the US is because in about 2002 shop classes, home ec classes, auto classes, etc, had their funding diverted into teaching kids how to pass standardized tests so that the schools could continue to pay teachers and keep the library open.

This is one place where I actually WILL do the generational thing and say that Millennials and Gen Z got completely fucked in a way that older generations didn't.

It's actually really fucking hard to repair a cabinet when you've never had a shop class. It's really goddamned difficult to learn everything about car maintenance on your own through youtube videos instead of in a semester of auto shop. It's really goddamned difficult to figure out you want to be a plumber or an electrician or a welder when you are eighteen years old, have been taught to pass tests and cajoled into applying for college, and you've never handled an air compressor or used a socket wrench.

I want the rugged individualist homeschooler tradcaths who have found this post to know that I am also all in on socialism and DIY abortion.

This is not a post about unschooling your children in ancient greek and shitty carpentry so they can read the bible impressively enough to find a partner at a private college and get married by twenty two then poorly repair the cabinets in their two bedroom apartment while selling LuLaRoe and dreaming of wheat fields, this is a post about eradicating location-based taxation for funding public schools so that we can have more shop classes and less competition for federal funding based on performance but more overall federal funding for public education.

College is a scam, shop class isn't. You can literally be artsy on a vehicle with the right paint & learn how to keep it running too. I don't see how y'all don't want to have a badass car with a badass paintjob of your favorite fandom(s) on it.

Fandom Freedom Rides should be a thing anyway!!

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This may seem silly but this is what I needed to hear in 2016, so I’m going to say it now. It’s okay to feel hopeless or angry or scared or betrayed or even just mildly nauseous. However you feel is the right reaction for you. You’re just not allowed to kill yourself. You are too good, too valuable, too important for this to be the thing that takes you. Yes the world is a mess, but taking one good person out of it isn’t going to make it any better.

So take care of yourself. Wrap yourself in that blanket. Get that hug. Eat that mug cake. Find your life preserver whatever it may be and keep going. You are stronger than you realize.

Deciding to do something when you’re feeling defeated is hard. If all you can take care of is you today, focus on doing that. Tomorrow or a week from now you can look at what your community needs to do to weather the storm in the long term. Yes communities are hurting now, but having to grieve one more person isn’t going to make anyone’s life any better. Please keep going. Please don’t let this election take you too.

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themunflower

Project 2025 ain't gonna roll out all at once. So what we're gonna wanna do is make passing each individual part of it as difficult as possible, so there's less to undo once we finally get this country back on the rails.

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tobiasdrake

Resist every step and do not get distracted by stupid bullshit. Distracting people with stupid bullshit is one of Trump's favorite political techniques. We saw it all over the place in the first term.

Trump will say something like "You know the Hispanics actually punch kittens, it's what they do."

And the news will be like "TRUMP SAID HISPANIC PEOPLE PUNCH KITTENS" for three weeks.

And while they're doing that the Republicans in Congress have quietly deleted healthcare.

Do not get distracted by stupid bullshit. Trump is a dancing monkey whose greatest asset is the ability to yank the spotlight off of everyone else. Keep your eyes on Congress.

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suzypfonne

Before January 2025:

If you are a USAmerican in a relationship that might be affected by legislation that dissolves same-sex marriages, who may no longer be recognized as next-of-kin, especially if you have children, get your rights in writing!

Your marriage certificate may not be enough to prove you have rights to make medical decisions for non-biological children or for a same-sex spouse or partner.

Go to a lawyer, get it spelled out as clearly as possible that you have a voice in emergency medical and legal situations.

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irisbleufic

For those of us who aren’t lawyers or well-versed in law generally, can someone clarify what kind of document, by name, people should be drafting with their lawyers? Is it a type of letter, or is there a name for this classification of document? I’m aware that it probably varies by US state, but a lot of people are likely feeling extremely lost right now and don’t know where to start on this. I definitely don’t. I live in a state that isn’t likely to nullify existing marriages or prevent new ones from taking place, but who knows what they’re going to try at the national level and enforce from the top down.

Power of Attorney should cover most partners and spouses to ensure that they will be making each other's health care decisions in cases of serious illness. LGBTQ+ spouses and domestic partners must execute proper Health Care Power of Attorney documents listing each other as the highest priority agents for making each other's health care decisions in case of incapacity.

Here's a resource from GLAD.

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shubbabang

context (via @mellorocket)

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madmanswords

In all honesty, whoever planned this knew what was coming.

This was probably a person who genuinely wanted to prompt the idea of actually talking to friends they still care about but don't reach out to because reaching out to people really helps their mental health.

Instead, it's overshadowed by a "Elmo got bombarded" narrative that muddied the contextual message.

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