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How I join skeins
Cleeeeeveeer!
It's good to learn, remember, and share stuff like this.
When my mom or her sisters did crochet growing up, their dickhead older brothers thought it was hilarious to snip the yarn somewhere in the middle of the bundle. I suspect mom would've found a trick like this really handy.
I appreciate this video a lot--people don't realize how important it is to start slow if you're trying to come back from a completely sedentary lifestyle, and they get really hurt as a result. Straining your muscles too much, too suddenly can land you in the E.R. and the wrong joint injury can permanently affect your mobility, so please start with absolute basics and easy stretches!
So my problem with most ‘get to know your character’ questioneers is that they’re full of questions that just aren’t that important (what color eyes do they have) too hard to answer right away (what is their greatest fear) or are just impossible to answer (what is their favorite movie.) Like no one has one single favorite movie. And even if they do the answer changes.
If I’m doing this exercise, I want 7-10 questions to get the character feeling real in my head. So I thought I’d share the ones that get me (and my students) good results:
I love the lawyer metaphor, because whenever I see “John knew that...” in prose writing I immediately think “how? How does he know it?” Interrogate your witnesses. Cross-examine them. Make them explain their reasoning. It pays dividends.
All of this, but also feels/felt. My editor has forbidden me from using those and it’s forced me to stretch my skills.
This is your "show not tell" advice explained!
It's a lot healthier to go for a daily walk than to sign up for a gym membership you won't be using because you hate that kind of exercise. It's a lot healthier to eat a frozen meal than to skip a meal because you were too tired to cook something healthy. It's a lot healthier to take a quick shower than to procrastinate an elaborate routine for days. Don't aim so high that you won't be hitting anything!
this is actually really helpful and affirming thanks
*grabbing mlm shippers by the shoulders* guys nobody needs to be the twink. nobody needs to be the sub. nobody needs to be the femboy. they can both be big fat hairy men who bask in each others masculinity or they can both be unspeakable monstrous creatures with inhuman genitalia it’s okay I’m holding your hand. Let me show you the way
Took me until about halfway through college before I realized “study” means “play with the material in a variety of ways until you understand it” and not just “read the assigned chapters and do the homework” and I think that probably should have been discussed at some point prior to that.
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I think we should have a turn of phrase for "I'm not in the right, but I AM annoyed with this situation, so I just need to go bitch to a friend about this before I suck it up and go do the right thing" because more and more I'm finding this is a critical element of functional adulthood.
Various tags on this post like "isn't that venting?" "isn't that kvetching?" and sure it's a subcategory of that. But those are missing the key detail of this specific case which is the "I'm not in the right."
It's the "fuck I'm NOT in the right, I GET that, I WILL be mature about this, I WILL just suck it up, I WON'T take it out on the person who's annoying me because they haven't actually done anything wrong, but by satan's spicy asshole I AM annoyed. So I'm gonna spend 5 minutes in private being a dramatic bitch about it before I get over it and go be a perfectly civil reasonable adult about it."
This is important.
Acknowledge the fact it's okay to be wrong and annoyed about it. Vent the frustration.
Put your adult undies on and be responsible for resolving the issue.
“Unfortunately my circus, unfortunately my monkeys”
This is so wrong, though. Because “Don’t sit down, never sit down,” is absolutely what some of the most productive adhders I know are living by, and it’s killing them. They burn out, their health breaks down, they lose the capacity to sleep a full night because their nervous systems have forgotten how to relax, they live with chronic systemic pain that doctors can’t find a source for.
If you want to live a productive life with adhd, forget about your productivity looking like a neurotypical’s. What you need are the brain engine primers, a habit of trusting yourself, and a phone timer. What I mean is, believe that you are capable of finding a way to do what you need to do. Let go of what neurotypical people tell you about life goals and five year plans and figure out what is important to you.
And then figure out what starts your engine. Not just one thing, ten or twenty things. Does a cup of coffee in the morning help your brain get in gear? Do you process better if you go on a walk? Do you feel more present in your body with a regular yoga class? Is there music you can play that gets you hyped?
And then ride the waves of your brain. Take ten or twenty minutes to do whatever is the next thing you need — a phone call or the vacuuming or a report — and then stop. (Unless you’re on a roll you want to ride; keep going then while it still feels good, unless it’s been an hour or two and you need to eat and pee and take a breather.) Put the task down. Set the damn phone timer for ten minutes or twenty. Get one of the calm-down things that puts you back in your body — a cup of tea, or a moment standing outside breathing deep, or a look at tumblr, or a snack.
Then when the timer goes off, pick a brain starter. Put the playlist on or pull your hair back or start pacing, and start the next damn thing. Or the same damn thing. And be proud of yourself. You are gorgeous and you’ve got this.
You're so correct.
I've known so many people who assumed they were exceptions. They were for a while. Now one of them needs a new hip and another needs a knee replacement.
Thank god someone responded with this because I was about to be like "I am obligated to warn you, that you are going to be learning a very big lesson some time soon."
Your fancy human brain is very young. It thinks of ideas, yes! But you have in the very core of your being, a billions-of-years-old survival engine that ruthlessly keeps you alive.
You can be determined to live your life as though you are being hunted for sport, and you will either die, destroy your health, or this much more ancient part of you will save you, by making your body fall apart in very bizarre ways until you have no choice but to rest.
If you do not schedule maintenance, your device will schedule it for you.
something too many people seem to forget
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you know what trope pisses me off the most? when the protag is pointing a gun at somebody and they’re like “you won’t do it. you’re too good” and the person holding the gun is like oh shit i am and they slowly lower the gun while the other person laughs. WHAT THE FUCK. if i were there, and somebody told me “you won’t do it” i would immediately shoot them dead without hesitating. who are you to tell me what i wont do. musty bitch
Keep in mind that there is almost always a third option, most especially when the person talking is vague about what, precisely, it is that you “won’t do.”
If it’s noodles, pour them on your sister instead of on her computer, or if the noodles are quite hot, pour them on her pillow or in a great spattering arc around her room.
If you have a supervillain at gunpoint and *they* say you’re “too good” and “won’t do it,” shoot them in the leg/foot or the shoulder. The former allows them to think they’re right while you lower the gun only to be confronted with sudden understanding and regret when you blow their metatarsals to kingdom come, while the latter is instant and avoids giving them even a moment’s satisfaction or any time to charge you while you’re lowering the gun to shoot them in the leg.
Door Number Three usually exists and is often your friend. Endeavor to cultivate awareness thereof.
Ethical dillemas are rarely reducible down to a clear binary.
Door 3 sounds pretty good
SHOOT EM IN THE ASS
i think we should bring this back (with some amendments ofc) if we ever needed an "internet etiquette" for the younger generations, now is the moment to remind them. purity culture kills fandom
as well as the three laws of fandom:
Don't Like, Don't Read (DL;DR), Your Kink is not My Kink And That's OK (YKINMKATO) and Ship and Let Ship
gentle reminder that crying is actually one of the best things you can do to relieve all that tension and emotion in your brain, and not to resist the impulse because it's 'weak' or 'unnecessary' or 'a plea for attention.' if you need to cry, do it, even if you don't always know the reason. your body does.
Y’all, I just got an email alert about a new chapter on a story I follow. Here’s the author’s note for that chapter. 😂
This is the most validating post.
