officious seeing eye bitch

DNI lists on this website are fucking insane

can we explain to early-twenties autistic lgbt people that they . cant be saying these things. you cant be calling people 'degens' in your dni you cant do that. you cant do that man. can we do a history lesson. you cant do that

YOU CANT DO THAT MAN

"in defense of using the term degen, it's generally applied to pedophiles" - conservative man who might actually shoot a trans woman if he saw one within 50 meters of his child, and also LGBT tumblr users who do not know things they should know

i think we as a community need to be done using terms like “bottom” and “pillow princess” negatively, even as a joke, because it’s not a joke anymore in so many spaces. I saw a young lesbian earnestly ask what a pillow princess is in a queer forum and all of the answers were negative, every single one. i’m so tired of people calling real people and fictional characters bottoms as an insult—again, usually as a joke—and it’s so common in fandom. why are you labeling characters bottoms as a method of mocking them? genuinely ask yourself why a queer character or person receiving sex is so funny to you and why the punchline is that it’s somehow demeaning to receive acts of queer sex and consider the many layers of homophobia and even misogyny that have built the foundations of that seemingly harmless joke.

genuinely some of y’all make posts that read like hateful graffiti uncovered in Pompeii

wild thing about all those "why are people over 30 still in fandom" posts is that the idea of fandom (in the sense of writing fic etc) being a youth subculture or even a hobby that was particularly accepting of young people is insanely recent, like, last 20 years at most. prior to that not only was fandom overwhelmingly both driven and populated by people well into adulthood, but if you were a teen trying to write or discuss fic on livejournal or usenet you almost certainly avoided telling people your age, not only because that was general best practice for minors on the internet at the time but because you'd have felt very out of place if all those grownups had known you were a kid, and in fact there's a good chance they would have banned you from whatever community you were trying to participate in. the way that state of affairs managed to get memory-holed so completely we've transitioned to one where a lot of people think fanfiction is and has always been a hobby for teenagers that some unusually childish adults just never grow out of is genuinely bizarre

u know uve reached peak blorbo understanding when you sound like a hater to the stans and like a stan to the haters

“W pervert women” is legitimately the funniest shit i’ve ever read

there are no hard rules for human interaction but honestly i think everyone online would benefit hugely from operating under the assumption that, unless you have been given a specific reason to think otherwise in discrete instances, internet strangers do not want to be approached with:

if it is your first time speaking with someone i can not highly enough recommend that these do not be your opening topics

something that has happened enough that it’s officially a Pattern of internet behavior: i will make a tweet that’s like, a jokey headcanon about a piece of media, and then someone i’ve never spoken to before in my life will come into the replies to try and offer a directly contradictory and actively depressing take. and either within their initial reply, or once i’ve expressed polite disagreement, they’ll make sure i know that the reason they have this headcanon is because they’re projecting their own trauma or self worth issues onto a fictional character.

and the thing that really gets me about this is that i am like 90% sure these people don’t have any ill intentions or even think they’re particularly overstepping. but i just can not fathom what the intended response to these things. i have NO idea what sort of reaction they’re looking for. it’s such a weird and uncomfortable spot to be put in. it’s a great way to get instantly put on my mental list of people to never engage with in the future

We’ve all heard the “I like pancakes” / “Oh, so you hate waffles?” example of a social media exchange, but we don’t talk enough about how “I like pancakes” / “I can’t eat pancakes anymore since my brother choked to death on one before my eyes” is not a great approach either.

ok this dni has me sobbing

in my work of fanfiction i am going to hold the villain responsible for their actions by making them have sex with the person they tried to kill, which will effectively address all the relevant moral issues by being hot.

Harrowing: someone in your Fandom just made an innocuous and harmless post that nonetheless betrays a deep misunderstanding of the character and the character's narrative purpose and you just have to sit there and let them be wrong lest you be an asshole

ok question tho

ive actually fucking tried to google this but i cant find an answer, all i get are fics

where does the whole “five times _____ and one time ____” fic title thing come from??

is it a reference to something? or is it just a fanfiction thing?

It comes from Basingstoke, a writer from the Due South and Smallville fandoms. 

I know she’s on Dreamwidth. I don’t know if she has an AO3 or not. 

There might have been one or two REALLY early examples of that story form (like 1980s early), but she invented it as we know it. 

ETA: As a matter of fact, here’s the first Five Things story ever: http://archiveofourown.org/works/9519

I just found the Fanlore article, and it looks like while Basingstoke invented the format, Strangecreature, a Torchwood writer, might be one of the first to have used “five times and one time.” But the original prompt was Basingstoke’s. And it’s definitely fanfiction only in origin.

I love it when conversations about this come around again!  How cool is it that I know people in fannish history! (and how uncool is it that I never know it was Bas who invented this until recently – where was I, under a rock?)

tee hee. It wasn’t on purpose! I did the first Five Things and then people have been riffing on it for the past decade. It’s neat. 

It’s SUPER neat. I love fandom.

this is HELLA cool. Thank you for your service @basinke 🫡

it will never stop being fascinating to me the way the accepted topics for "normal users" to post about enthuastically has over the years shifted more and more to include abuse so long as it isnt related to incest or csa, which retains its "even objective acknowledgement of this existing as a theme in a work can sometimes earn you a whisper network about what a disgusting creep you must be" status.

like it is just hilarious to now be able to see people of a "block this freak they said ginger snaps is about incest" mindset also posting at the same time about how they love 'yuri' so toxic they kill each other.

via @ot3

People turning against Chappell Roan for not accepting harassment & stalking of her and her family, saying Hozier is acting embarrassing for defending his girlfriend THAT Y'ALL WEREN'T EVEN SUPPOSED TO KNOW ABOUT after she got harassed online, calling Pedro Pascal names for.. apparently not greeting fans loudly in his own private time?

Y'all have GOT to get a grip on real life if you think celebs establishing boundaries is working against you. You do not know these people, you will not sleep with these people and they do not owe you anything!!!!!!

People need to remember that Hozier and Chapell Roan's job is making music, and Pedro Pascal's job is acting. Those are their fucking jobs. When they're on stage, they are working, so let them do their fucking job and don't be a weirdo about it. When they are not on stage or making a deliberate public appearance, they are not at work, so leave them the fuck alone.

If you're not running up to your favorite barista to demand a selfie and a hug, but you are doing that to a musician or an actor: what makes that person different to you? What about their job makes you think they owe you fucking anything at all? You pay them to perform a little song. You don't pay them for 24/7/365 access to their lives.

(And if you do treat your favorite barista like that... what is wrong with you?)

Maybe it's just bc I'm from nerd culture, where I did 100% pay $108 for 5 minutes of talking to Katee Sackhoff & a signed picture, but like... that was a work transaction. I paid for her time. I paid for her to listen to 5 minutes of my nerd babble. (I honestly don't remember what I said - I pretty much black out in those situations.) If I wasn't paying her and she wasn't at her table, uh. Yeah. Then she isn't working and if I ran into her I might say, "Oh hi, I love your work," at most, and then leave her alone bc she's not at work, and like everybody else, she deserves to get to exist outside of work.

Rove McManus was out of the public eye for a while after his wife died. On the day or the weekend before his talk show came back on air, someone encountered him at a lake and had the following exchange:

Random person: are you Rove McManus?

Rove McManus: not today

And I just always think that celebrities are only their celebrity-self when they choose to be.

really fun duo you have there. mind if i add arbitrary roles to their relationship dynamic so i can write one of them as an overprotective caretaker and the other as a naive helpless baby?

if you appreciate male characters you like as whole, complex people with positive aspects as well as deep flaws but view all of your favorite female characters as perfect flawless badass snarky women who take no shit from the infinitely stupider and less competent male characters you’re not actually doing that because you just like women soooo much more than men hehe you’re doing it because you’re less interested in female characters and dont consider them to be three dimensional people in the way male characters are commonly viewed as

Adding some updates as of 7/12 at 7:35 PM EST:

And as a bonus: DashCon originally ran an IndieGoGo campaign last year to raise $5,000 to start their convention. They raised $4,000. The campaign ended in April 2013 and rewards have still not been sent out (which consisted of tea bags, a couple business cards with your Tumblr URL on them, and if you donated $500+, some knick-knacks from Etsy).

More updates, as of 7/13 at 3:59 AM:

As always, if you can confirm or deny anything in these masterposts with proper validation, it’s greatly appreciated! I originally did the first one just to answer an ask I got, but as it’s blown up I figured I’ll keep doing it, since I’m captivated by the whole mess anyways. :’D

I’m heading to sleep now but I’ll do another update tomorrow once I’ve caught up on anything else that happens tonight! Hopefully no one dies. I’m not sure how else this con could get any worse.

And one last thing, just to clarify: my heart goes out to all you guys who paid to attend what you thought would be a fun convention and instead got this trainwreck. Even if it turns out that the $17,000 fee wasn’t a scam, remember that it is absolutely unacceptable for a convention to operate this way. I’m so glad that many of you have been able to see the positive in a bad situation and still managed to make friends and have a good time - but don’t forget to stand up for yourselves, too. A convention should never extort money from its attendees for any reason. Again, it’s great that you still made some good memories, but good memories alone do not make a good convention. Make sure your feedback is heard, especially if you want to see this con (or any future Tumblr-oriented con) have any hope of success.

Good morning! Here we are, July 13th, the final day of DashCon. So far, this is what’s happened as of 11:46 AM:

Alright, guys. This is my last update to the masterpost. I’ll continue to post more coverage on my blog’s Dashcon tag as it happens, but this will be my last update for this compilation!

So, it’s Sunday evening, and DashCon has officially ended. Here’s how the kerfuffle concluded:

Again, if you have any corrections or other information you’d like to provide, please feel free to submit it. Thanks so much to everyone who’s contributed and offered support for this resource; glad to hear people have found it helpful!

The comprehensive masterlist put together during the event :)