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On Merrill's Rivalmance

I often hear people argue that rivalry is the sensible path to take with Merrill, that it’s irresponsible to blindly support her as she makes decisions she barely understands, that a Hawke who cares about Merrill would not stand idle and watch her bear the consequences she didn’t know were there.

But here’s the thing.

Pol didn’t die because of Merrill’s blood magic. Pol died because he was scared that Merrill carried the taint; a lie that was spread by keeper Marethari.

Keeper Marethari didn’t die because of Merrill’s blood magic. Keeper Marethari died because she refused to give Merrill a chance. A choice she alone made.

Merrill’s clan, if killed, didn’t die because of Merrill’s blood magic. They died because they refused to believe her, accused her for something Marethari alone did without informing anyone, and attacked her, forcing her to defend herself.

“Fear makes men more dangerous than magic ever could.” She said before the final battle, having experienced the truth of it firsthand.

Merrill’s blood magic never hurt nor threatened anyone, where prejudice killed an entire clan.

Merrill endured a lifetime of blame and hatred. Even the visions of her dead friends taunted and blamed her. Where she had hoped to make new friends, people called her a foolish child and repeatedly tried to dissuade her from her path that she had been forced to walk alone, a choice she made so as to never bring harm to anyone.

Her eagerness to act, the sacrifices she took for the mirror, her alacrity to do anything that was needed to fix the eluvian, was often mistaken for ignorance. For foolishness. People often told her she did not know what she was getting into, which was why she acted with no reservation. Except…

“If things go wrong, if (the demon) possesses me, I need you to strike me down.” She said, fully aware of the risk.

Merrill had always known the cost of the the burden she chose to carry for the sake of her people, who had done nothing but make her feel unloved.

Her eagerness to do the things she did, so selflessly like it was nothing, was not because she was ignorant to the consequences. It was because even if there was the slightest chance, she had to take it, for the people she valued above herself, even if it meant them hating her, even if it meant everyone she cared about renouncing her, because her eyes were fixed on something she believed was bigger than herself.

Merrill, after having lived an entire life with no human experience, was made to live among them, and they made no effort to accommodate her.

Merrill was called a monster and an idiot.

Merrill, who used to wander forests; trees and flowers of all kinds growing as far as her eyes could see, for her to enjoy as she pleased, was thrust into a world were gardens were a luxury restricted to the privileged, and they laughed at her naivety as they explained to her that she was not allowed to pick flowers in people’s private gardens.

Merrill, who lived an outcast among her people and an apostate among humans, was never made to feel at home.

What Merrill lived through, what she had been told, how she had been made to feel, was enough to make anyone lose heart, to doubt themselves and wonder if they were truly a monster who needed to be stopped, to be laden with enough regret to weigh them down and drag them to the bottom and into a dark place, but does she succumb to it? When the whole world blamed her, did she take it?

Let’s compare Merrill’s words after A New Path, presumably after her clan had been killed, in both the friendship and rivalry versions.

“Why didn’t any of them listen to me? All this time, I thought… I could help them. Save them. But they chose to destroy themselves in order to escape my help.”

The sight of her dead clan, along with whom she had once considered a mother figure, would be enough to bring down anyone, no matter how strong. Yet she stood by her cause, supported by Hawke who had been there with her through every step of this difficult path.

“There was nothing you could’ve done.”

“No, I know that. Maybe it’s time I stopped living for them.”

What I also love is that there is the dialogue option for Hawke to tell her “Fear did more damage to your clan than blood magic ever could.” and I like to think that when Merrill echoed those words before the final battle, she thought of Hawke as she tried to make people see who the true villain was, just as Hawke did to her at her most vulnerable moments.

Now let’s take a look at the rivalry version.

“Willfull, stubborn idiot. All of this is my fault. I’ve… I’ve done everything wrong.”

She takes the blame for a crime she didn’t commit. She hates herself for things that she isn’t. She punishes herself for only doing good. All the words, all the insults, that she once rightfully dismissed, are now sinking in deep.

They were right all along and she was oh, so very wrong, she now believes. She thinks she is a monster, an idiot.

This is abuse. I have no other word to describe what the rivalry path does to Merrill, romance or not.

To rivalmance Merrill is to overlook everything about her character, everything that makes her so wonderful.

Because Merrill, who never preyed on anyone’s emotions while they were hurting, as they always liked to do to her, is not immature.

Merrill, the only one who argued to spare Anders because she was willing to see reason where others could only listen to their rage, is not a child.

Merrill, who told a romanced Isabela she wasn’t surprised anyone would love her, where others said that sleeping with her was only ‘expected’, is not blind or ignorant.

Merrill is a strong, beautiful, and brave character, who deserves the world, but gets so little of it.

And romancing her on a friendship path is not unrealistic, complacent, or irreponsible. Hawke is not her parent. They are not there to scold her and decide what they think is right for her, not having lived her life or known what she had gone through and her reasons to do what she does.

But Hawke can be a hand that holds hers and a place to call home. They can be what reminds them that there is still good experiences in the world for her to be had, that there is love to be felt, that she did not have to give up all joy in favour of finishing her task, that she can have both, that she is worthy of being loved, and respected enough to be given the right to make her own decisions, where she had lived a life of others insisting they knew what was best for her.

And she deserves that much.

Hawke, of all people, would know what it feels like to be blamed for things that were out of their hands. They would know what it meant to carry regrets instilled in them by people whom they called family, but could never understand them.

Hawke and Merrill could heal together. They could recover and learn to be kinder to themselves.

Or they could carry their shame and their guilt and live a life of trying to make amends.

That anyone could prefer the latter is beyond me.

fantastic fucking post op

Sorry, I didn’t mean to stalk your tags but I’m always curious as to how people tag my posts and

“#merrill was abused by Marethari and rivalry contributes to that abuse”

Thank you!!

Marethari constantly putting Merrill down is always brushed off as her being a concerned mother figure, where it is OBVIOUS, from the very first quest where Merrill asks Hawke to be there with her when she speaks to Marethari, how much of a negative impact it has on Merrill and the way she thinks she deserves punishment.

There’s the fact that Merrill always says she “can’t face her” and begs Hawke to come with her when she speaks to Maretheri, for no reason than she’s terrified of her. Merrill usually has no trouble speaking her mind to figures of authority. Anyone who brings her along on quests knows. There’s more to it than that. The game very clearly draws attention to how Merrill glances at Hawke nervously and they have to reassure her by saying “Go on, I’m with you.” Doesn’t seem like Maretheri is a good mother figure, does it?

There’s the fact that Marethari spread false rumours about Merrill while she was away, demonising her and alienating her from her own people, making sure nobody would dare speak to her. I’d also like to point out how Merrill’s thoughts immediately jumped to Marethari when she wondered why Pol would be so afraid of her, which gives me the impression that such behaviour isn’t unusual from her. We know Merrill’s been lonely and isolated from her clan long before the Eluvian incident.

There’s the fact that she strikes a deal with her, to send her on a dangerous mission that has caused the death of several of the clan, in exchange for the arulin'holm and after Merrill is finished, Marethari does not honour her end of the bargain.

There’s the fact that Merrill had chosen exile and taken drastic measures to ensure nobody else would get hurt, and Marethari disregarded all that by letting the demon possess her. (and while Anders calls it a noble sacrifice, let’s not forget how this could lead to the entire clan getting killed.)

There’s this exchange. “I don’t think beating yourself up over what happened would bring Marethari back.” “No. But she’d want me to kick myself a few times, at least.”

And the worst of all, Marethari isn’t even honest in her abuse. She never gives Merrill the chance to hate her. She covers it up in “I want you to be safe"s and “I care about you"s while she drives the clan to hate her behind her back.

“You don’t have to live alone.” She tells her, as if she isn’t the one who made sure nobody would want to live with her.

Marethari is a terrible, abusive person.

And I hope people realise how much difficult it is for someone to be able to recognise that they are being abused, not ‘loved’, and to be able to shut down all attempts to make it look like they actually care for you, to be able to realise the manipulation and to not let it get to you.

When we first meet Merrill, it looks like she’s made it to this stage, and is steadily recovering to a good state of mental health. Marethari’s pleas don’t move her and she defends herself with certainty.

Despite having lived her entire life being made to believe her abusers are doing what’s best for her and being made to doubt herself.

“She loved you, Merrill. She wanted to protect you.” A rival Hawke tells her.

“That was the noblest thing I’ve seen anyone do.” Anders attests, if present. “The world is poorer for having you instead of her.”

And with those words, her doubts are confirmed. With those words, what must have been years of trying to get into a healthy mental state come undone, and she relapses into self hating.

Killing Merrill is almost kinder than rivalmancing her.

(tl;dr: if you rivalmanced Merrill block me right now)

All of this bless you OP.

Also, Marethari’s “sacrifice” was dumb as hell. She never explains how she came to know that Audacity would use the eluvian to get into the world. While it’s possible she found out from the demon itself, since she says this after taking it into her body… But yet again, some strange logic: She stops Merrill from freeing the demon… by freeing the demon herself? Which means if she did find out about Audacity’s plan from Audacity, it was only after she freed the demon. Meaning she freed Audacity without any sort of reasoning known to us. The whole thing could have been avoided. And the way she speaks to Merrill in this scene, saying she has “chosen to pay the price of Merrill’s blood magic for her,” honestly it feels more like the intent was to hurt Merrill by hurting herself.

Marethari is the type of abuser who hurts and then claims it’s for your own good. The last thing Merrill needs is Hawke playing that role, too.

I’m like

another little detail i like about DA2 is how ranged fighters have a melee mode for when enemies get too close

like mages? whack enemies with their sticks. Varric smacks them with Bianca. Sebastian has a knife that he uses

now if only the melee fighters had the same when enemies got too far away. pick up a rock, Fenris.

Ultimate Dragon Age Meme; ↳ 1/3 rogues: Isabela

“The past’s past. I learned that young. If it can’t bring you gold or giggles, what’s the point in dwelling on it? Our mistakes make us who we are.”

Ultimate Dragon Age Meme; ↳ 1/3 rogues: Isabela

“The past’s past. I learned that young. If it can’t bring you gold or giggles, what’s the point in dwelling on it? Our mistakes make us who we are.”

Been binge watching all seasons of Black Sails in like three days, so something like this had to happen c: one more redesign of lovely Isabela from Dragon Age 2 have a nice day y'all

#friendship

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yet another from the archives

So, I was playing Awakening for my official playthrough when we came across a statue within striking distance of a loaded ballista with a bunch of darkspawn beneath it. Yeah, you know where this is going -but then, this happened.

I didn’t recognise the word, so I made a quick trip to Google.

…

Would you willingly enter a place where they say your very existence is a sign of the Makers hatred?

For three years, I have lain awake every night, aching for you. I’m still terrified I’ll wake up.