I could write an entire novel but rather than bore you with that I’ll attempt to keep my answer concise while still being introspective and giving this question the time and thought it deserves. First of all, THANK YOU for this ask. It seems that over the years people sending asks has become few and far between and its something I always enjoyed and rarely received, even at my most active.
This is by far the best question I’ve ever been asked.
As far as what the show means to me... It honestly feels weird saying that it’s a show because it was, and still is, much more than that to me. I started watching it when the show was in its 6th season but I wasn’t very invested in it then. I could attribute that to the fact that I was young or that I had other things going on but mostly it was because I didn’t grow to appreciate television until around 2014... I had always been much more of a movie person but when I discovered a love for TV, I came back around and it was only then that I actually gave Sons of Anarchy a legitimate shot. I was looking for a show to watch with my boyfriend when we were together after we had watched what we could of Shameless, The Walking Dead and Game of Thrones - all still ongoing at the time. I realized pretty quickly that I was longing for a connection to my significant other through the quality time I was attempting to spend with him watching these shows. After the first season I was hooked, in love with Jax and Opie - their friendship. I never really had very many friends. I did all the right things, was involved in all the right activities: sports, music, after school clubs, volunteering, FFA.... I always found it hard to connect to people, but SAMCRO’s love for each other was so pure, so....effortless...
As the seasons progressed and the other characters began to get their own development I developed myself.... in the form of a soft spot for Tig and for Chibs in season 2, which only grew larger as I watched seasons 3, then 4, then 5, 6, and finally 7. Somewhere along the way, my significant other lost interest. We began watching separately rather than together, not even getting upset with one another when someone (almost always me) watched ahead (as has become the norm for lots of couples). I realized that the closeness I was seeking from my partner was being replaced by a type of pseudo-parasocial relationship with these characters I adored and most importantly wanted to protect. I was still mostly invested in Tig and Chibs at that point but also Clay, Bobby, Jax, Opie, Juice... even Gemma and Tara. These characters became my friends.... my FAMILY.... the Sons of Anarchy Motorcycle Club were the stand-ins when I didn’t have any friends to speak of or any family that was legitimately close to. Suddenly, when I had a bad day, needed to unwind, needed a good cry, needed a laugh, just needed something on in the background or even needed something to fall asleep to, I was turning to my friends, my family, SAMCRO.
During the course of all of this, I created a second blog on tumblr, one where I could reblog pictures and whatnot of the sons of anarchy. I discovered fan fiction which I had only had a vague and rather shallow introduction to in the past, and read stories about Tig, about Chibs, about Happy even, and was inspired to write my own long-format fan fiction story. Shortly thereafter I began writing one-shots and then other long-format stories which helped me make friends on this platform, all with one specific intersecting interest: The Sons of Anarchy Television Series. At one pivotal point, once fan-fiction and art and gif-making became a forerunner in mine and others’ interests, I, as well as my small group of like-minded friends, got called ‘a bunch of perverts’ for putting some innocent but still dirty things in the tags of posts we reblogged. We decided to wear it as a badge of honor rather than let an online bully dissuade us from a little harmless online thirst. We’d seen much worse from fans in other fandoms, of course.... It was at that point SAMPERV was born and coined. We created a blog for it, ran it like the MC was run on the show, with prospecting and votes and all the fun little offices and whatnot that you’d expect. It became a brotherhood of its own (or sisterhood, as it has always been mainly made up of girls). We moved to discord to make conversing easier and over the years people have moved on to other interests, but a good majority of that core, the original ‘bunch of perverts’ are still around, and I’m beyond proud to call them my friends. At the genesis of SAMPERV, the people that wanted to be my friends are still some of the best friends I ever had.
So yes, the Sons of Anarchy changed my life, it introduced me to people from other states, other countries, other continents, that I never would have met otherwise. And it doesn’t just mean a lot to me; Sons of Anarchy means the WORLD to me.
-CJTM