Click.

I HAVE WAITED MY WHOLE LIFE FOR THIS GIFSET

#that meat lady was the real national treasure

I’ve always loved this scene. 

I mean, on one level, it’s just funny. Steak Lady’s no nonsense attitude, the way she delivers the line.

But then there’s a second level, that’s even more awesome. Steak Lady is doing her thing, selling steak, and suddenly there is this woman behind her counter. And the woman tells her that she’s hiding from her ex husband. Women don’t hide from ex husbands behind steak counters unless they really need to. So Steak Lady looks at this woman who is running from her probably abusive ex, and offers her the support she needs to get through this extremely fraught situation. 

You go, Steak Lady. Keep on being awesome.

This is a crisis.

Finally.

… Is Harley even a villain anymore? Between this and the thing I saw a while back with her refusing to fight a superhero who was pregnant, it’s… I mean, she’s turning complicated.

Forty Percent of Police Families Experience Domestic Violence | Jezebel 

In fact, domestic violence is two-to-four times as prevalent in police officer families as it is in the general population. Yikes.

The National Center for Women & Policing report that two studies have found that at least forty percent of police officer families experience domestic violence, in contrast to ten percent of families in the general population.

This is scary for many reasons, but perhaps most especially because police officers have privileges and accessibility that the average citizen does not.

One of the most disturbing parts is that police departments often handle cases of police family violence informally; without an “official report, investigation, or even check of the victim’s safety.”

This seems almost impossibly shady, but who knows? On all the police procedurals I watch (and that would be MANY), the cops always want to process everything above the board. But maybe that’s because our protagonists are “good cops”? Perhaps the reality is that not every cop is Benson or Stabler — it could be that the reality is much more depressing — or, er, realistic. At least it very much looks that way.

Perhaps this has something to do with the fact that NYPD cops are now required to run criminal background checks on victims of domestic violence. Yes, the victims. Jesus.

(Photo Credit: Anton Prado PHOTO/Shutterstock)

I absolutely cannot stand Michael Fassbender and I’m so pissed off that he’s all over my dash. He is complete and utter trash. 

His ex filed a restraining order against him for breaking her nose. On another occasion – “Michael allegedly dragged her alongside their car one night after they had an argument about one of her ex-boyfriends … causing her to twist her left ankle, blow out her left knee cap and burst an ovarian cyst”. 

Kiera Knightly filmed a spanking scene with him and said “I’ve got a security guard outside. You touch me and he’s gonna break your legs!”,Michael’s reply to this? “Keira, you’re tied to a bed. You’re not really in a position to say that.”

For fucks sake are we just gonna pretend these things didn’t happen?

Violence & Silence: Jackson Katz, Ph.D at TEDxFiDiWomen …

Excellent.  Absolutely excellent, and the very best part, the part where he nailed it because I could never get past all the rest, is identifying that we need to ask questions about John, about what is going on with men.

I agree with the above statement, we need to start figuring out why men are hitting women, why are they raping women, and why a lot of them aren’t taking responsibility in it. You can have all of these women self defense classes and shit to get people to learn how to defend themselves from these acts but until you attack this at the root it’s just going to keep growing back.

I think the next time someone starts asking victim-blaming questions, my response is going to be rephrasing the question to “Why was she a victim?”

"What was she wearing?"  "What made her a victim?"

"Why was she drinking in a hotel room with men?" "Why was she a victim?"

"Why did she go home with him?" "Why was she a victim?"

Etc

We need to ask questions about the agressors (no matter their gender), not about the victims.