Ok but for real. One would think that the lgbtq community would largely be much more respectful and supportive of non-normative bodies and sex characteristics, but no.
I've literally seen perisex/dyadic lgbtq people say openly that they wish they were born intersex so they could be more androgynous (as if being born with an intersex variation automatically grants people idyllic androgyny). I've also seen these same people describe androgyny as "monstrous". People calling themselves monsterfuckers because they're attracted to androgyny. Calling themselves monsters because they're growing non-normative sex characteristics thanks to HRT, unsubtly implying that they view and have always viewed intersex bodies as monstrous.
Intersex women who don't shave their beards being called dwarves and gnomes despite repeatedly asking not to be called that. Intersex men with small penises or breasts being called slurs. People constantly defending the mocking of small penises or large clitorises, shaming intersex bodies. Supposed "allies" telling their intersex trans siblings that they "have it easy" for being born in a body that is highly stigmatized, scrutinized, and medicalized, just because they are jealous of certain attributes their intersex peers were born with. All while completely ignoring the fact that many intersex variations are also disabilities, and that intersex people are extremely likely to suffer from medical abuse from a young age. Dyadic trans people make post after post complaining about "cis kids getting HRT", when those "cis kids" are usually actually intersex children who are being forced to take hormones they might not even want by their parents and doctors for the sake of violent conformity.
The community by and large has a seeming inability to respect the actual lives, bodies, and humanity of intersex people as a whole. This is why it was an entire debate in the intersex community for a while whether or not dyadic people should really even call themselves androgynous at all, because the modern idea and definition of androgyny is based directly on the fetishized idea of the "perfect h*rm*phr*dite" - something that dyadic people are happy to ignore. Dyadic people calling themselves the sanitized version of a slur meant to demean, dehumanize, and mysticize intersex existence is understandably a sore spot for a lot of intersex people.
I do not think this is a trans/lgbtq vs intersex issue, especially since intersex people are also often lgbtq ourselves. But dyadic people in the lgbtq community have got to stop fetishizing and demonizing intersex bodies and features. They need to stop talking over us, shoving us out of these spaces. They need to stop acting like wanting our attributes gives them that right, or that androgyny and gender nonconformivity are something that they can exclude us from. You can not separate gender anarchy and trans liberation from intersex history or intersex people's lived experiences. And their insistence on doing so has caused such a rift in the community that many intersex people have no home here at all, or have had to leave said home for their own safety. And the complete lack of respect for intersex people who are not lgbtq is obscene. If they can't relate to an intersex person on that level, they simply do not care about them at all - All pretense of caring about intersex people or intersex issues goes out the window if that intersex person is not relatably gay, trans, etc enough for them - showing just how performative that care always was.