hey! I hope this is ok to ask.... i'm a nb transfem person and i'm wondering if medically transitioning is worth it,, I just wanted to hear your thoughts on it and how's it's been going for u?? 💘💘 ty 🥺

Yo thanks for reaching out!!!

Personally ID somewhere around NB/genderfluid transfem & I use she/her pronouns cause it’s what I like & it’s a lot easier for me to navigate talking to people about.

In terms of medical transition I HIGHLY recommend it. Having some space from the effects of testosterone has been really good for me, and has really helped me get in touch with my emotions, my body, and communicating with my loved ones. It’s been really nice to not be lowkey horny most of the time, and now I actually notice when I’m actually aroused.

In terms of estrogen I’m really happy with the effects I’ve seen so far in about a year and a half. My skin is softer. But the big ones? My body hair is less coarse and a lot less thick, and especially my facial hair is lighter and grows a lot more slowly. The fat redistribution is also reaaally nice. I love having titties!! They’re so soft and squishy and I can play w them all I want!!! Also on this subject? My orgasm is a lot different. It’s harder to get hard and it takes me longer to cum, and when I do there’s less cum and it’s clearer, but the physical experience? Can be a lot stronger and more pleasurable. Definitely worth the effort.

There are only three real potential downsides I see to medically transitioning. The biggest one is infertility, which isn’t an issue for me cause I never wana have bio kids (can you imagine the carbon footprint? Also? Expensive medical bills? 9 months of insanity? Not for me 😅) if this is something that really worries you spend banks can be a great option. The other physical consideration is that testosterone can give you more energy and muscle growth, but if you have any sort of work our routine you can maintain your muscle p well, and the slightly lower energy hasn’t bothered me, and has actually been really nice cause I’ve always had too much energy. The last one is the biggest one imo. Transitioning in the eyes of society is terrifying and dangerous. As someone who could previously pass as cis, I’m well aware of how cismen are treated and how easy that life is. Since transitioning I’ve been presenting fem most of the time and living in an incredibly progressive place (& being white) has made it generally p chill for me. I definitely notice that I’m treated differently. This isn’t exclusively a downside though. I’ve become a lot nicer and more compassionate, and it’s a lot easier for me to understand other queer peoples struggles having experienced some more of my own. It’s also helped me understand my afab friends and family on a deeper level. And the biggest thing for me? I feel a lot more comfortable in female and queer spaces. It’s also been really nice to connect with my local trans community.

I highly recommend medically transitioning and I’m really happy with the effects it’s had on my life. If you are nervous or concerned I hope I can assuage some of your fears. Most of the effects are very subtle, especially if you go on a lower dose. Even on a full dose if I wear a hat and a baggy shirt I’m confidant I could pass as a cis guy. And the biggest thing in my eyes? Most of the effects aren’t permanent. The fat redistribution will reverse itself if you go back on your natural T. If you’re on a full dose for years and decide you need to detransition there is a chance you’d need to get top surgery, but it’s not a sure thing even then. Medical technology is amazing and with a little patience and a little courage you can live the life you truly want to. And if it turns out it isn’t what you thought and it isn’t what you really want? You can change your mind!!