Hi. Things are bleak, I know that. I know that we paid for Trump's last term with blood and it is likely the price will be blood again.
But listen to me. LISTEN.
You do not have to force yourself to witness horrors as an act of activism. It is not a form of activism. You can put your phone down, you can block that horrific video. We cannot win if you cannot fight and you will not be able to fight if you are hopeless.
Do not let them guilt you into this. People who are exhausted are easier to walk over. Take care of yourself, find community where you find joy.
You do not have to force yourself to witness horrors as an act of activism. It is not a form of activism.
^^^ remember this. do not exhaust yourself into hopelessness. take care of yourself and stay strong.
I know I've recced it before, but if you want a place to monitor the news while avoiding getting caught in the horrors, What The Fuck Just Happened Today is a really useful resource. They summarize political (& adjacent) news so you can remain aware of what's going on while still minimizing the emotional energy you expend on any one issue. (And they provide links and sourcing if you need to know more.)
I'm sure I'll have to say this again but
You. Cannot. Pour. From. An. Empty. Cup.
Staring at your phone in horror helps no one but the people who are invested in your inaction. And history is littered with stories of activists and freedom fighters who actively caused more problems than they solved because they got burnt out and fuelled themselves with despair and hatred for the perpetrators rather than compassion for those they were nominally fighting for.
Fighting *against* something only goes so far. Fighting *for* something is much more sustainable. But the only way you can do that is to a) actually give yourself something to fight for that keeps you going and b) resting and finding joy when you need to. Running yourself into the ground helps no one. Taking care of yourself and healing is not selfish.
I was given a really helpful version of this (for me) recently: your client doesn't need your sympathy, they need your skill. If you bury yourself in handwringing and outrage, you'll be too overstimulated and emotional to effectively deploy your skills. At the end of the day, the emotions don't get shit done: the skills do.
So take time for yourself. Let yourself rest. Learn to manage your emotions and give yourself some healing. And then pick up your tools and start deploying your skills to deal with the problem again.
Also: if you want to be effective, you can't do *everything*. Pick one or two things, preferably ones where you can see a positive outcome to work towards, and let others handle the rest. Trying to do everything will only divide your attention and time and make you less effective. You can't fix systemic misogyny (for example) on your own, but you can push back against it in the spaces you occupy, and you can work towards your local political system putting in policies to reduce its impact. You can join local groups working on the problems. This is a group project: don't try to do everything on your own.
Also also: it is *very* tempting to be snippy and shame people in the spaces you're in for being imperfect activists or making mistakes etc. Do not give into that temptation. Call people in with compassion. Shame and shunning should be reserved for those actively trying to cause harm/refusing to change harmful behaviours: those things are for when trying to keep working with the person is no longer an option. Remember: shame and shunning don't prompt people to change their behaviours or beliefs, they encourage people to double down. Everyone is learning and no one is perfect: err on the side of building community rather than fracturing it (without rugsweeping). Don't misdirect your anger at the people still trying to work to fix it.
Building and holding together community can only be done through care and compassion: anger doesn't cut it.