Writer research question to people who has gone through therapy for ED/angst/panic attacks/self harm and or pts:
- How would the perfect recovery partner look in your eyes? What is the bedst they could do to support your recovery? What is the least helpful thing that they could do?
I have gone through intensive therapy in my teens but I’ve been recovering for 5 years, without relaps for 3, and I find myself blocking out what it was like to be helped into recovery?
I simply can’t remember. It’s kinda disturbing.
When I started writing my dark fantasy novel, The Serpent Kiss (about two years ago), it was really just smut, however it was always violent and Shiroin (my mc) was always battling anxiety and self-harm.
I think this novel has been my ‘new’ therapy. Trying to dive deep into some issues I find myself in from day to day, and analyzing some of my own coping mechanisms and patterns.
I wrote Kiel (her love interest and friend) to be entirely un-judgmental, and that was a big thing for me (still is) when people try to help me ‘reset’.
It never helped me when people tried to ‘protect me from myself’, and I despise reading romance novels (it especially occurres in a lot of paranormal relationships) with this dynamic, because to me it’s not romantic.
To me, it’s devaluating my authority as an adult and openly displays the distrust in my capability to make the right decision.
Usually, I just need a little shot of reality to realize that I’m knee deep in a negative spiral, before I can break it. Not that you start hiding the knives or monitoring my plate (but that’s just me).
So, yes.
I would like to hear your feelings and thoughts, and make sure that I am not accidentally forgetting some essential factor when it comes to writing a supportive partner.
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Ps. You can answer in the comments, send me a private chat/message or go in anonymous and send me an ‘ask’. I will not reply publically ♥️