Love this chart from Think Progress!
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“Whatever I can get away with” is an inherently antisocial standard of behaviour. It strips your partner of agency and precludes any possibility of genuine intimacy. Why would you want to have sex with someone who is just “letting you” instead of eagerly reciprocating? Why would you want to be tolerated when you could be desired? Who’s OK with having sex that’s only distinguishable from rape on a technicality? (Ooh, I know that one. It’s rapists.) That’s why California’s new “yes means yes” law is so exciting – not because of its legal ramifications so much as its ideological ones. Shifting the way we conceptualise our interactions from “I should fulfil as many of my own desires as I possibly can without getting in trouble” to “I should go out of my way to make sure the people around me feel comfortable and respected” has repercussions far beyond the romantic realm.
Source: theguardian.com
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Consent is simply having the permission for something to happen, or agreeing to do something.
This definition also applies when talking about sex… but it gets a little more complicated.
For consent to happen during sex everyone has to want it to happen and express that; there has to be an active “yes” expressed on the part of everyone involved.
Consent is not the absence of a “no,” but the presence of a “yes.”
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Silence is not consent.
California SB 967 requires students to seek "affirmative consent" from partners at each stage of sexual activity. How does "yes means yes" really work?