aesthetic attraction is wild bc it’s like “yes i’m asexual but i’m also very gay and women are extremely hot”

so basically to summarise

[ID: an edited version of the last two panels of the "No take, only throw" comic meme. In the first panel, a hand reaches for the ball in an angry/intense-looking dog's mouth as the dog says "No sex!!" The second panel is zoomed in on the dog's face to emphasize the dog saying, "Only sexy". End ID]

Wanted: other asexuals to join my new crime-fighting squad. Our slogan is “too bad I have an ace up my sleeve… or several,” and you all gotta emerge dramatically from the shadows every time I say it. Now accepting applications.

is it just me

The first in what I intend to be a series of Pride snails. As always, the fact of the matter is I have no idea when the rest will be done, especially now that my summer is coming to a close. I go back to college on monday. Anyways, I intend to do the following snails: lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, nonbinary, intersex, aromantic, and polysexual. After that list is done, I might take requests - I don’t want to leave anyone out, but at the same time, my time and spoons are limited. 

Also, if you like this little guy and would like to buy them on something, check out my redbubble here, where this piece is available on a number of products (including stickers!).

aesthetic attraction is wild bc it’s like “yes i’m asexual but i’m also very gay and women are extremely hot”

so basically to summarise

#I don’t want to DO anything but I Am Looking Respectfully

so none of yall know what a friend group is apparently

the notes on this are depressing as hell u got all these people saying that this isnt friendship because friends are just people u go out to drink with on weekends and living with people and planning ur life with them in it is more than friendship. damn im really sorry none of u have ever experienced friendship in ur lives and need to make up new terms to describe genuinely caring about people

All terms are made up, but that is beside the point. 

The terms “platonic” and “polyamorous” have been used to describe complex relationships between people before any of us were alive. They’re not new terms at all. The individual here is simply taking existing concepts to describe their ideal relationship. I don’t know why that’s so disturbing or depressing to you. 

For many people, friendship is defined as two individuals spending quality time with one another. That could involve going out for drinks on the weekend, but rarely involves a long term commitment as described above. Friendships often become secondary to romantic commitments and/or marriages. 

The majority of my friends are in committed romantic relationships and/or they are married. They feel obligated to their partners first and foremost, as is their right to be. In addition, our society puts an incredible value on heterosexual partnerships between two individuals above any kind of friendship. 

The individual above is describing a commitment between multiple individuals to a platonic relationship. By commitment, they are referring to taking on some of the same responsibilities as one would in a marriage or long term partnership. That is not the same thing as being in a “friend group.”

I continue to have “friend groups” in and outside of work and school. We may be there for each other when we need to be. We may have a lot of fun together. We care about each other. However, we don’t live our lives like a marriage. We are not always together, either – and that’s okay.   

That’s not what the individual above is describing, though. They are using existing terminology which encapsulate very specific experiences in order to express a desire for a specific type of relationship that cannot otherwise be explained using your preferred terminology… (i.e. “friend group”)

…because what you are describing has little to do with their conceptualization of a platonic polyamorous relationship. You are describing expectations you have in a friendship. They are describing a committed relationship wherein resources are shared between multiple individuals. 

You might own or rent housing with a friend, but you might not be committed to doing so forever. You might make decisions and share resources with a friend. You might be there for a friend in desperate times. That doesn’t mean you are committing to them as a partner. 

…and if it comes to a point where you and a friend or friends are involved long term in each other’s lives to the point where you desire to commit yourselves to one another, then that’s perfectly fine – you may choose to still call it a friendship, but you may also want to call it something more fitting. 

Given the societal perception on what a friendship should entail, people might need a term that goes beyond “friendship” to describe their relationship(s) but that does not fall under sexual or romantic labels. Otherwise, “friendship” can be interpreted as “a person I go out and get drinks with on the weekend”

And that’s it. 

For those in committed platonic relationships, polyamorous or not, they might not be content with people thinking that about them. They may also want to differentiate between friendships and committed relationships. It’s their personal business, and it’s not sad that they’d want to do this.

I care about my friends, but I do not have a platonic polyamorous relationship with any of my friend groups. That’s not what we have and it’s not sad that our friendship doesn’t look like that, because a platonic polyamorous relationship doesn’t hold the same exact meaning as “friendship.”

Stop freaking out over it and let people live.

tl;dr – words are meaningful; you can cry about it without making judgments about other people’s desires and life choices 

reblog for the comment directly above because its a great breakdown

THANK YOU. 

I have friends. And I am in a committed platonic relationship. 

They are not the same thing. 

My friends and I see each other when we can. Sometimes it’s virtual. Sometimes it’s in person (more so before this whole quarantine thing but even then it wasn’t always frequent–sometimes we’d go weeks or even months between visits because that’s how adult life works). 

On the other hand, my partner and I own a house, a car, and six cats together. We’ve lived together for over 11 years. At one point we were engaged, more because it felt expected of us than because it felt right (largely because of pedantic people like the ones in this thread who insist that you’re either romantically involved or you’re “just friends” but that there’s no in-between). 

But there is an in between. We live there. We exist in a perfectly lovely, perfectly valid in-between that is no more or less than friendship or romance, but that does not fit neatly into either one, and you know what? I’m tired of people deciding that just because it doesn’t make sense to them that it must not be “real” or we must be just “special snowflakes” because we can’t just call what we have “just friendship.”

We don’t call it that because that’s not what it is, at least not the way you want it to be. It’s not romantic either, though, and that’s also fine. 

But it exists, and I’m tired of people saying it doesn’t just because they don’t understand it. 

Qpr rights

QPR RIGHTS

QPR RIGHTS

This is all that loaded for me and it still fits as an answer lol

@sheilkuroi challenged us to draw a piece using the colors from the flag we identify with! :D

So here is a powerful ace dragon! >w<

Just something I drew a little while ago :)

submitted by @geneveandersson

Shoutout to, like, 14 year old me who thought he was bi cause he felt 0 attraction to men and 0 attraction to women and 0=0 which is equal attraction THEREFORE I was surely equally attracted to both men and women and, thus, bisexual, thank you for coming to my tedtalk

Fun Fact! Back in the Olden Days, the bisexual community welcomed asexuals for this exact reason!

Hoi, just sharing these here 😊

Made all of them some weeks ago

Asexual logo/pfp

Aromantic logo/pfp

And oriented aroace logo/pfp✨

Primarily did them cause I plan on getting them as buttons, noticed it would work well as a pfp too

Feel free to use them as long as I’m being credited 🤗

I can’t be the only aro out here that’s real uncomfortable with using hearts to convey platonic or queerplatonic affection, so how about as a community we start using the fleur-de-lis ⚜️ instead? I’ve been using it for this for about half a year now, and I’ve gotten it to catch on amongst friends, but it’d be great to have it become something widespread and common.

I chose it for aesthetic and accessibility; you can get practically anything with one, type it with any emoji set, view it on desktop; it’s recognisable and distinct, and it’s simple enough to draw. I know I’ll use it regardless, but it’d be nice to see others using it, so that it’s easier to communicate with it.

(alloromantics can and are encouraged to reblog this)

Another option that I've been using for a while (since I got out of a unhealthy qpp, actually, where I had that same feeling of "I don't want to use hearts") is the yellow heart (💛) since yellow symbolizes friendship in many otherwise romantic contexts, such as yellow roses vs red roses.

When it comes to completely separating from the heart, though, the fleur-de-lis (⚜️) is an awesome option that I never would have thought of!

You could also use one of the playing card suites (♦️♠️♣️) (I know there is some controversy surrounding those, so obviously you would only use them if you are comfortable with them)

Shout out to my flatmate who came up with the absolutely incredible galaxy brain take of “Isn’t ‘I’m literally just vibing’ basically the asexual motto?”

I also made an aro version seeing as how it’s basically the aro motto as well.

Aromantic science fiction and fantasy! I’ve been working on this one on-and-off for over a month, so I’m glad I can finally share it with all of you.

If you’re looking for more aromantic fiction, I suggest checking out Claudie Arseneault’s database for aro and ace fiction. 

The book length works are all either in the Queer SFF Database or due to be added over the next few months. Note, the results page only shows ten at a time, so you need to scroll to the bottom and click “previous” to see more.

My other queer SFF book posts can be found through my master list. 

I also previously wrote this post on aromantic fantasy stories. 

Below the cut you can find the titles and authors from the slides above. Links go either to the database, Goodreads, or the story itself (for the free short stories). Enjoy!

Keep reading

Me: oh hey a list of aro-inclusive books, cool! Me: *blithely scrolling down* Me: *FREEZES* *DOUBLE TAKE* OH MY GOD THAT IS MY BOOK. SOMEONE REMEMBERED MY BOOK. WOW. OMG. *heart eyes for days*