Hi, everyone -- I've never done a shameless personal plug before, but a couple of friends and I built a bathroom searching website. You can search for nearby bathrooms (in the Boston area) filtering for things like gender neutral bathrooms, wheelchair accessibility, and baby changing.

It's the first website any of us has built, and despite the fact that we didn't get to implement all of the features that we wanted/there are a few minor bugs, we're really proud of it. If you vote for us with the link above, we'll be very grateful, and you might just help us win the online "audience choice" award.

Also, we just got an email that we made it to the semifinals, which really surprised us. And FYI, if a lot of you support us we'll actually try to make this a super-legit website (with more cities besides Boston!) Thank you!

#asexuality #lgbt #transgender

cakewithcaroline

From an asexual perspective, Lorde's album is so refreshing. Yay for not having to constantly reinterpret implicitly or explicitly sexual lyrics in order to enjoy music.

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cakewithcaroline

Studying for a test in my artificial intelligence class. Found this problem on one of the previous year's tests!

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Critics of asexuality warn self-identified asexuals not to pigeonhole themselves as asexual too soon because that might prevent them from experiencing the fulfilling aspects of sexuality later in life. However, nobody seems concerned if non-asexual people pigeonhole themselves as sexual or non-asexual too soon, potentially preventing them from experiencing fulfilling aspects of asexuality and nonsexual intimacy. I can only conclude that this is because, despite claims of accepting asexuality, these people value sexuality and sexual intimacy more highly than asexuality and asexual intimacy.

CJ Chasin, Reconsidering Asexuality and its Radical Potential (via ace-muslim)

Source: cj.chasin.ca

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redbeardace

//TODO: Provide Title.: The Future of "An Asexual's Guide To ..."

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During Asexual Awareness Week, I released the first round of the “An Asexual’s Guide To …” series of posts. Now I’m wondering where that series should go in the future.

First off, were those posts valuable at all? Useful? Helpful? Or were they a misleading, inaccurate waste of time? Is there...

cakewithcaroline

Relationships would be a great one to tackle, and it would be awesome if it were released along with "Living Single."

Also, coming out is a good topic that's relevant to a lot of people.

I think Awareness Activism would also be great to have for those of us who are interested in the topic, but seeing as not everyone wants to be an activist, maybe the other topics should get priority?

#asexual #asexuality #actuallyasexual

cakewithcaroline

It would be fascinating if someone combed through the comments on several of the asexuality articles on high-traffic websites (e.g. Huffington Post) and created a breakdown of the attitudes expressed within those comments (e.g. acceptance, surprise, dismissal, pity). And maybe even look at articles published over several years and see if more recent articles have more positive comments.

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cakewithcaroline

[W]e live in a sexually liberal society, not a liberated one. A truly liberated society is one where sex is value-neutral and not having sex is just as acceptable as having a lot of it. The fact that asexuals are considered weird, sick, abnormal, mentally ill, repressed, etc is a bold indicator that we are not living in a sexually liberated society but in a liberalized one.

The Thinking Asexual, "Women, Passion, and Celibacy | Introduction: Celibacy is Not Hereditary"

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cakewithcaroline

I had a conversation with one of my friends today. By some freak coincidence, he happens to know three asexual people (including me) that he's randomly met. We were talking about asexual awareness (as well as this blog -- which he came up with the title for), and he says that now that he's met three asexual people, he can definitely see the need for there to be more awareness so people know that asexuality is a sexual orientation with which they can identify. Also, he says that in ten years, he thinks that asexuality will be a well-known thing, just like being gay.

Anyway, I just had a nice experience today and thought I'd share.

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Taking asexuality seriously is a very big deal. To document a sizable number of people who do not experience sexual attraction is to challenge one of the most fundamental assumptions of contemporary society - that sexuality is pervasive, a given, an essential part of what it is to be human.

Bella DePaulo, Psychology Today | ASEXUALS: Who Are They and Why Are They Important? (via asexualquotes)

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cakewithcaroline

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Hi Caroline! I was at the MIT panel with my other Western Mass friends and it was great! You did an awesome job! Just wanted to say hi :)

Thank you!!! I was so impressed with the turnout — thanks for bringing in more people! And everyone had awesome questions. Also, people loved my cupcakes (uploading a photo of the ones I had time to decorate -- unfortunately not all of them had ace symbols)

#asexuality #asexual awareness week

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No Homo?: Asexuality as told by Lauren

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"The Asexuality Spectrum: Like any other sexuality, asexuality consists of a spectrum of attraction and preferences as well. This is my personal take on it, others may have slightly different interpretations, but this is the gist of it. At the farthest, most “asexual” part of the spectrum, we...

cakewithcaroline

I definitely applaud your efforts to learn about asexuality. However, I have a few problems with this explanation.

First, it's a mistake to classify asexuals who dislike physical touch as "more asexual" than other asexuals. I'm an asexual who enjoys physical affection with friends/family, and this has nothing to do with my sexual orientation. (I actually wish it were more socially acceptable to show more forms physical affection besides hugs to platonic friends, but that's another topic.) Moreover, such an explanation doesn't take into account the fact that many asexuals do experience physical (but not sexual) attraction. The common term in our community is "sensual attraction." Recently I heard someone describe this as the feeling you get when you see a cute, fluffy kitten. As another example, it also describes the desire that an asexual may have to cuddle/kiss a romantic partner (or friend).

It's also worth noting that demisexuality is sometimes classified as a specific type of gray-asexuality, and isn't necessarily closer to the sexual end of the spectrum than gray-asexuality.

I know that learning about asexuality can be challenging, mainly because of the large lexicon of terms (each carrying their own nuances) that asexuals have invented in order to describe their experiences. But I hope I helped shed some light on these issues. Thanks again for your willingness to learn about us and educate others!

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The New England Aces to kick off Boston's first Asexual Awareness Week

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To help the libido-fueled public understand a seldom discussed and often misunderstood sexual orientation, a group of locals who do not experience sexual attraction on any level will kick off the Boston-area’s first Asexual Awareness Week.

Congrats to Asexual Awareness Week, M, Julie, and the New England Aces crew!

cakewithcaroline

So proud of to be a part of New England Aces! This week was awesome!

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Recap: Harvard screening and Q&A

So, the Harvard event on Sunday! I’m going to talk about it! Wild textual gesticulating below the cut!

cakewithcaroline

I'm taking credit as the one who gave the waiter the pamphlet!

cakewithcaroline

Intro

Hi, everyone. Basic info about me before I dive in and start blogging:

I'm 19, a biromantic asexual, and a computer science student. I've identified as asexual since the summer of 2010.

I'm a proud member of the Boston asexual community (if you're around Boston, check out our meetup group), and I was on the MIT Asexuality 101 Panel last Thursday for Boston's Asexual Awareness Week.

I finally started this blog after I was talking to a friend about how I've been wanting to start a blog, but I had no idea what I would call it. "Cake with Caroline?" he said jokingly. I decided it was silly enough to work.

My avatar is a picture of some delicious cake I got after attending the Harvard screening of (A)sexual on Sunday (also an Asexual Awareness Week: Boston event.)

#asexuality #asexual #Asexual Awareness Week