“men’s bodies aren’t policed to the extent women’s bodies are” i hate to tell u this bestie but there are some men whose bodies are policed even more than some women’s. and i’m actually not just talking abt trans men, bc may i remind u that black men’s bodies are quite literally policed by actual police from an extremely young age, and too often that policing lands them in prison just for existing or just straight up kills them.

Why not say black people? Why are black women completely absent from this narrative?

…………because this post is about men.

like this seriously speaks volumes about how profoundly uncomfortable y’all are with talking about men’s experiences outside of just Privileged Cishet White Dude Tech Bro Gets Owned By Girlboss In Viral Video. y’all cannot comprehend men having complex experiences with oppression bc your entire worldview is built around the idea of men as aggressors and women as victims, so it breaks your brain to think of a group of men being put in that victim role. y’all do the same shit with queer and trans men, with disabled men, with jewish men, etc. and i’m tired of it.

The GOP right now: “If we can force poor women to give birth and then guilt them into keeping the kid, and make it easy for those women to get court-ordered child support from the fathers, we can trap a lot of women and men in poverty – and their kids will be raised in poverty, too! And the women, men, and their kids will have piss-poor educations so we’ll have a lot of cheap, disposable labor to drive labor prices down – and more cannon fodder for wars. With a large enough population of poors we won’t even have to raise taxes on the rich. All we have to do is ban abortion! The plan is foolproof – wait, men are doing what now?”

A terrible situation to start with, but, kings.

Hi! I hope you don’t mind me adding onto this (I can delete this reblog if you want me to) but as someone who is transmasc I just want to say that the Men Are Trash thing does not apply to you anon or me.

With the whole Men Are Trash thing there’s always a list of qualities and such that go along with it and if you don’t identify with any of those qualities then it doesn’t apply to you. End of story.

Not to mention there is a huge difference between how cis men and trans men were raised. Being afab, as much as it sucks sometimes we are brought up differently. I’m of the mindset that all children should be raised and treated the same, taught the same values and the like, but unfortunately that is not the case. That being the case as a trans man our upbringing is what sets us apart from cis men and the qualities that they tend to have that feed into the Men Are Trash mindset.

So just, keep that in mind. If you don’t identify with it then it’s not about you. And if you do identify with it, well, then at least you know and can work on being better about it. (This goes for cis men as well, please don’t get up in arms about this debate if you don’t identify with any of the qualities associated with Men being Trash, because really, it’s not about you. But if you do? Then don’t get mad, instead work on being better.)

Also, at the end of the day, there are always going to be people who generalize and group all people together, and yes it can hurt at times, but you know what? You don’t have to subject yourself to that. Really you don’t, unfollow people. Block them. Don’t interact with them. (Personally I use both the tumblr blocking and blacklisting tool as well as xkits blacklisting tool and I unfollow people who don’t tag negative posts in order to keep things I don’t want to see off my dash)

Focus on you and on things you enjoy. If something is hurting you then there’s no reason to keep it in your life. Take care of yourself and your mental and emotional well being first. 

This!!!

I need feminism because-

A man in a room full of women is ecstatic. A woman in a room full of men is terrified.

this blew my mind

Damn

Let’s play another round of Who Has the Biggest Victim Complex?:

but what about men?

for once “but what about men” was a phenomenal addition to one of my posts and I applaud you

Dear Men Writers

Lesser known facts when writing women:

Feel free to add your own.

- Bras leave red marks on the skin under and around boobs and it is a magical experience when taken off.

- Make up can take anywhere from 5 to 25 minutes depending on how skilled you are.

- Taking hair out of a ponytail after wearing it for hours does not make it perfectly straight when it comes down.

- Hair when wet sticks to the skin it no longer flows, idiot.

-When women with long hair kiss, turn around, do anything, their hair falls in the way.

- Stockings are itchy and tear like wet paper bags.

- Pantyhose, tights, leggings, and stockings are each different. - Waxing hurts and leaves red skin for a while afterwards while shaving leaves stubble - Most can’t run in heels unless they have been VERY worn - Insecurity in appearance doesn’t mean “buy me a drink” - EVERYONE HAS DIFFERENT TASTES IN EVERYTHING

-Having large breasts sucks. It sucks beyond belief.  If a garment happens to fit your large chest, odds are it won’t fit the rest of you. Underboob sweat is real and terrible. Bending over for extended periods of time will tweak your back out. Running can be painful due to boob turbulence. Bras are hella expensive. Big breasts are not fun.

Putting a tampon in isnt a quick bend-poke-done kinda deal. It involves cubicle yoga, messy hands, numerous curse words as you realise it isnt in correctly and have to take it out and start again with a new one.

Yes to all of this.  But also:

If her hair is in an updo, one does not simply remove a hairpin to send her hair cascading down her back.  No.  If her hair is an updo, it will take at least an hour and an extra set of hands to remove the 137 bobby pins that are holding her hair in place.  Furthermore, there’s probably a can’s worth of hairspray in there, intended to withstand category 2 hurricane winds.  There’s no cascading happening here - the best you can hope for is a misshapen nest of hair to clump and poof unattractively in the back while it still remains flat against her scalp.

This is one of the funniest posts I’ve seen in a while (especially if you read all the comments), but also really depressing because at 42 I still judge myself as having failed for not matching up to all these mythical stereotypes despite knowing they’re impossible

^^^This though

The odds of a woman having smoothly shaved legs and armpits are directly proportional to the amount of skin her clothing bares and/or the amount of fucks she gives at that particular moment.

GLASSES ARE NOT COSMETIC.  If we whip them off, we do not become gorgeous fashion models.  We become squinty.

-most women wear bras. Yes, even when they are trying to dress sexy. Because bras make boobs look perkier and rounder, which is something men apparently find sexy, so being a seductress or femme fatale is not an automatic reason for a female character to not be wearing a bra.

-a good bra will hide headlights, or at the very least drastically reduce their noticeability. A women with enough pointy nipple issues will opt for a padded or molded bra to hide them.

-women’s nipples do not automatically become hard pyramids visible through any and all layers of clothing the second they become even slightly aroused. They are not the female equivalent of boners. And even if their nipples do get hard, the bras they are almost certainly wearing (because even a goddamn succubus with big, honkin’ knockers for seducing men is gonna have those painful puppies in some kind of boob sling) should keep those pointy nipples from being visible to every other character in the scene, JIM BUTCHER. YES, EVEN LARA RAITH WOULD WEAR A BRA ONCE IN A GODDAMN WHILE.

- Wearing a bra that doesn’t fit HURTS.  It’s not sexy to wear a bra that’s “two sizes too small”, it’d make your clothes hang oddly and you’d have a weird, uncomfortable “quad-boob” effect and your back would hurt, BEN AARONOVITCH.

Also, after removing a too small bra, there’s gonne be angry red lines on the boobs and ribs and the lady is not going to want them to be touched by anyone for a good long while

-Not all women wear heels. Those things hurt and are hard to balance in. They can also mess up your feet and back pretty bad.

-Lips aren’t just naturally red “as if she’d been drinking wine but they were just like that without makeup cause she’s so perfect,” my dear little Kvothe from ‘Name of the Wind’. Also, girls do not naturally smell like fruit or flowers, it’s either perfume or something she’d been eating recently.

I’ve been appreciating this post but now it’s back very specifically calling out my problematic faves and I don’t think those male authors realize how much it totally takes me out of the story for a moment when they commit these errors. It does nothing useful for the plot and is annoying for half of the audience

Is it weird that I’m female and wasn’t aware of a solid third of these?

I mean, all writes take note. I basically live in man land when it comes to protagonists so I don’t know half these things despite being a woman

(Most) Women do not look at themselves in the mirror and compare their breasts to fruit. Any sort of fruit. Especially melons. Please save us from the melons.

Also we are not aware of our breasts at all times. I do not walk down a flight of stairs and think “oh golly my breasts are bouncing so much right now”. They are as much as natural part of our bodies as arms. Do you constantly think about how your arms are moving? Sure you may be aware of them, but paying full attention? Doubtful.

Also: women working out are almost never sexy. They’re not glowing or glistening or (kill me) *sparkling*. They are red and sweaty and gross just like all the dudebros doing their time with the dumbbells. Stop ogling fictional women at the gym, TOM WOLFE.

I love this post.

I never understood why men feel the need to address all this telltale “feminine” awareness when writing women. Like once in grad school one of my male colleagues wrote from a female character’s POV and was like sure to notice how her feet felt in high heels and all the women’s lifestyle magazines on the coffee table and also that like, her breasts were “heavy” or some shit. I write male characters all the time. Not once have I ever stopped to make sure they notice the weight of their own balls or been hyper aware of their chest hair or some bullshit like that. ????? why????????

Love this. I’ve been cackling to myself for good 20 mins reading all the comments as well but the last reblog had me dying like can you imagine!!

“Chad was late. He had an important meeting to get to and was mad at himself for oversleeping.

He quickly washed and brushed his teeth and then ran downstairs, his balls bouncing playfully in his pants.

Do I have time to make a coffee? he thought. He decided he did so went into the kitchen and switched the kettle on. As he was waiting, he noticed his thick, curly chest hair was poking through the button gaps of his shirt. He giggled to himself and tucked his manly fuzz back in, hoping it wouldn’t happen during the meeting.”

Men, do you see how jarring and stupid this is!?

Boost!

every single negative stereotype about women was dreamt up by men who were projecting. fight me about it.

“women can’t drive”

It is so well known that women are better and safer drivers than men that OUR CAR INSURANCE RATES ARE LOWER. Women get into fewer accidents, get fewer DUIs, and receive fewer speeding tickets than men.

“women never shut up”

Several scientific studies have shown that not only do men talk more than women, they also think that women have been talking for much longer than they actually have. Men interrupt and talk over women, dominate conversations, and still think women talk too much.

“women are shallow”

Lol next

“my wife is my ball and chain lmao”

Multiple studies have shown that marriage between men and women: Increases male lifespan, decreases female lifespan Decreases male depression rates, increases female depression rates Decreases male stress levels, increases female stress levels Increases male health and happiness, decreases female health and happiness Increases a man’s chance of getting a raise or promotion, decreases a woman’s chances of getting a raise or promotion

“women are too emotional”

Men love to say this about women after hurting them, in order to shift the blame and dismiss their feelings in one go. In reality, women are taught to hold our tongues and control ourselves quite literally from birth. We’re taught to put men’s needs and wants ahead of our own emotions regardless of the personal cost. Men are taught to do more or less whatever the fuck they want to women. Men take their emotions out on women while women are expected to shove theirs down.

I could go on and on but I don’t really think I need to.

Don’t know if I agree or not, but it’s definitely an interesting point.

the nice thing about statistics is that you don’t actually have to agree with them in order for them to be true

Preach

i love when dudes are like “of course i respect women, i have a sister and a niece” like what does that even mean. there isn’t a person on this planet who isn’t related to a woman like what is Your Point

A man who says this correlates a woman’s value to his ownership of her. If she is not somehow “His” the she is not valuable. Not his mother, sister, wife, daughter then she is not his concern. A woman’s value is linked to the value of himself.

i remember being like 11 and asking my dad why he hunts and kills deer and he said “because i think theyre beautiful” and that’s just. that’s just what men are like

Yeah… &?

Is it any different that women seeing cute things & wanting to squish their face?

Is killing different than endearing physical contact? Local man unsure

What kind of sick fuck kills something because it's beautiful?

The main thing that I think drives some men to call Captain Marvel a villain because of that scene where she twisted a creepy guys hand and took his bike - is that they don’t identify creepy, sexually intimidating behavior as villainous.

It’s pretty telling, actually. 

I immediately see a woman standing up to a man that uses what he thinks is his superior size and strength being intimidating and rude. She then reacts to that.

While some men watching just see a guy being a guy and a woman being aggressive. Because they just don’t get how his behavior is already aggressive.

Holy shit this

:|

Jesus christ

men who can’t maintain platonic friendships w women can’t be trusted lol

Real gender equality

What’s it’s really like being a bisexual in 2018

What it's really like being nonbinary in 2019

which fucking fedora wearing friendzoned nerd made this thing

yeah but notice that the seal’s intent is to eat those fish and the shark offers a mutually beneficial relationship for them

in which a dudebro unintentionally makes a really accurate analogy for the reason that they’re single forever

That’s a whale shark. They’re docile and in no way threatening to people or those fish depicted. Seals, by contrast, will attack people, possibly out of a frustrated sense of entitlement combined with poor socialization skills.

Well that backfired spectacularly.

This is in every way perfect irony. It’s beautiful.

This XD

spilling ALL the tea☕️👏🏾

The tea is on fire

oh poor men ): it must be so exhausting trying to include yourselves in every post that mentions women’s rights ))): it must be so hard feeling excluded for the first time ))))):

The tea is scalding today