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if you are my online friend or mutual then i automatically assume you are transgender. if you aren't you have to come out to me as cis

NARUTO and HINATA from NARUTO are a canonically trans (yes it was confirmed by the creator on accident) couple that hate TERFs!

i call no takebacks, you said what you said kishimoto

My tattoo artist told me his teenage son came out to him as trans by giving him a bunch of blue cupcakes and a greeting card that said "it's a boy!"

"That's cute," I said.

"It was NOT cute!" he snapped. "I thought he was pregnant."

This meme is inescapable on French insta so I'm posting it here for all to enjoy

Always reblog flash debate

on it boss

reminder that the presenter says "oh, shut up" not "can it"

Native French speaker here. "Ta gueule" is actually more like "shut the fuck up" in terms of level of disrespect

also worth noting is that the "are you happy" is the correct gender

official linguistics post

Funniest (fantasy) way to find out you're trans I think. Assigned male by ancient prophecy

You cant be in the closet theres a fucking prophecy. You have to kill the dragon.

@theshitpostcalligrapher

lol

"Arizona’s ban on transgender athletes has been blocked by the 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals, which called the 2022 law “the essence of discrimination.”

Supporters of the so-called Save Women’s Sports Act claimed that the law protected girls and women in schools and colleges from “unfair competition.” However, the federal court found that pre-pubescent trans girls and trans girls on puberty blockers have no significant physical advantages over cis girls their own age, The San Francisco Chronicle reported.

“[The law] to ensure competitive fairness and equal athletic opportunities for cisgender female athletes cannot be squared with the fact that the Act bars students from female athletics based entirely on transgender status,” Judge Morgan Christen wrote in the court’s 3-0 decision.

“[The law] permits all students other than transgender women and girls to play on teams consistent with their gender identities,” Christen continued, “transgender women and girls alone are barred from doing so. This is the essence of discrimination.”

Two trans girls, an 11-year-old soccer player and a 15-year-old swimmer and volleyball player on puberty blockers, sued to overturn the law; 18 states signed court arguments in favor of the law, and 17 states signed arguments against it.

A lower federal court also ruled against the law, and the two court rulings against it can now be cited as a legal precedent to help other trans girls play sports. However, Arizona could also appeal the decision to be heard by an 11-judge panel on the appeals court or ask the U.S. Supreme Court to rule on the matter.

“A student’s transgender status is not an accurate proxy for athletic ability and competitive advantage,” said Rachel Berg, a lawyer with the National Center for Lesbian Rights who represented the two girls in court. “Our clients are thrilled to be able to continue to play on girls’ sports teams with their friends while this case proceeds to trial.”"

-via LGBTQ Nation, September 10, 2024

"Haha I'm a trans man but I'm in a male dominate field so I delayed my transition!" So you were shamed into staying closeted. How is that funny.

The idea that trans men and afab enbies need to misgender themselves so they can be used as objects for cis women's rights will always be transphobia and a gateway into terf rhetoric.

Is this real, though? This sounds like op made up a guy, I have never heard anything like this from anyone.

I was referencing this post, which I had seen minutes before I made this:

But other than that, yes it happens, all the time? Trans men and many nonbinary people are pressured to stay in the closet to not lose friends, to keep their scholarships, to retain jobs, to be able to stay in certain programs or schools, just because they find their transition embarrassing or "a blow to feminism," etc, and it's sometimes seen as "stealing resources from women" when they transition. Like the post I'm referencing, it's often presented as a joke, I just don't find it funny to admit that your support systems are so bad you think not transitioning is a win.

hell im a trans man thats fairly visibly queer, have my ID updated with my sex, and my dream since i was a kid was to get into engineering, or be an electrician. so many programs or unions or sponsorships or scholarships in the city i live in are specifically focused on getting more women into STEM/trades. i do not pass as a woman, my identification and records all state that im male, but i am still trans. i still have to deal with a lot of barriers to get into these fields.

but i end up having to ask whether i should misgender or out myself with every application. i dont get the respect that a (cis, abled, white, straight, middle to upper class) man otherwise would but im also not easily considered as a diversity hire. i keep wondering if i made a mistake by transitioning before applying for these things. i keep thinking about how my aptitude for engineering was praised as some feminist girlboss thing until i transitioned and somehow none of that wwas remarkable anymore.

Fun fact, trans men and nonbinary people earn 70 cents for every dollar a typical worker earns. So the idea that trans men are "privileged" when entering a field is bullshit.

In Aotearoa the wage gap for trans people of all genders is 50% and we have twice the unemployment rate as cis people :) Also while it didn't hold my transition back I've absolutely felt guilty for no longer being a "women in STEM who's a role model to girls". There's no discussion of the importance of trans people in STEM and oppositional sexism means that women are discouraged from being "inspired" by trans men because obviously as men we could never have anything in common with women.

[ID: a tweet by solioli (@/SoliSolstice) that reads: "i like being trans because i like being me". End ID.]

The progression from "I don't think afab people can be transfem" to "I don't think intersex people can be trans" is absolutely fascinating to watch unfold

Alternatively, it can also go from "I don't think afab people can be transfem" to "Intersex people existing is an inherent threat to trans people" which is scary to watch unfold

Like the amount of shit I've gotten about me "sounding like conservative propaganda" because I've talked about my experiences with being coersively reassigned male and being put on hormones. Or me having a complicated relationship with my sex and gender being used to call me a T*RF.

If you're wondering, the progression of logic that I've personally witnessed is:

Intersexists: "Afab people can't be transfem and amab people can't be transmasc because you can't transition to a gender you are socially recognized as"

Intersex people: "Actually intersex people sometimes aren't socially recognized as their agab or are reassigned a different sex later in life, meaning they have to socially transition to the gender they identify as, even if it aligns with their agab"

Intersexists: "That isn't what trans is, trans means you transition from your agab to a different gender. Not being recognized by society as the gender you identify as isn't what trans is."

Intersex people: "This leaves out the nuances of how intersex people experience both sex and gender. Intersex people can't categorize our gender and labels the same way perisex trans people do because of this nuance."

Intersexists: "Then intersex people shouldn't use the label trans."

Essentially, this stems from the prioritization of the perisex trans experience. The perisex trans experience and perisex voices are seen as The Truth and intersex people are seen as perverting the meaning behind the words that perisex trans people have made. But what this leaves out is that there have always been intersex people in the trans community. We've always been here and all you're doing is implying that "trans" and "intersex" are two mutually exclusive labels.

The argument that transness is based on agab is inherently intersexist and prioritizes perisex trans people, it is intersex erasure.

Another addition:

I think this logic also stems from the idea that afab/amab intersex people are simply "females/males who aren't considered female/male" but a lot of intersex people don't consider their physical sex to align with either female or male.

Like, yeah intersex isn't a 3rd sex but we aren't just "females and males with intersex variations" either. It's a lot more complicated than that and, again, there's a lot of nuance that varies from person to person.

If an intersex person does not consider their "natural physical sex" (for lack of better wording) to be female/male but they want to transition to a body that is female/male because of dysphoria then why shouldn't they be accepted under the trans label? Doesn't this align with the experiences of other altersex and transsexual people?

"Afab" doesn't mean "physically female", same with amab. People need to stop using these labels as a more progressive way to talk about what someone's "biological sex" is.

Keep in mind I’m a cis woman writing this.

So I was debating posting this but I think it needs to be said.

So I’m a student teacher and this week, we started at a new school district. Now I won’t presume to begin to pretend that I know what everyone’s political ideologies are in this school district but keep in mind that it’s in rural New York State and rural New York State tends to run red. Not as red as some other places but definitely not blue and not even really purple. 

Anyway yesterday was my first ever professional development day. So I’m all dressed up, introducing myself to other teachers, and I shake hands with the superintendent who seems like a really nice guy.

And about halfway through the day, he goes up to the front of the theater and he starts talking about the best ways to talk to and help transgender/nonbinary students. It’s the basic things we all learn in our education classes. And you can tell that he’s a bit uncomfortable and so are some of the teachers. And at last, he stops and says, “Folks, I have to be honest. My father is rolling in his grave right now.”

And I’m in the back like, “Oh no.”

And so he pauses again and then he starts implying that he was raised to have a very negative opinion on the transgender community. And he continues to say that he had to unlearn a lot in the past few decades and then he admitted that he still doesn’t get it. He outright admitted that he personally doesn’t understand how someone comes to the conclusion that they’re not their assigned gender. And he admits that of course he doesn’t because he’s never had to go through that.

Another pause.

And then he says, “But I don’t have to get it.”

The theater fills with whispers and then he says [and I’m paraphrasing here], “I don’t have to get it. I don’t even have to agree with it. Because it doesn’t matter what I think or what I feel or what my beliefs are. At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is that I respect that student and I respect their choice.”

And then he reminded the teachers of every single policy that the school district follows from letting any student use their bathroom of choice to changing the students’ names per the students’ requests to not telling the parents anything unless the student gives consent to do so.

And at the end, he brought it back by saying, “My father just rolled in his grave again. But it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter what you think, it doesn’t matter what you believe, because it’s not about you. It’s about your kids. And you need to love your kids! Love your kids! Love your kids!”

Long story short, this looks like it’s going to be a good placement.

love your kids!! love your kids!!!

‘You don’t have to get it’ is the most important and (apparently) most difficult lesson to learn, alongside ‘this is not about you.’

i remade this poll bc i forgot the option for cis people. go wild

most trans people who people like to call "non transitioning" actually do transition, but people don't want to acknowledge that not all transition is medical

changing your hair is transition

deciding to shave or grow your body hair is transition

doing something different with make up is transition

changing your new wardrobe is transition

changing your name is transition

changing your pronouns is transition

coming out to people is transition

even just accepting your own transness without telling anyone else is transition, as it changes how you see yourself

it's almost impossible to be trans and truly non transitioning, even if that transition might be non medical, non visible or entirely self contained

all kinds of transition are valid.

there are also things that aren't necessarily associated with transition that an individual may consider to be part of their transition, like working out to make their body look different, getting piercings and tattoos and so much more

there are so many ways of transitioning besides surgery and hormones

"non transitioning nonbinary/trans person" is just code for "i don't consider your transition to be real because it doesn't fully fit into what cis people expect"

"some parents would rather have a non transitioning trans child than one who does" like yeah no shit. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child who doesn't come out, doesn't change anything about themself. not their name, not their pronouns, not their hair or wardrobe. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child who never talks about being trans so their parents can pass them off as cis. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child that is in the closet. of course a lot of parents would rather have a trans child who stays in the closet so they don't have to deal with their transness. but you all mean "non transitioning" as in "not medically transitioning" and that's not true either. trans people get kicked out of their house for doing as little as changing their pronouns. and if you say you're doing literally anything as part of your transition/because you're trans, people will absolutely give you shit for it, while a cis person can do the same thing and it's no biggie. social transition is not accepted at all.

there are some weird trans people out there who will completely dismiss people's life saving transition steps as "non transitioning" because they don't fit cis ideas of transness, it's disgusting

when i say "transition" i'm always including medical transition and social transition, as well as anything else an individual may consider part of their transition that doesn't necessarily fit into the two boxes

also can we stop acting like social transition isn't also constantly under attack

transmisc. transmiscellaneous.

fat trans ppl deal with a lot of shit and its so sucky because some people will only support skinny trans ppl bc thats all they can conceptualize and accept when trans ppl in actuality come in all different types of bodies

if u dont support fat trans ppl the way u support skinny trans ppl u need to rethink what kind of “ally” u are.

As a fat trans woman this is so true even within the trans community. I’ve had so many other trans women invalidate me, be dismissive of my issues and experience, and so forth simply because of my size. It’s really fucking disappointing to run into.

Y’all should check out the works of Rakeem Cunningham! He photographs a lot of diverse and beautiful people, both cis and trans. As a gay trans man myself, they really help to reassure me that there are gay men beyond photogenic cis twinks and bears. These photographs are from his series Body Pride:

These are from his Trans Professionals series:

Also, check out Jess T Dugan’s photographs of trans and genderqueer people:

As a trans photographer, Jess Dugan is basically my role model. Her photos of elder trans people, To Survive On This Shore, is amazing.