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me: *writes fic*

me: great! time to post to ao3-

ao3 summary box: *exists*

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Ooh, this is actually kinda a neat thing, because you can think of it as a checklist:

For example:

Thus, in less than 100 words:

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The Anatomy of Story by John Truby is a really good book by the by, if anyone’s interested in this sort of thing.

This is super helpful!’

I couldn't have said it better myself.

As a 30 year old man who escaped the Alt-right pipeline, you're not going to be happy about the answer.

All I hear from leftists is how much they hate me for my immutable traits, how much they blame me for everything wrong with the world, how much they want me and everyone who looks like me dead.

Whereas Alt-right types would call me "brother" and welcome me into their ranks so long as I hated the right ways.

Do you understand the difference?

I'm an ally and support equality because I feel it's the morally correct choice to make, but holy fuck is it difficult to reconcile that with the fact that means fighting for a lot of people who see you as the scum of the earth.

Read this and then read it again and then read some fucking bell hooks because this is a legitimate problem on the left.

"To create loving men, we must love males. Loving maleness is different from praising and rewarding males for living up to sexist-defined notions of male identity. Caring about men because of what they do for us is not the same as loving males for simply being." - bell hooks, The Will to Change https://bellhooksbooks.com/product/the-will-to-change/

On twitter I’m seeing dozens of threads from Black activists warning people against burnout, giving all sorts of useful tips about preventing and managing it for the sake of a long-term, sustainable effort.

On tumblr I’m seeing a hell of a lot of young white kids yelling at anyone who actually follows those steps, and acting like burnout is a moral falling rather than a well-proven psychological phenomenon.

Be careful who you get your information from. Don’t let guilt lead you to make choices that will harm both you and the movement.

I’m going to reblog this again since I see more individuals are inquiring about burnout prevention tips in the notes and it’s why I sought out this resource. I hope it helps you!

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Hey, I wanna talk about how we do fandom! I've come to realize that I, personally, tend to differ from many others in that I highly prefer to only engage with a text as it's written, so I don't tend to really like fanon/extremely ooc characterizations and I find it hard to get invested in ships that aren't canon. My way of doing fandom isn't better or worse than anyone else's, but I am curious about how much of a minority I'm in! So:

*We've all seen ships of characters not from the same media and stuff like shipping the concept of ennui with the color blue, okay, I'm asking what you, personally, find compelling!

The ship doesn't have to be canon, they don't have to be from the same media, but it should be mostly true to characterization. Sometimes you just pick a toy from one box and pick another toy from another set and know they need to play together, OK?

I'm mostly the same; I care most about characterization & exploring "what ifs" -- putting the pieces together in different ways and seeing what happens. I usually like to stick to characters within one media or universe though.

Why is there a winky face as the last option???? I didn't add that???? What does this mean????

If winky face wins I don't even know how to interpret what that means. Eyes? Wattle?? Please leave a comment with your theories.

Chicken equivalent of this expression?

Shit, I have a cursed idea, can you bother me when you see this?

Henpai has noticed you ...

Why is there a winky face as the last option???? I didn't add that???? What does this mean????

If winky face wins I don't even know how to interpret what that means. Eyes? Wattle?? Please leave a comment with your theories.

I have a theory

Be honest 🔫

I gotta settle a debate between me and two of my siblings:

"we want to protect the kids!!"

— in a way that will also protect them from their parents & guardians right?

"what"

— if a parent or guardian wanted to abuse their child, would what you're trying to do make it harder for them?

"..."

— *pulls out a chart that shows 76% of abused children were victimized by a parent or legal guardian* will what you're advocating for make it easier for the majority child abusers, which is overwhelmingly parents & guardians, to get away with abuse?

"idk what this has to do with anything we just want to restrict children's freedoms more & give parents more control over them. you know. to protect them from adults who want to abuse them"

Every. Single. Time.

I saw a post like this before my son was born, it really stuck with me. We tell him "If something happens to you or someone else that seems wrong, tell an adult. Your parents, aunties/uncles, teachers etc. And if it doesn't seem like they're listening you keep telling people until things are ok. Even if it's about dad. Even if it's about me." We tell him "no one should make kids keep secrets." if he gets hurt by accident we never tell him "don't tell your teacher, they'll think we're hurting you" If I have to explain myself to them, that's my problem, not his. It's scary, it means a mistake could hurt our family, but it's better than someone else hurting him in secret. and in the long run it's helped us. He comes to me if he doesn't like something Dad did, and vice versa. It lets us talk it out, give and get context. the other day he told me the dog smelled funny and was licking his butt a lot. I brushed him off "dogs are like that sometimes" so he told Dad, we took a look at the dog and he did need help (easy fix he's doing great now)

dear people with OCD: the next time you have spiraling & intrusive thoughts, what-ifs, or catastrophizing scenarios, I am sending a cardigan-wearing 46-year old NYU professor directly into your brain and he says "Aaaaand scene!!!" and he claps his hands slowly. and he says "Wow. Wow. Powerful stuff. Evocative imagery. A little bit post-modern, a little bit hysterical realism in the vein of Don Delilo but let's pause right here." and you will recognize your thoughts as a perplexing avant-garde film shown to an audience of 15 liberal arts students who are now trying to get a good grade and sleep with their professor.

I almost posted this without the professor-fucking part but I decided that it is in fact crucial to combating OCD. sometimes you have to fight fire with fire i.e. spiraling thoughts with strong negative emotions get countered with strongly emotive surprise, cringe, and humor

sometimes the OCD brain can't just be stopped from fantasizing completely, but you can redirect that anxious mental energy toward crafting a fictional setup and story that doesn't involve you or your fears at all

another thing I do is interrupt intrusive thoughts with a very conscious and deliberate "and then an elephant walks in." and I'd make myself commit to the bit. it would force me to reframe everything and specifically understand it in an absurdist context, make me confront how ridiculous the initial thoughts even were, and there is honestly no way to keep being serious and distraught about your what-if scenarios when you've introduced a fucking elephant into the mix. film studies professor is also that elephant.

so it goes from scary thoughts about my life -> step back. this is a weird fictional film now. -> characters are analyzing the film -> those characters are super messy and have their own problems, and I'm watching them now and eating popcorn at this soap opera

This is purely out of curiosity, but I was wondering if people prefer using dark or light mode on a computer or a phone. I, personally, immediately switch to dark mode whenever I get the chance, because it's easier on my eyes.

I would've said depends on the app/website, (eg. youtube & discord are always darkmode, some others are always light mode) but mostly it depends on the time of day; I generally prefer light mode while the sun is up, and dark mode at night, and I have my devices set to reflect this. I also have my devices set to turn off all blue light at night, but that's slightly beside the point.

none pizza with left beef

It should be a rule of Tumblr to always reblog none pizza with left beef

ive missed you

It’s real

The legends were true

>video claiming to be essay/history on a topic

>ask them if its analysis or summary

>they dont understand

>pull out detailed chart explaining what's analyzing the ideas and motives behind a text and what is just presenting information without thinking about it

>"it's a good video, ma'am"

>watch it

>summary

this hit me like a truck

You know, that Mythbusters post legitimately changed my life. Before seeing it, I had exponentially more guilt and stress about not being able to sleep, which of course, further exacerbated my inability to sleep.

Now, every time I wake up about three am, knowing I have to get up at 6.45, instead of stressing and panicking about how my day is going to be sleep deprived and miserable, I just tell myself 'Time to activate Mythbusters Protocol' and lie there with my eyes closed safe in the knowledge that I am measurably reducing later feelings of exhaustion.

And when this happens, about 70% of the time the reduction of guilt and stress means I actually do fall back asleep, so all in all instead of getting only three or four hours sleep, I get five to six and a half.

Which y'know, major improvement in health and energy.

On a related note, that post also opened up the world of naps for me. I used to think that napping was mostly pointless for me, because I'm pretty much incapable of falling fully asleep in the middle of the day. But when I redefined naps to include "lying down with my eyes shut for an hour," even if I just spent the whole time brainstorming fanfiction, that was often enough to get me from "exhausted and running on 4 hours of sleep" to energized and refreshed

The post (?) as found on Reddit with bonus explanatory Reddit comment.