I don’t want you to be waiting, to be sitting there hoping for me to arrive. No, you are so much more than me, you have a life that is full of meaning and beauty. I don’t want you to leave your canvas blank because you think I’ll be the paint, for you are the paint to your own canvas, you are being made into something wonderful. Don’t dream of me, and forget to live your own wonderful life, because I’ll meet you one day, and we’ll have so much to catch up on. One day, you can take me through the museum that is your life, and I will fall in love with all the stories that lay within those walls. So don’t wait for me, because you and I will start a new life when the time is right, but for now, love the story you are in; I know I will.
T.B. LaBerge // Unwritten Letters to You (via tblaberge)
In Jesus’ day, the Jewish marriage custom required that the groom go to the bride’s father and establish a price for gaining his bride. The father and future husband sealed the covenant with a cup shared between them. The groom would them leave for a lengthy period, returning to his father’s home where he prepared an apartment that would become their home. Then, without announcement, when everything was finally ready and the wedding feast prepared, he would leave his father’s home and walk through the streets of the town to receive his bride and take her home. Needless to say, there was no time to prepare herself for the great celebration if she waited to hear the shouts in the streets. Given that her hope was fixed on that day, she had already prepared herself in anticipation of his coming for her.
Before you met Kyle, were you ever scared you would always be single? Do you have any advice for someone who feels that way?
I could write a book on all the feelings I went through while I was single! Absolutely I felt that way at times. I was single for 25 years before my first dating relationship, and that was the only other romantic relationship before I met Kyle, who is my husband now! I love him so much, and I know God brought us together ultimately for His purposes, but also to love, encourage, and support each other in life.
I have a lot of encouragement for you. As a lifelong journal writer, there’s a treasury of the history of emotions and thoughts I processed between me and God during my years of singleness.
After my break-up, which was truly heartbreaking for me at the time, I began a journal titled “On the way to hope.” Here is one of the entries from it, maybe you’ll find yourself identifying with how I felt, scrawling at 2:02am on February 2nd of 2015:
“Dear love,
I have felt myself giving up. I want to believe love could happen again in my life, but I do not see it.
Some nights I just wish you were here.
I wish you could pray with me,
I wish you could let me rest against you and be at home with my head against your heart.
I will wait for you, for God’s wise timing.
I will be so thankful for you.
Not just because I want a man in my life, but also because I want a man in my life to love, support, serve, honor, respect, share life with.
I want to care deeply about someone and be free to, and be loved wholly back.
Right now it’s hard to have hope.
Not just for love, but for a (new) job, a home, a family (someday). But just like Abraham, against all hope, I will believe.
Our Heavenly Father cares so much for us. I love Him, He loves you, He loves me- so much.
I’m writing to let you know that when my hope feels the lowest, I am choosing hope still.
I am going to hope.
Hope is alive in me. For you, for love, for God’s provision, for good to come.
God will not forsake me; He promised.
I am praying for you tonight. I don’t know who you are, where you’re at, when we will meet, but love- I believe you exist and we will one day know and be together. I’m trusting God.
I love you.
♥ Breanna
My eyes began tearing up as I re-wrote these longings of single Breanna reaching out with her wishes for the man I now get to love, kiss, hold every day for the rest of our days. He’s here. He prays with me. He lets me rest against him. I feel at home with my head against his heart. I waited for him, for God’s timing. I am so thankful for him. It’s truly beautiful.
But it was God that led us both together, and God who had the perfect timing. If we had met at any other time than we God crossed our paths, neither would have been ready for each other. We probably would not have been available to each other or even been interested! Seriously, God’s timing is perfect. You can trust that. You want to trust that.
Keep looking to God. Or, begin. Because He is the answer. In the lonely moments, in the moments of desire and longing, in the prayers and even midnight tears of wanting, God hears. He cares. He knows what is in your heart. Those desires are not wrong.
I could write so much more, but hopefully, this speaks to you enough to choose hope. Keep your hope in God’s love for you. Singleness is a beautiful time to be alone with Him and I hope that you find great joy and peace and comfort in Him. He is faithful. He is good. He loves you. Choose to hope.
“And hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.”
We find out some big news on Friday. A lot of hanging in the balance until we know yes or no on this one. Thankful for peaceful mornings where we can just trust what God has for us. We've been married less than three months and already, it has been such an adventure. We are so blessed! #home #morninglight #coffee #freshbrew #lightshines #marriedlife #waiting #trusting #interior
Happy August! I’m so grateful to God for His guidance in this season of life. I’ve been seeking & trusting Him fully the past two months since the end of my steady income right before our wedding and navigating where to invest myself next. I’ve prayed and waited a lot. I’ve said no to opprotunities (twice!) after feeling led that was the best decision- and both times it got confirmed back that was the right decision, too. That is so awesome to be obedient to what God shows you and see Him teach me to be patient for what He DOES have. Saying no isn’t easy when you do need money and aren’t sure where or when you will get any. I’m thankful for my husband’s support and that he trusted God with me even during times we wanted to worry about finances. It’s amazing seeing how simply saying NO to worry and putting our faith in the truth that God cares and will provide for our needs actually allowed us to experience His faithfulness to prove: yes, He will! Like checks in the mail coming later for our wedding- but the perfect timing to get us through and have our needs met. God knew ahead of time -even when we didn’t- what was in store. Now all of the sudden everything is happening! I have 3 awesome opprotunities, 2 beginning this week, and MORE happening (for both of us) that’s a mystery at this point, but exciting to think what God will bring about of it. He is so good to us and I am grateful. #praise #life #provision
The Lord is not slow in keeping His promise, as some understand slowness. Instead He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.
I do know that waiting on God requires the willingness to bear uncertainty, to carry within oneself the unanswered question, lifting the heart to God about it whenever it intrudes upon one’s thoughts. Its easy to talk oneself into a decision that has no permanence – easier sometimes than to wait patiently.
Our timing, more often than not, does not align with His. We say five years, He says tomorrow. We say today, He says, "Wait on Me." Obedience through trust must be learned. Patience is an outflow from love. The heart that loves and is nourished by His love resolves to be patient - fully trusting that He knows best; and He does. He really does.
"I’m often asked how I remain patient with God’s plan for my life when I’m still single. I’ve talked so much about it, it’s no secret—eventually I want to get married. The truth is that there have been many moments when I’ve been tired of waiting for the right guy to arrive. My mum challenged me once. “You need to let go and trust God with this,” she said. I started tearing up. She was right. I asked, “How do you let go of something so important?”
Relinquishing this to God has been quite a process, but I don’t want anything for myself that God doesn’t want for me. Where are the joy and abundant life in settling for something that He doesn’t desire for my life? Releasing this was incredibly freeing. I still believe God will grant me this desire, but I will trust God either way. Until you come to that place of abandonment, the grass always looks greener on the other side. If you can’t surrender something of such importance, the danger is that when it comes you will cling to it and suffocate it, and you may end up hurting the very thing you have longed for. I now feel that I will be able to go into marriage as a whole person. A better prayer than “God, when will You bring the special guy into my life?” is “God, I don’t know what You have in mind for my future … but I await whatever it is expectantly, knowing that You know me better than I even know myself.” I don’t want any less than what God has in mind. I want the best that He has in mind."
"Single women, you don’t have to wait on the perfect man to start living. God isn’t waiting to move in your life. He’s working now... We weren’t created to be just wives and girlfriends. We were created to be God’s daughter. Singleness isn’t a place for waiting. God’s work and plan for you starts now no matter what your relationship status is. I had to realize that God wasn’t working through my singleness to just make me a better wife. He was working to make me His."
What do I do here in the waiting?What do I do with my unsatisfied heart?What do I do here in the waiting?Here in the tension of believing again and again and again
‘Cause there’s a lackThere’s a gap in my soulBetween the things That I believe and I know
Holy SpiritYou who fill all and allCome and fill meHoly Spirit, come hold me together
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